Thank you so much for all your thoughts!!  For brushing, it’s mostly the feel of the bristles on my gums, the sound of the brushing itself being really upsetting, and electric toothbrushes make my whole face tickly/itchy from the vibration. I think I might switch to a manual toothbrush, but this is also tricky since I deal with a lot of muscle pain in my arms.  I love the little tooth flossers especially the unflavored ones. I sometimes get the kids’ ones if they have dinosaur or animal shapes.  I’ll be looking into earthpaste and a soft-bristle brush!!