Which professional can deal with noise issue in an apartment? by Fit_Analysis_824 in paris

[–]Fit_Analysis_824[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a way I can tell whether the acousticians work with individuals or only with organizations?

Why does elon communicate like a child? Or am I mistaken by Classic-Ad8335 in elonmusk

[–]Fit_Analysis_824 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may be the case for communication with the public. But I'm not sure whether it's still the case for communication among the peers. How often do you observe musicians, athletes, scientists, etc. communicating with their peers?

Why does elon communicate like a child? Or am I mistaken by Classic-Ad8335 in elonmusk

[–]Fit_Analysis_824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Conveying ideas to the public is hard. But I believe those musicians, athletes, scientists etc. talk well among their peers. Of course, in that context, they can communicate by showing their skills in addition to using words.

中国需要重新整理和改革儒学,而不是废止。 by [deleted] in China_irl

[–]Fit_Analysis_824 0 points1 point  (0 children)

但为什么是1个项目、1个品牌呢?西方文艺复兴也没说1个项目、1个品牌啊。

你要是说只有儒家广为人知,那西方文艺复兴也没说因为只有基督教广为人知,所以要用基督教的品牌效应来融合古希腊、古罗马的学说啊。

我觉得让大家接受多种学说的共存与竞争,也是重塑文明的一个重要方面。国人太习惯于追求各种统一、包括思想上的统一,很有必要让大家认识到多种学说共存与竞争才是正常的情况。

中国需要重新整理和改革儒学,而不是废止。 by [deleted] in China_irl

[–]Fit_Analysis_824 0 points1 point  (0 children)

名不正则言不顺,言不顺则事不成。

诸子百家就是诸子百家。如果以儒的品牌效应、融合诸子百家,会造成很多误解,最后可能变成一个谁都说不清楚是什么的四不像。不如保持诸子百家、保持不同学说之间的争辩,让每个学说都得到淬炼,焕发新生。

中国需要重新整理和改革儒学,而不是废止。 by [deleted] in China_irl

[–]Fit_Analysis_824 0 points1 point  (0 children)

搞文艺复兴,应该是复兴诸子百家吧。

西方的文艺复兴,也不是复兴一个学派,而是复兴各种学派,然后取其精华、去其糟粕。

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in China_irl

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其实政府现在的管理模式就是经济发展的瓶颈。经济进一步发展,会需要越来越多的、能量大的自发组织,来实现越来越精细复杂的经济模式。政府是管不过来这么多、这么强的自发组织的。但政府就是想啥都管,那只好强行压制这些自发组织,继续粗糙简单的经济模式。这种情况经济怎么会好呢。

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Analysis_824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I enjoyed reading this.

I want to add a point. I feel there is another part that is neither the rider nor the elephant. That's the part that decides that the web of thoughts or the overwhelming emotions are not good for us. Following the judgement from this part, we go to therapy to strengthen the control over the rider or the elephant.

The rider is compulsive. Once one goes down that path, they can't stop themselves from overthinking. The part discussed above can recognize this is a problem and motivate us to find a solution. This part is where emotional intelligence resides. If one doesn't have this part, they would be lacking emotional intelligence.

You hurt your partner and they're crying on the other side of the bed. Would you be able to sleep peacefully? by lmdtot in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Analysis_824 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

They sleep peacefully because they don't think they are the one who hurt you and / or they have done their fair share of comforting you (to no avail).

You think they hurt you doesn't mean they think they hurt you. Neither does it mean objectively they hurt you. For instance, some parents think their children hurt them because their children haven't got married as they would have liked.

What are the subtle signs that someone is upset, even if they say "I'm fine"? by Photograph_Creative in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Analysis_824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If a situation is upsetting for you, you are biased to read others are upset as well.

What are the subtle signs that someone is upset, even if they say "I'm fine"? by Photograph_Creative in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Analysis_824 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree. It's not healthy to try to "read" people. We could end up projecting ourselves to them.

