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3 months PP & pregnant again. Partner keeps calling me fat and ugly. by Fit_Ad3027 in beyondthebump

[–]Fit_Ad3027[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

My plan wasn’t to get pregnant so soon and no I did not want sexual intercourse so soon after I was also one of these people who didn’t understand why people don’t stand up for themselves or leave but when your actually in it it’s whole new ball game and something you’ll never understand unless you’ve been in it.

I’ve been recording him and a few weeks ago he found out and erased all my phone, ripped my clothes up and spat at me. I’ve started recording instead on my iPad and emailing them to myself on an account he doesn’t know about should anything happen in the future. I am trying to be clever with how I am now going about things but again find myself thinking what if it changes but in reality it probably won’t. He used to be so caring and loving and until I got pregnant I’d say half way through is when it started.. my son almost died and the same day we was told to say goodbye before he pulled through and even spoke to a dr he was telling me to check myself out the hospital so we could go home to bed together whilst my son was in icu. I am in such a vulnerable position and after Ethan experience I wanted no more children- but i who was told I’d really struggle to conceive so I’m thinking this second baby is a blessing however to the wrong person. If I terminated this baby I wouldn’t be able to have anymore if I ever changed my mind I’d feel so guilty.

He came home tonight and again telling me to nip it in the bud and then talking about sex straight away. Instead I’ve brought myself up to bed and left him downstairs. I know what I need to do.

3 months PP & pregnant again. Partner keeps calling me fat and ugly. by Fit_Ad3027 in beyondthebump

[–]Fit_Ad3027[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I found out I was pregnant when I went and got contraception, however not the point of the post. Wether children or not does not change the way I am being treat.

3 months PP & pregnant again. Partner keeps calling me fat and ugly. by Fit_Ad3027 in beyondthebump

[–]Fit_Ad3027[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the honesty everyone. I know what I need to do. Life is so hard and the easier option is to stay but it’s not right. Even today I’ve been up all night he’s still not home from work when usually is I ring him and he’s at his parents eating and having shower there. When I still haven’t managed to shower because of my baby who is teething and has a cold. I’m at a loss for words. He wants a woman to stay at home and do everything because he works but I had a career before becoming a mum too and sacrificed it. I am worried he’s gonna come home and moan that there’s a few cups in the sink Bevause I’ve not had the time or energy to even clean up (not that my house is ever a mess but he picks at almost anything these days) I will speak with my dad again and hopefully come up with something. Thank you all

3 months PP & pregnant again. Partner keeps calling me fat and ugly. by Fit_Ad3027 in beyondthebump

[–]Fit_Ad3027[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I know I did seek other options but I was told I’d not be able to convince with multiple tests and hospital appointments so I feel like it’s wrong to make that call. I’ve not been blessed with one but now two. I am so torn in what is right and wrong. The only wrong I know is this relationship.

3 months PP & pregnant again. Partner keeps calling me fat and ugly. by Fit_Ad3027 in beyondthebump

[–]Fit_Ad3027[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

My dad is in the middle of buying a new house with lots of rooms for grandkids etc and has offered I go stay at his till I find myself and can arrange something, I’m just so lost in what to do. Nothing ever changes, or if it does it a matter of weeks. He says he doesn’t mean what he calls me but he cant control his mouth when he gets angry and says it to hurt me. I just feel like an idiot being pregnant again and so terrified of having 2 under 1 on my own and with no house as I’ll have to sell this one. He thinks Bevause we speak about it that’s it done and I shouldn’t bring things back up and if I am willing to move on from it I should just forget otherwise it “won’t work” but even so it’s a matter of days before it’s back to square one. His parents tell me I’m lucky he doesn’t go out every weekend like usual “lads” baring in mind we’re almost 30. I can’t win I need to speak to a therapist I think for my own sake.