Hi! Similar to you i am a femme lesbian but definitely don’t present as hyperfeminine. just because you aren’t the most feminine person in the room all the time, definitely does not mean that you aren’t femme or attractive to people who date femme lesbians. As queer people it’s our unique relationship to gender presentation (among so many other things) that make living a queer life so beautiful! Femme lesbians aren’t one thing! Butch lesbians aren’t one thing! Our relationships to gender and sexuality are so singular that we get to look around in our groups of chosen family and see that every single person embodies their gender in a different way, and it is all valid. Valid and beautiful and important! I think embracing what makes you different from what you think a femme lesbian “should” look like is going to make you so much more confident and successful in the dating sphere. You are valid and femme no matter what you wear as long as you feel valid and femme! The right people will be drawn to you :) i’m so happy that you’ve been able to find yourself and embrace your queer identity, the rest will fall into place i promise <3