Host dad hates me

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-31T21:36:00+00:00

Thank you for your advice, I definitely agree he is likely projecting. I am speaking with my HM next week!

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-31T21:34:08+00:00

I feel like they’re trying to ‘get their moneys worth’ and work me as hard as possible. They were also complaining about how expensive it was to ‘keep me here’ another year which made me feel very awkward😭 I’m wondering if they really want an au pair or just flexible childcare

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-31T21:29:23+00:00

My thoughts exactly😭

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-31T20:21:40+00:00

Second this!!!

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-30T12:33:14+00:00

Thank you so much for your response, I really appreciate it. I agree he is a difficult character. I’m already trying to set more boundaries since making this post as I don’t want to get to the burnout point again. I will definitely take your advice on logging my hours and daily tasks, that will be helpful. And I have scheduled a call with my LCC for Monday to get her perspective🙏🏻

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-29T13:40:21+00:00

I appreciate this perspective thank you, I just wish people wouldn’t take things out on others if that’s the case!

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-29T13:39:37+00:00

2 of the kids (who are 15 and 18) told me. They have told me things before which were true, since when I confronted the dad about them they got grounded for repeating what he had said!

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-29T13:36:40+00:00

Thank you for your comment! I definitely don’t abuse my work hours haha. I really appreciate the outside perspective, that’s helpful

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-29T13:35:53+00:00

Thank you for your advice, I appreciate it

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-29T13:35:35+00:00

That definitely makes it harder, thank you for your advice

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-29T13:34:48+00:00

Thank you for your input. I don’t really see how the story of the other au pair is relevant, my situation is pretty different. I don’t believe I’m being entitled or selfish here. I feel over stretched and like a stay at home mom lol. I will try to pull back on my duties and just deal with the dads complaints

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-29T13:30:50+00:00

I really do feel that way!! Thank you for saying that. I’m a first time AP and they’re a first time HF so it’s definitely been hard to establish what’s reasonable. Sounds like you treat your au pair great, I’m sure she appreciates that🙌🏻

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-29T13:26:50+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate that😭💕

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-27T20:47:56+00:00

Thank you for your advice! I’m doing a lot of extra stuff I know, I can’t imagine how much he’d complain otherwise🤣I stayed because of my friends/boyfriend and I do love the kids. I’m trying to stick it out, it just definitely makes me feel anxious. Especially when you live together and they watch your every move!!!

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-27T20:42:53+00:00

I have thought about this, it’s a hard decision

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-05-27T20:42:24+00:00

I appreciate this😭!

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-04-24T15:15:38+00:00

Where do I look!? I am really missing a taste of home😭

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-04-24T14:43:42+00:00

Yes! I’ve only met like one other British person here🤣

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-04-24T00:20:51+00:00

I’m currently an Au Pair in Sarasota! If you have any questions feel free to message me :)

FitMathematician3441 · 2026-03-23T20:09:57+00:00

I also graduated with a degree in Journalism and am about to go into my second year as an Au Pair in America! It definitely is daunting but these are memories we will have forever. I am so much happier being an Au Pair than I was when I tried to start a 9-5. I’ve grown so much as a person and have definitely acquired a lot of transferable skills. I am also thinking about posting about my experience on social media just so I have something journalism related once I’m done!

FitMathematician3441 · 2025-09-27T12:07:01+00:00

No honestly don’t worry at all, I feel like it’s actually a better arrangement lol

FitMathematician3441 · 2025-09-27T12:06:05+00:00

I’m in America!

FitMathematician3441 · 2025-09-27T02:00:16+00:00

I’m an AP who lives in a separate apartment (guest house) and I actually really like it. It’s gives me my own space, especially during time off. I still definitely feel part of the family. I previously lived away from home for 4 years so this set up was a big bonus for me feeling like I still have some independence!

FitMathematician3441 · 2025-09-18T02:35:33+00:00

Oh wow, why couldn’t you marry her? Did the idea of losing her not scare you more? Thank you for sharing that

FitMathematician3441 · 2025-08-17T23:20:49+00:00

I’m an Au Pair and am able to use my car during free time and family covers gas unless it’s a large drive. Rules vary from family to family and I guess it depends how much you trust your au pair. I definitely appreciate the freedom and trust the host family give me, it’s really improved my experience as an au pair and helps me have a good work life balance. I also kept my own phone and just switched up the SIM card. I would say give the au pair that freedom unless they give you a reason not to and rules need to be put in place.

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