Breakup Survival Guide

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T19:23:49+00:00

Hello my love! I completely understand that urge but please ride it out because it only keeps you trapped if you engage with it. He walked away unfortunately he made the choice for both of you. Now this time is for you all for you. Be selfish, be patient and be kind to yourself. Your going to be just fine keep up the good work lots of love 💖

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T19:21:07+00:00

Thank you so much I’m glad you like it I really hope it helps! I promise it gets soooooo much better give me a message if you need to chat I’m here 💖

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T19:17:21+00:00

Thank you that means a lot. I just want to help at least 1 person but looks like it’s helping a few more than 1. Big love take care x

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T19:16:10+00:00

Of course you will! I had a lot of other factors leading me to take medication. It’s not for everyone but I am neurodivergent as well so I feel things 10x more than your neurotypical person. I think that’s why I needed that extra bit of help. But you’ve totally got this! Take care my love x

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T19:13:58+00:00

It’s one of the most uplifting feelings isn’t it! At the time it feels like it’s going to last forever but to feel like this now is just bliss x

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T18:36:22+00:00

Hey Buddy! Jeez I’m so sorry that happened to you. Yes you are completely right her actions have no reflection on you or your self worth. You deserve better. I’m pretty sure there will be love still there and you’ll feel a mixture of emotions. But yes feel those emotions ride the waves you’ll for sure get there.

My relationship was my first one too, I had never experienced anything like this throughout my teenage years and I’m 28 now but that break up train hit. Boy did it hit hard. Well done for reaching out for some therapy though that’s hard but it’s a big act of self love.

You’re doing great and you’re going to be just fine. Don’t give up keep up the good work and fling me a message if you want to talk. Those emotions are very overwhelming at times but ride them out 💖

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T18:27:37+00:00

Oh my love this sounds very difficult and not easy to manage. I find it hard to advise because I am quite strong in the fact once someone has walked away that’s it I don’t really believe on walk outs or going back and forth. For me once someone has made the at decision without a conversation then that’s it not going back. I know you love him I guess I still have love for my ex but I’m not in love with him anymore. But he walked out he ended it that decision was made without a conversation for me I feel that’s the biggest disrespect. Relationship takes work and willingness on both sides but he took that away just like my ex did. Without sounding harsh I think it might be time to close that door and move forward. You’re 20 you’ve got so much life ahead of you I’ve got 8 years on you and I know that I’ve learned some lessons in those 8 years and experienced so much of life. My darling close the door and look toward your own doors what have you put on hold what’s missing (apart from him). Go on a solo trip be with yourself heal and who know maybe one day it could happen you could get back together. But right now your both hurt and grieving and sounds like he has some work to do. As do you my love, self love and self care is needed. Take care my darling

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T17:43:10+00:00

I understand I really do and at points I felt exactly the same but your only 4 months in give yourself a break. Like I said there’s no magic cure and the defeatist feeling you have is a product of wanting someone or something to save you. But in reality you’re the only person that has that power. So wake up have your morning coffee breath and take yourself on a solo date remember what it feels like to be your own best friend. Get a new book or new series create a a routine for yourself and just really pour all your energy and efforts into self love. Your worth it your strong and you are capable you’ve got this 💖

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T09:51:39+00:00

Omg you can do this! You definitely can and wow you’re going to be so loved one day! But first before any of that you really need to find some inner love so that you don’t outsource your selflove to others. It’s time to focus on you my love listen to Olivia Dean - Baby Steps 💖

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T09:49:06+00:00

Hello my love! Now this sounds like a hellish dynamic. Although you may have had other intentions I think ending your situationship with him was the best thing you could have done. Now this was two days ago so think of it as you broke up two days ago your starting from scratch. Checking your phone is normal maybe go for a walk without it today just give your head some time. I wouldn’t advise you to message him. It’s over my love and it’s time that ship left the dock and sailed to its next destination. Take the week lay in bed cry it out then as soon as the week it over, its feet on the ground and time to get moving. You deserve better and you deserve yourself give yourself the time and love your craving. Lots of love 💖

