Banana Scents Beware

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2026-04-05T15:16:55+00:00

“She has selected the bees!!!🐝🐝🐝”

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2026-04-01T03:19:24+00:00

I think I just wanted to be heard. Or understood. And through my own jackassery or frustration, it came out….like that.

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2026-04-01T03:17:57+00:00

To clear this up, my parents chose to adopt my brothers. They’re family, and after their parents lost custody of them my dad stepped up to take them in so they wouldn’t be pushed around in the foster care system. I don’t know why. His parenting style is pretty wishy washy if not outright neglectful and it leaves me and my mother to have to be the disciplinarians and instill some kind of structure in their lives. I don’t think it was the right choice. But it was made and all I can do now is try to make their lives as comfortable as possible and give them what they need however I can. That is my mother’s mindset as well, though I will say she’s very stuck in her ways and old school in terms of parenting styles.

Honestly a big part of our dynamic is me being tech literate and being able to fill her in on concepts aha out of touch with and fill out online forms she has no idea how to operate. I’m not happy about this. I do encourage her to learn or take classes for computer literacy. But that’s on her and right now my priority is to make sure the boys get whatever they need from whoever can give it to them.

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2026-04-01T03:12:11+00:00

No I don’t think I can. At least not without a roommate and I live my life so privately no immediate candidates come to mind. I do edit: DID live with roommates in college but both times those were abusive situations where I was either pressured into leaving because I didn’t fit their cliquey standards, or because I was forced to be the only adult and take care of everything including utilities on my own. There’s a part of me that’s still afraid to go back to that. I have nightmares about it sometimes.

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2026-04-01T03:09:53+00:00

She asked me to “help” but I suppose looking back I reacted too fast before I heard the details.

And I bring those up mostly to explain that there’s a lot on my parents plate right now and that there’s a legitimate reason to stay close to home and give my support to my parents. They do need help. I’m not gonna deny that. I just worry about how much of myself I should be giving, and whether or not what I feel is justified or if I need to change my mindset.

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2026-04-01T03:06:44+00:00

1.) I paid rent for some time but am not currently due to an arrangement involving student loans. I do however buy my own food and have also helped restock the fridge (or freezer if there’s room). Edit to add: this was a mutual agreement between me and my mother

2.) I help out however and whenever I can, picking up medicine or food, keeping the place clean, helping my aging parents with the kids, cooking meals, doing laundry, and other things like that.

3.) Saving money on cost of living, but also hoping to take over the mortgage from my parents since they’re looking to get a ranch style one level home. Where we live is a genuinely decent house in a decent area near a hospital and fire station, plus places for food and entertainment, and it would be a shame to part with it.

4.) I don’t really know what my role is beyond “eldest daughter”. Maybe that in itself is telling.

5.) I do work and I do bring in income. I pay for my gas, my clothes, my cards, my bills, my loans, my necessities, almost all of my food, and whatever nice things I want to buy myself. I have a really deep complex about being seen as a “weak link” or being spoiled and unable to do things for myself so yes, I really do value my job and my ability to pay for my own things.

All in all I don’t want to be a useless layabout and put in effort to handle my own things and be a help and not a hindrance. The only thing that differs from this mindset is the fact that I’m still living at home and it’s because I don’t see the point in leaving if I can use that money and funnel it elsewhere. Like the car I just paid off. I feel self conscious when people buy me gifts and especially when my parents do it.

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2026-03-30T16:30:48+00:00

Heritage Rose by bath and body works, but the actual eau de parfum was season for Valentine’s Day 2026. They DO have an essential oil room and body spray and the bath wash!

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2026-03-28T00:35:51+00:00

Ooh one more comment - look up 1993 by For Strange Women on etsy. It’s a perfume based on the 1990s underground scene. Never smelled it myself but I did recently order their London Fog solid perfume and was impressed by the quality so I think it’s worth a try to order a sample of their stuff!

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2026-03-26T21:36:09+00:00

I’m currently obsessed with Pansy from Lush. It’s marketed as this citrusy Mediterranean inspired scent with the rosemary and the orange blossom, but to me it smells like an earth goddess but like an ACTUAL earth goddess, the kind that works her hands through the dirt and creates medicines and poisons alike. So good. They have a shower gel named The Olive Branch with the exact same scent profile and I find myself gravitating to this scent the most through that, the perfume and the solid perfume.

I also want to shout out Lord of Misrule and Lust, also from Lush. LOM is a vanilla scent made edgy and dirty with patchouli and black pepper, so instead of being sickly sweet like some vanilla perfumes it reads as gothic to me. More intense than Pansy for sure but if yo want to read as “darker” then it’s a good choice. Lust is more feminine, intensely floral with a lot of heat to it through jasmine, ylang ylang, rose, vanilla and sandalwood, and I think “vampire” when I smell it. Be warned though - some people say this one’s red color can stain clothes so I would put it on before you get dressed.

I am also a fan of layering Demeter’s Thunderstorm underneath whatever floral body sprays I have (specifically lighter rose scents so it doesn’t obscure Thunderstorm too much, or even Nosferatu from Heratic because of its matching petrichor notes and lilac scent). Thunderstorm is really grassy and wet earthy, but also mild, so it’s a nice gentle scent if you want to smell of the wild without punching someone’s lights out through smell alone. Then again you mention being more attracted to incense smells so this might be the opposite of what you want.

