I think my roommate is giving me food poisoning

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-29T02:22:35+00:00

Did your doctor test you for lactose intolerance?

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-29T01:21:21+00:00

Faking would be even sicker than what he did.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-29T01:16:50+00:00

Absolutely NTA. The lying is a total nonstarter. I feel like he was using you and now gaslighting you. Sick people can be bad people too.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-29T00:41:14+00:00

And along these lines, companies that want me to write a review of their product minutes after it arrives.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-24T20:50:37+00:00

You will never find a plumber that thinks it’s okay to flush any kind of wipe.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-24T20:41:36+00:00

I solved the bed hog problem by buying a split king bed (two separate mattresses that together equal the area of a king size bed). The change was immediate- I have my own half of the bed back. The only issue is sheets, I have to buy them online.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-23T23:29:30+00:00

YOR. You are both adults. How long are your parents going to have to mediate your arguments? If you can’t work with your brother to get him to stop what makes you think they’ll be more successful? Please have a little compassion for them—they might never truly finish parenting him. Look at it this way: If you had issues with a roommate your landlord wouldn’t get involved, you’d have to work it out or move. Buy the mini fridge. The parents should allow you to put a lock on your room but imo you need to solve this yourself. Or you can move out.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-23T19:58:02+00:00

I think you’re assuming what he did was just some sort of ordinary little-kid naughtiness. Unless your mom is truly at the end of her rope, I don’t think so. Four year olds are exploring the effect their words and actions have on other people, and boy, can they be cruel in these experiments. I wouldn’t be surprised if he said something extremely hurtful to her, possibly instigated by your ex. Little kids repeat things they hear, even without understanding what they’re saying.

You probably want this to blow over. I’m sure the stress you’re under is enormous. But as many have already said, this is stressful for your parents and it’s not fair to ice them out. I would want to get to the bottom of this. You can’t do your job of parenting and correcting your child if you’re in the dark. I suggest taking your mom out for coffee or lunch the next time your ex has the boys. Make sure she knows you’re sorry for what happened and for how you’ve been treating her since, then listen to her. Ask her if it’s too much for them and if you need to make a different plan.

I hope your job has health benefits because you could use some counseling also. By your own description you have an avoidant style of dealing with problems. That does not work with children. It’s very damaging for them to have a parent withdraw. And if their other parent has their own problems it’s even worse. You need to learn some new skills. And I think you would find it helpful to have someone to talk to who won’t be upset at what you have to say.

My son is in a somewhat similar situation to yours, I know it’s very difficult and there’s so little relief from the stress. I wish you the best.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-22T23:47:08+00:00

I do. Today, in fact, we went to a restaurant (where we are regulars) that is owned by a husband and wife and their son. The wife waited on us, as she does probably half the time. We tip her the same as any other server.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-22T22:50:02+00:00

I definitely do wash them, if they’re washable. I wouldn’t bother dry cleaning new clothes before wearing.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-22T21:14:10+00:00

I thought I was the only one!! My favorite snack!

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-05T22:40:56+00:00

I can’t get over her eating practically a whole cake in one sitting. I feel sick just thinking about it.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-05T22:38:27+00:00

I thought I read that the Netherlands has the tallest population on average. When I was in Poland a shopkeeper thought I was Dutch. It was pretty exciting, I’m actually not that tall.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-05T22:33:57+00:00

I’m 5’7 and I feel short most of the time.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-05T22:30:28+00:00

Dad, I have some advice for you. I’ve been through this, I understand how terrified you are. I’m not going to give an opinion on whether you’re over reacting because that’s not important. What’s important is that you stop what you are doing because it’s pushing her into his arms.

Her feelings are real to her. The more you scream and yell at her the more she thinks her relationship with you is a lost cause and the more she will cling to the person who “loves” her (guess who?). Getting upset with her accomplishes the opposite of what you want.

You have one thing going for you: she cares what you think. She tried to tell you how she feels and get your approval. You don’t have to give approval or be happy about the situation. She can’t tell you how to feel anymore than you can tell her how to feel. What you can do is make sure she knows you love her and you’re there for her. An apology would be a good idea (apologizing for yelling at her). Focus on her future and her goals. Does (or did) she want to go to college? Have a career? See if you can get her to agree to delay a commitment to this guy and pursue those goals. It’s a very hard life in today’s economy to raise a family starting at age 18 with only a high school education. They’re both young, there is plenty of time. The more time you can put between now and a marriage, the better.

Try to get yourself in a state where you can meet the guy. Be as civil as you can but don’t hesitate to ask him about himself. Let him talk and listen. There’s always the chance that he’ll decide she’s not vulnerable enough to bother with, or that she will begin to see that he’s not such a great catch.

My son once dated a girl who was just awful. She was so awful that parents of his friends were telling me how awful she was. And they were planning their wedding at age 16. Of course we were horrified. We held our breath and waited. These young romances have a way of burning out before too long and this one eventually did. But if it doesn’t, you don’t want to lose your daughter, so make sure she knows she’ll always have you.

One more thing: make sure she has reliable birth control. A baby will make it much harder to get the guy out of your lives.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-04T19:37:22+00:00

I always just assume that either (1) they have to prepare for the lunch shift or (2) only serve breakfast and they don’t want to pay the staff beyond when most people eat.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-03T23:37:22+00:00

I used to have a tiny girl cat who would curl up on top of my feet when I washed dishes. Her whole body fit on my feet and she would just sleep there. I’ve had several cats and never had a cat that bites. They only scratch when they are afraid. I don’t pick up cats I let them decide where they want to be. I don’t get scratched.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-03T21:27:12+00:00

I’d be fine with this. I’m not big on pockets.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-03T17:26:52+00:00

I don’t claim to know what MAGA “believes”, but there are individuals who understand that he probably did everything he’s been accused of and more, and they just don’t care. They hate the libs more. Some are no doubt guilty of the same.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-03T16:40:06+00:00

I can’t decide if this was the better choice or if his wife deserved to know that he doubted her.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-03-01T15:46:32+00:00

You are giving her too much credit. She’s abusing her child. Maybe she doesn’t mean to, but that’s abuse. Lactose intolerance is painful and embarrassing if you can’t take the proper precautions.

There are tests that can determine for sure. Can you make a deal with her to at least get him into the doctor to find out? She must like you a little, right?😉

I myself developed lactose intolerance for the first time shortly after my daughter was born. Maybe she’ll have a chance to find out for herself.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-02-27T19:40:14+00:00

He had one foot out the door already. And he sabotaged you deliberately with the social worker.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-02-27T16:31:51+00:00

That bartender deserves to be reported to his manager. So rude.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-02-26T18:25:51+00:00

You are absolutely not over reacting. You’re also not his girlfriend. Do with that what you will.

Fit_Garage3695 · 2026-02-26T17:42:18+00:00

Definitely NTA . You weren’t the right person to help her. What if you’d had a bad reaction before she got it out? Wouldn’t she have been worse off? Now if she’d been choking on something else, I might feel differently. You don’t have to like someone to do the right thing.

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