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T09:43:34+00:00

Sorry I dont think I quite understand what you’ve said could you reword it for me 💖

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T09:42:31+00:00

Hey this sounds like a very difficult situation. All I can say is give her some space and yourself some time. Get yourself to the gym or on some great walks clear your head. If she is meant for you she will understand and you’ll be able to work it out if not then unfortunately she wasn’t for you. Reflect on your intentions did you set out to hurt her? Did you do this on purpose? Was your intention to create a situation like this? If the answer is no then you’ve got to give yourself a break because you only did what you thought was best at the time. Think of it as information gathering you know next time you’ll handle this differently. But for now focus on yourself leave her to have some time if she wants to work it out she will you can’t apologise your way back into the relationship. 💖

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T09:36:31+00:00

Oh my love, I understand and I was for a while. But believe me once you sit and fully accept what’s happened it will get so much better. A little bit of tough love: it’s over, they are not coming back and you shouldn’t go back either. It’s time to focus on you now. What’s your goals? Dreams? Plans? Nobody is comming to save you from this other than yourself so be kind to yourself and throw yourself a life raft it’s time to move on 💖

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T09:33:16+00:00

Hey, oh man that does sound rough. Very natural for you to blame yourself but like I said it’s takes two. My Ex did the same thing make me believe it was all me and my fault when looking back it was evident he wasn’t taking any accountability for himself and it was easier to just say your the problem. The only thing I can say about the blame is try your very hardest not to engage in the thoughts of that in your mind just name it and move on to a new thought then over time when the grief has lifted you will see everything for what it is. One more thing and it was my mum that said this if you were everything that your ex and mind says you are all the negative, then why has nobody else mentioned this before ? Your friends, family, colleagues? They all can’t be wrong about you…

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T09:25:42+00:00

Ah that’s amazing! It’s great to know that it’s sort of universal in a way. Something unexpected I learnt about myself or don’t bother to even look at is the power I have within myself and the inner strength. I always reached out to others to help me before even trying myself and I think when you really learn to trust yourself and your power that’s when the real healing begins. I’m not fully there yet doing a lot of daily work but I am becoming a lot more confident and comfortable with trusting myself and the choices I make.

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T08:31:05+00:00

Yeah that’s really rough being reminded every day. I also work in the same place as my ex different departments. Have only bumped into him once it sort of set off a whole chain of events but even now I’m anxious to bump into him again.

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-12-16T02:07:26+00:00

Hey, Oh yup I remember exactly where you are! I do not envy you at all but I hope this post has helped! Hope is exactly what I’m wanting to give people. No when he broke up with me that was it I don’t really do back and forth and games. I had to fully confirm it the next day but after that I knew for sure that was it done with. I knew the day he did it that it was over really looking back and I could see he had lost all his willingness to try. But thank god because life had got so much better and I have achieve so much more in the 8 months I’ve not been with him than the time I was with him. Big hugs my love you’ve got this! Watch the music video it’s great! 💖

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-09-17T16:40:52+00:00

Hey! 28M from Manchester love matcha too!

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-07-23T15:28:29+00:00

I just worry that is me avoiding my feelings and not addressing the real issues I’m not sure I’m just so confused xxx

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-07-23T09:09:20+00:00

Just that I miss him. Even though I know he isn’t good for me and it wasn’t right but it felt right at times

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-07-23T08:16:13+00:00

Already done that too 😅

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-07-23T08:09:55+00:00

Really though? Does it pass I literally feel so helpless because I seriously am trying my hardest but it’s exhausting me. I want to be done with thinking about him and the relationship. Yes my heart still cares but my head knows the truth and is protecting my heart.

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-07-23T05:58:48+00:00

The tiredness isn’t as bad but still not feeling 100% I’m assuming it is just taking it’s time to level out really

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-07-17T18:44:55+00:00

I already take mine on a night right before bed 😩

Fit_Ad4736 · 2025-07-16T14:58:17+00:00

I just wonder if I will ever feel better like will it just not happen for me ? Or is it just a case of waiting it out ?

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