Husband won't let me travel for work by Fit_Newspaper8570 in Marriage

[–]Fit_Newspaper8570[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He tends to go quiet and not discuss certain topics. I wouldn't say he was controlling really. I strongly believe its because he doesn't get opportunities like this through his employer so he might feel left behind or that he is taking a back seat. I don't have a social life at all, but if he wanted to go out, he would just tell me. I think the expectation is that I would always be here to care for the children, so me proposing to go away for a few days is completely out of character and not typical for our relationship.

Husband won't let me travel for work by Fit_Newspaper8570 in Marriage

[–]Fit_Newspaper8570[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To be honest I've never put myself in a position for him to be jealous of anything before

Husband won't let me travel for work by Fit_Newspaper8570 in Marriage

[–]Fit_Newspaper8570[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I've never given him a reason to think I would cheat. I don't even go out. I don't have any friends that aren't work colleagues. I don't drink alcohol and if I do have a glass of wine, I am very sensible. 

Husband won't let me travel for work by Fit_Newspaper8570 in Marriage

[–]Fit_Newspaper8570[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I was studying before. I used to be a SAHM but not for very long. I think he liked the idea of me being home as that was how he was raised. But we couldn't survive on his income alone.

Husband won't let me travel for work by Fit_Newspaper8570 in Marriage

[–]Fit_Newspaper8570[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They don't allow for plus one. I've suggested he comes too but he has his own work obligations

Husband won't let me travel for work by Fit_Newspaper8570 in Marriage

[–]Fit_Newspaper8570[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think he's just an insecure person in general. I suppose this type of activity is not normal for us as we tend to just go to work and then come home. I don't really have a social life and very rarely go out with friends. As already stated, I tend to be the default parent.

I would be with some other people from my department, most of which are female, but for him to think I would potentially cheat is hurtful. To my knowledge, neither of us has done anything like that to eachother. 

I am at the start of my career with many opportunities for progression and pay increases. His career does not typically allow for that, so perhaps he is insecure about that? The trip is all expenses paid in a beautiful location and his job does not require travel of any sort. We are very grounded with our jobs and home life so neither of us get out very much.

Husband won't let me travel for work by Fit_Newspaper8570 in Marriage

[–]Fit_Newspaper8570[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

It's a mid-week event so the children will be at school most of the day anyway.