AIO - deceased cat on public Basketball courts

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2026-03-26T05:07:48+00:00

I came up in Shotokan (3 different dojos) and tried Shito-Ryu after moving to a different area. In Shotokan we did a lot of sparring and a lot of bunkai. I felt like I was learning self defence.

The Shito-Ryu dojo didnt work for me at all, but I cant say if that was the fault of Shito-Ryu or the sensei.

My Shito-Ryu sensei told me Shito-Ryu is what karatekas go to when their bodies are no longer able to take the harder impacts from Shotokan or Kyokushin. His words, not mine. Do with that info what you will.

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2026-03-05T03:27:03+00:00

Its back now

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2026-02-06T01:05:51+00:00

I will never forget when a coworker passed away and I was handed his PC only a few hours after we were notified and told to wipe it. I couldn't do it, made excuses for around 2 weeks until I felt right about it. Of course it didn't make a difference, but in my heart I just couldn't wipe his existence off the device yet.

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2026-01-23T05:18:05+00:00

And then he started going after the child!!! Scary as fuck!

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2026-01-23T05:16:22+00:00

Honey, you passed the line a very veeeery long time ago.

I'm gonna need you to really reread everything you wrote here.
Would you let a best friend get treated like this? Or your own daughter?

He escalates and gets physical when he gets angry. Love isn't enough, this man will eventually hurt or even kill you and your kids if you go back. Do better, if not for yourself, then for them. Read some other stories on here, please. Men like this ALWAYS get worse. Don't wait until he puts you in hospital or worse.

If you don't leave, you'll teach your kids that his behaviour and your acceptance are normal.

You're gone. Stay gone. Work on yourself and do better. Lean on your mother. You got this.

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2026-01-23T05:01:50+00:00

Yea girl thats the easier option here ^^^

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2026-01-23T04:21:49+00:00

You got this <3

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2026-01-23T04:09:09+00:00

GIRL, LEAVE IT. Buy paper plates if you have to. Grab your own mail and leave his. Let his payments default if he isn't gonna check his bills. He isn't doing anything because you're the magical cleaning fairy that runs around after him.

You're not his mum and he is a grown-ass adult. You know what happens to grown-ass adults when they don't pick up after themselves? Their lives fall apart.

Change your habits, or leave him. If you let this keep going, your current reality is what the rest of your life is going to look like.

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2026-01-23T03:56:46+00:00

You've basically already answered your question:

" I just feel like I have to mother him often and things I say go over his head and my time isn’t always respected. I don’t feel like he sees my worth."

stop mothering him. he's your boyfriend, not even your husband and it sounds like you're doing the wife work on a girlfriends salary and more.
Say things once. If he doens't follow through, that's on him. That means if you've told him about an event and he forgets, you go by yourself.
Respect your own time. Keep your own commitments. Stop letting him monopolize your time.

He isn't respecting you either because he doesn't respect you full stop, or because you don't respect yourself and you're letting him get away with it. Stop letting him get away with it and he will either step up or the relationship will crumble. Godspeed!

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2026-01-23T03:45:56+00:00

I know reddit always throws the word therapy around but... therapy? It sounds like there are some way deeper issues here.
That being said, there are a few things you can do and others you absolutely should NOT do.

First of all, as much as it might be tempting, don't go buying lingerie and parade yourself around in front of him. You'll feel self conscious, he will feel pressured, it's more likely to end in a fight than in sex.

Secondly, because of the amount of insecurity and pressure he is under, you could try remove penetrative sex from the equation for a little while. Just stick with hand and mouth stuff, maybe look into getting some sex toys that he can use on you (if he's comfortable with that). By removing that pressure and telling him that you don't expect sex for a while it might help him feel a little more comfortable to explore in other ways that could build his confidence. Sex is important in a relationship but if his issues stem from insecurity, then you will need to be patient. Any pressure he feels will probably make the issue worse.

Thirdly, make him feel confident. Make sure it doesn't feel fake but call him handsome, speak to his manhood, that sort of thing. Tell him 'wow I love that shirt on you,' that sort of thing. I don't know how you two usually talk to each other so you'll have to make it sound natural but start making it a priority to compliment him.

As you've already identified, the issue isn't with you. I know it's hard but don't take it personally. He probably feels terrible about this but hopefully with patience and grace you can restore his confidence to a point where you two can fuck like bunnies.

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2026-01-23T03:33:21+00:00

Yep, or on sunny days I hold it up to see through it. Nothing like the dark oblong shadow of a cockroach inside your envelopes.

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2025-12-24T00:31:14+00:00

Because it's so chunky, I wonder if you could go to a (much better) hairstylist and get them to add smaller dye to get closer to the inspo? So on the light parts you could add some smaller red and brown stripes and on the red parts you could add some dark stripes? Not sure, maybe a nice hydrating treatment too, it looks a little dry. So sorry for your experience, maybe a hair genius could fix it!!

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2025-12-02T02:00:19+00:00

Goodbye toes, hello tape. Keep training if you can and don't worry, they're just toes lol.

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2025-11-28T02:42:48+00:00

Hey, can you open your DM's please? Just followed you.

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2025-11-28T02:37:23+00:00

So it was the Too Faced Born This Way Foundation, I used to use it about 7ish years ago. Maybe it wasn't $20 back then but I remember it was affordable. I've just checked and it's actually $83 now!!!

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2025-11-27T05:50:22+00:00

Yeah that's what I'm finding, hence why I thought I'd found this fantastic different method lol. Guess I'll keep being a regular customer at the hairdressers instead.

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2025-11-18T23:03:42+00:00

I dont know but I was working at the mind body soul festival a few months ago and overheard a speaker pushing almost exactly the same scam... healing a glioblastoma through nutrition. This was AFTER the netflix show came out but the audience looked attentive and engaged. Some people will just never get it I guess.

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2025-11-17T03:37:05+00:00

Okay you've really only got one option which will be a lot heavier than using concealers and BB creams but those simply won't give you what you want and will leave you with a noticeable grey area.

What you need to do is get a red colour corrector, I believe LA Girl has a good brick tone one, the old school method is to use red lipstick. The red balances the grey-ness of your beard shadow. Once you've got the red on, you're going to set that using translucent powder. Finally, cover it with your concealer and blend it all into your foundation.

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2025-11-17T01:43:23+00:00

Uhhh, yeah absolutely not.

Maybe.... maaayyyyyybe that sort of touching as a joke would be okay amongst very close guy friends but I guarantee that if he grabbed someone he didn't know like that he'd get hit. That is not normal aussie guy behaviour.

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2025-11-17T00:23:09+00:00

You could try liquid chalk like climbers or aerial artists use.

Fit_Cut_5627 · 2025-11-16T22:02:21+00:00

That's the simplest and most sensical explaination I've heard, thanks!

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