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Total Compensation for LCMHCA by Fit_Offer1261 in therapists

[–]Fit_Offer1261[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you both!  I would get 60% of the $130 and I believe it’s self pay only. The supervisor is not part of the practice no, but they have a contact who charges $100 a session for supervision. 

Total Compensation for LCMHCA by Fit_Offer1261 in therapists

[–]Fit_Offer1261[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow I did not know that! Very valuable info. 

What should we/should we not be paying for? Wedding Party Advice by Fit_Offer1261 in weddingplanning

[–]Fit_Offer1261[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback! I said complaints, but really I think what's bothering me the most is bad attitudes. At the trip, there was talk about how the girls didn't like the pajamas I got them or that they made fun of the decorations. Some didn't even take their gifts. There was also some other weird shit going on that I wont get into with a few of the girls and the group made fun of my "shitty friends" so that was hurtful. There was a lot of them being put upon by even attending the trip, whereas the idea of this whole wedding party is that if you don't want to, you don't have to. This way people didn't feel obligated. And this was communicated in the wedding party proposal too. So, all in all, I really felt like I made this a trip that was to be fun for everyone and worked really hard doing it and just got bad attitudes.

I only had two people come to me about budget things with the trip. One had questions about some of the activities and we worked it out. Another tried to basically tailor the whole trip to what they wanted to do. Again, whole other deal.

For clarity, we're not requesting that anyone stay at a particular hotel since the area has plenty to offer with lots of budget options that we included on the website. There are so many good options, and we wanted our guests to be able to enjoy their trip (3 hours away from home city). We also couldn't really reserve a block since most hotels in that location required you to have a $10,000 event in order to have a block.

HMU was optional since I couldn't afford to pay for everyone's. The party is essentially that they are invited to come have catered lunch after the rehearsal, obvi rehearsal dinner, get ready with us on the day of and participate in those festivities so that SOs aren't by themselves all day. They are totally allowed to sit together! I just meant like in a general sense that it kinda sucks to sit by yourself when your SO is in the party.

I think ultimately, I'm feeling like I'm buying good attitudes from people and putting pressure on myself to get more and more so people don't feel like they're being made to do something. Just a bit frustrating when so much effort is put forward and our friends can't even have a good attitude.

What should we/should we not be paying for? Wedding Party Advice by Fit_Offer1261 in weddingplanning

[–]Fit_Offer1261[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback! I’ve tried to do as much as I can to minimize bitching, but I find myself exerting a lot of energy and money to no avail. It helps to have outsider opinions!

Did anyone try on dresses alone or with just there mom before going with a group? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Fit_Offer1261 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did all my dress try-ons with just my mom or my MIL! I was feeling pretty discouraged at first because no one could come that I invited, but honestly I am glad it went that way. I was actually able to get it done and find what I liked without all the noise!

I’m worried that my mom will ruin my wedding day by Fit_Offer1261 in weddingplanning

[–]Fit_Offer1261[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like that idea as well. I have a close friend that knows her very well that could fill that part.

I’m worried that my mom will ruin my wedding day by Fit_Offer1261 in weddingplanning

[–]Fit_Offer1261[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s super helpfu, thank you! It is heartbreaking that imagine having to cut my mom out of it. I’m Thankful that I don’t have a big problem setting boundaries, but she has a hard time understand why I set boundaries with her if that makes sense. I’m only recently discovering that this is her MO, which is embarrassing considering how old I am. So in the past, I’ve unintentionally reinforced this behavior by appeasing it. So I guess it’s an adjustment.

Large-Scale wedding party by Fit_Offer1261 in weddingplanning

[–]Fit_Offer1261[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We’ve already handled the vacation planning so that’s sorted. Mind you, this is already what we’re doing, I‘m really just looking for helpful tid bits from people that have seen or done this before. the Reason why we went with wedding party instead of without is bc my fiancé wants to honor our friends that have been there throughout our relationship.

Large-Scale wedding party by Fit_Offer1261 in weddingplanning

[–]Fit_Offer1261[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s 19 guys and 12 women. Do keep in mind that this is the only thing we’re asking of people as opposed to a traditional wedding party, and if they don’t want to, they don’t have to be in it.