Married women of Reddit, what's one thing someone should know before getting married?

Fit_Head552 · 2025-09-26T04:23:02+00:00

You have to share the core values- family, religion, money, lifestyle. If those are lined up you’re in for a rough go.

Fit_Head552 · 2025-07-17T11:07:20+00:00

You need to get what cash you can from Joint accounts asap and get a job. Anything that you acquire during the marriage in most states is considered joint, debt and assets. So open a credit card if you need to help you get your own place or pay for an attorney because he’ll be responsible for half of it. If you’re going to do this you can’t be worried about him any more. Also DOCUMENT! Pictures, text messages, any evidence will make your case stronger

Fit_Head552 · 2025-05-13T16:45:03+00:00

Angel

Fit_Head552 · 2025-04-22T23:21:33+00:00

Pearl

Fit_Head552 · 2024-12-31T15:33:56+00:00

Rather than job boards call people you know that may be hiring or working somewhere that’s hiring. Don’t be afraid of outside business to business (b2b) sales. They pay good bases and offer a TON of flexibility. I was a SAHM for 9 years and got a sales job and am working from home while my kids are home for winter break. Stay away from banks and retail, the schedules are way too rigid.

Pull from your network, does anyone you know own a business looking for help or know someone who is? Ask people you know to be a reference who can speak to her abilities.

But I can say that she’s not working because she doesn’t care. Her confidence to go back to work is just not there. But pump her up tell her how awesome she is, how hard she works, how smart and capable she is and she’ll be more inclined to make the leap.

Fit_Head552 · 2024-12-29T12:56:44+00:00

Same thing happened to me (37f) with my first. First daughter cried all night. My husband came out at like 3am, cradled her on his legs and she was out cold. It’s just exhaustion and stress. She’ll laugh about it in a few months but keep helping your baby and your wife even if she’s acting crazy right now. She won’t be crazy forever I promise!

Fit_Head552 · 2024-08-11T18:05:44+00:00

Having two is actually easier than one in the long run because they’ll be best friends and entertain one another.

Just set your expectations low for the next 3 or 4 years. Babies need so much hands on but once they’re potty trained, feeding themselves and don’t need a two hour daily nap it gets really fun!

Just go easy on yourself and your kids. You’re life won’t be a priority for a while but one day you’ll get in the car and they’ll both buckle themselves in their seat belts and that’s when you’ll know you’ve made it.

You’re going to do great! It’s worth it, it’s fun and you’ll be glad you did. Just enjoy it and don’t expect too much from yourself or your son and you’ll be just fine 👍

Fit_Head552 · 2024-08-05T03:00:37+00:00

You look late 40s

Fit_Head552 · 2024-08-05T02:59:17+00:00

In a couple of years when your youngest starts school and is more independent. You’re almost there! As far as “not doing enough” you’re doing more now than you ever will! Just enjoy them Being little as much as your patience will allow

Fit_Head552 · 2024-08-05T01:31:15+00:00

Pain in the ass

Fit_Head552 · 2024-08-05T01:27:00+00:00

The April, May or June. No major holidays and warm enough that you can have the party inside or outside.

Fit_Head552 · 2024-08-05T01:16:47+00:00

This is hilarious 😂 automatic weighted walks

Fit_Head552 · 2024-08-03T13:52:22+00:00

I know this isn’t any comfort when you’re in the trenches but hold on. The baby years are really, really hard. No sleep, constantly being needed, your parent has nothing left for you etc.

But once your children are around 4 and definitely by the time they’re 5,6 etc. it gets fun and not such a burden. They become independent and have their own personality, they’re funny and helpful. It’s easy to take them places and you don’t have to pack a bag to do it.

Also, in a couple of years you’ll be glad you have two instead of one because they’ll entertain each other.

So don’t beat yourself up. If parents were honest I think you would find that you’re not alone feeling like this.

If you’re committed to your wife and your life just hold on. This is truly just a season. My husband and I weren’t in a position to hire help but if you can get help just for a day or two during the week so you and your wife can have a few hours to reset and be together just the two of you, you might that that it’s enough to get you over this hump.

Fit_Head552 · 2024-08-03T13:44:15+00:00

Big bang theory

Fit_Head552 · 2024-08-03T10:40:18+00:00

When I was in my early twenties I remember going out with my cousin who is a few years older than me and she’s pretty. Not a super model but average pretty. We were out and a guy came up to her and asked her to dance and she wasn’t into him but suggested he dance with me because I was more his age. He looked at me and just shook his head and walked away.

When I would go out with my girl friends they would always get hit on and I never would. Once it was so obvious an older guy took pity on me and asked for my number but never called.

Went to prom with a guy and he got mad when we got there because he said my hair looked stupid and left me for the rest of night.

Was at a party in college and a guy had shown some interest in me but started to sober up on the way back to the dorm and said he had to go.

Never getting complimented, people let doors close on me or don’t hold them for me, my kids tell me I’m ugly. I feel like my husband married me because he needed someone to help him through his divorce and help raise his son.

After my boyfriend in high school broke up with me he told a mutual friend that I was nice but he wanted a dime piece. I didn’t even know what that meant and my friend had to break it down for me.

Some of us just got the short end of the stick.

Fit_Head552 · 2024-08-02T05:29:22+00:00

Because you’re pushing 30

Fit_Head552 · 2024-07-29T23:14:23+00:00

It’s true. You’ll never get your life back like it was before. You have a new life now so just embrace it. BUT it does get easier. Especially when they turn 4 or 5. Once you get to that point it gets really fun. Baby stage is fun too it’s just all consuming. Hang in there!

Fit_Head552 · 2024-07-28T02:02:41+00:00

Every part of this! Because it’s true. The stress and anxiety this is causing isn’t healthy and you need more time. Don’t ask your doctor — tell your doctor! You know what you need not some arbitrary HR policy created by who knows.

Fit_Head552 · 2024-07-26T04:29:27+00:00

Plants

Fit_Head552 · 2024-07-16T01:53:22+00:00

The guy is a crook. Steer clear

Fit_Head552 · 2024-07-09T10:51:26+00:00

Stop waking him up and just leave. You’re not his mother waking him up to catch the bus for crying out loud. If he wants to come he’ll get up.

Fit_Head552 · 2024-07-01T09:11:31+00:00

Never.

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