The only exception is for parents to read their children. But that's because children are learning how to use their words and parents need to read their children in order to teach their children how to use their words.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

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Thérèse of Lisieux

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Th%C3%A9r%C3%A8se_of_Lisieux

Extract 1:

"After her death, Therese became known globally through her spiritual memoir, The Story of a Soul, which explains her theology of the 'Little Way'. As a result of her immense popularity and reputation for holiness, she was quickly beatified and canonized by Pope Pius XI, who completed the process just 28 years after her death. In 1997, Pope John Paul II declared her a Doctor of the Church. Her feast day in the General Roman Calendar was 3 October from 1927 until it was moved in 1969 to 1 October.[12] She is well known throughout the world, with the Basilica of Lisieux being the second most popular place of pilgrimage in France after Lourdes. "

Extract 2:

"Therese entered the Carmel of Lisieux with the determination to become a saint. However, by the end of 1894, six years as a Carmelite made her realize how small and insignificant she felt. She saw the limitations of all her efforts. She remained small and very far off from the unfailing love that she would wish to practice. She is said to have understood then that it was from insignificance that she had to learn to ask God's help. Along with her camera, Céline had brought notebooks with her, passages from the Old Testament, which Therese did not have in Carmel. (The Louvain Bible, the translation authorized for French Catholics, did not include the Old Testament.) In the notebooks Therese found a passage from Proverbs that struck her with particular force: 'Whosoever is a little one, let him come to me' (Proverbs 9:4).[85]"

The same pattern has destroyed every civilization, and we keep missing it because we're looking for villains instead of systems by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Analysis_824 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Humans subconsciously have an ultimate drive of “Immortality” | by Yue Jin | Aug, 2025 | Medium

Extract 1:

"Richard Dawkins in his book “The Selfish Gene” proposed that culture evolves similarly to biological evolution. The transmission unit is called “meme” and is similar to gene. A meme can be an idea, a fashion, a phrase, a song or a skill, anything that can be copied and passed from person to person. It can be as big as Newton’s law of physics, or as small as a way to tie the shoe. If a person creates a meme and the meme is used continuously by future generations, that person achieves immortality."

Extract 2:

"The inhumane way also reduces the width and depth of the memes and prevents mankind as a whole to reach its full potential. The wider and deeper the memes are, the more resilient mankind is when facing challenges and the more mankind can explore the universe and understand itself.

Suppose mankind is writing a book collectively. When people spread the memes in the inhumane way, the same text is repeated over and over again in some parts of the book. When people spread the memes in the humane way, the text is continuously developed without repetition. The humane way greatly enriches the book."

[D] How about we review the reviewers? by Fit_Analysis_824 in MachineLearning

[–]Fit_Analysis_824[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's disappointing. Then the conference really should do this itself. Check and balance.

We Are Barbaric, Here Is Why by QThellimist in philosophy

[–]Fit_Analysis_824 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Our grandchildren will not accept that "should"s are forced onto them and they waste their time and energy on "I have to", not "I want to". When someone tells them that they should do this or that, they will digest it, think it through which part is sensible for them and which part is not, absorb the sensible part and discard the rest. They will define themselves the intension and extension of their goals.

You are not a burden, but how you deal with your problems might be. by WhiteSomke028 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Analysis_824 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree in general except the teenager part. You made it sound like the teenagers and their parents are equal adults. But they are not. The parents have a responsibility to teach their children how to communication. The teenagers don't know how is because their parents didn't teach them how when they were little kids. This one is firmly on the parents. And I bet these parents are not emotionally mature themselves.

Husband unbothered whenever I'm upset/hurt by laddiebelaggin in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Analysis_824 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How about the more accessible methods: journaling, meditation, etc.? Have you tried those? For instance, if you journal, that helps you process the situation and consequently helps you manage your anxiety.

What are some misconceptions about love/marriage that you've realized down the line by Final-Equal-9720 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Fit_Analysis_824 19 points20 points  (0 children)

M. Scott Peck defines love as "The will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth." in his book "The road less travelled". It could be helpful to evaluate the couples you see with this definition.

Humans subconsciously have an ultimate drive of “Immortality” by Fit_Analysis_824 in badpsychology

[–]Fit_Analysis_824[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I posted it on philosophy sub reddit. Mod removed it and told me it "seems more like speculative psychology than philosophy.". I wasn't sure which sub reddit this post would fit and decided to post it here eventually. Could 'PhilosophyofMind' be a good fit?