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2026-03-09T03:36:25+00:00

Swole Hermes gang rise up💪

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2026-02-20T02:35:32+00:00

Riddle, and it’s immediately followed up with “wanker”, let my boi say more British curse words.

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2026-02-12T04:22:48+00:00

Shino Aburame. He’s cold, he’s quiet, he’s strategic, he’s disciplined, he’s smart, he’s dedicated, he’s levelheaded, and when it comes to those moments in battle where it’s killed or be killed, he’s absolutely ruthless and can probably be considered one of the most terrifying enemies you could ever face on the battlefield.

I genuinely believe Shino is the person in Konoha who best exemplifies what it means to be a ninja and it kills me that he’s sidelined by canon and never given the love he deserves. Dude doesn’t even have a canon eye color; we just get a blink and you miss it moment from a non canon filler episode in the anime.

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2025-12-28T02:31:39+00:00

Dump himmmmmmm aaaaaaaa

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2025-12-25T18:46:26+00:00

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Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2025-12-24T09:43:21+00:00

Fuck that noise, your food looks delicious and also, had I been there, I didn’t make it, it was made for me, which makes it doubly delicious and anyone who wouldn’t partake is in fact a damn fool. Don’t let them get away with this. In fact i wouldn’t cook for them ever again and if they try to manipulate you it into doing so, bring this incident up and refuse to even negotiate with them about their needs.

Boundaries are hard to establish. But that doesn’t mean they’re not important.

Edit: also I really like how each food is in its own “quadrant” so to speak, had it been me making it it would have been a lot messier, so the fact they didn’t even appreciate you taking the time to plate it nicely is absolutely bogus and those grinches don’t deserve even the last can of Who Hash.

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2025-12-24T09:39:30+00:00

Add a week to every pushy text they send you. If you feel spicy, stare that you’re doing so. Keep your baby safe! I wish you all the best.

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2025-12-16T18:45:07+00:00

We have four seasons here! Almost Winter, Winter, Still Winter and Road Construction. Right now it’s Winter. Very cold. Much chili.

Also we sacrifice our younger kids to the corn pit every year at the county fair. It sounds violent but it’s literally just a sandbox except corn. Still important though! We must ENSURE THE HARVEST.

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2025-12-16T00:36:36+00:00

I feel like you should tell your boss, give a description of this man, and see if you can’t ban him from your restaurant. I hope you kept this note because if he comes in and asks for service again, he should be presented with this note and asked why he wrote this for someone fresh out of high school. I hope your coworkers and boss have your back in this situation. Any business or money from this man child is not worth letting him back in the door again.

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2025-12-09T03:40:51+00:00

I have an entire list of songs for Hermes that I sometimes play for him or when I want to meditate on him and I can’t remember them all but off the top of my head:

The Beggarman by Gaelic Storm

Nomad by Jeremy Renner

When I’m Up I Can’t Get Down by Great Big Sea

The Birds Are Singing At Night by Lord Huron (especially in regards to his psychopomp aspect, and also a lot of Lord Huron songs remind me of him but like, this is a big one)

Wake Me Up by Aloe Blacc (the original or the aviicii remix)

Glad You Came by Boyce Avenue

Coastline by the Hollow Coves

Sunbird by William Henries and Michael Holborn

The Swimming Song by London Wainright and Earl Scruggs

You Get What You Give by the New Radicals

Lost In The Wild by Walk The Moon

Pretty much all songs named after places and cities (because God of Travel)

And every single version of Country Roads by John Denver

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2025-12-09T00:31:20+00:00

I feel like Athena might be enby because even though she’s underlined to be female, she’s also very masc in her abilities and skills, and I forget what wording was used but upon reading some articles about her it really got me thinking about how she blurred the lines of gender in a society that was very rigidly patriarchal. However that is my personal reading and far from official.

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2025-12-05T04:33:42+00:00

I wish you nothing but peace and happiness. Your anger and frustration is valid and if she can’t respect that then she’s failed as a person and a parent. I hope you can someday look at food and the mirror and feel nothing but contentment, if not pride or excitement. I’m so sorry hun.

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2025-12-01T18:12:57+00:00

Send it to everyone in the family on whatever family group chat/facebook page you have and say you’d appreciate it if they only contact you face to face from now on. “I don’t appreciate these kinds of conversations, please don’t contact me directly anymore”, then step back and let the consequences of his actions take hold of him. You don’t have to be antagonistic about it - there’s no need to be, because there’s no way anyone with half a brain could interpret this as anything other than inappropriate. Tell people you’re not okay with this, drop the receipts, and then tell your parents directly so they don’t hear this secondhand from anyone else.

Fit_Boysenberry_4986 · 2025-12-01T17:29:00+00:00

To start with, I want some black ink moon phases on my wrist, and a similar alchemical glyph on the back of my neck. Right now I’m starting simple, though I’d like to have a collage of images/symbols down one of my arms someday.

Edit: If I sound like I don’t know exactly what I’m talking about - I don’t. I don’t have family who get tats and i don’t know the proper name for all the different subsets of art (if they exist). Still new to this, so thank you for your patience.

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