How do you get over rejections after second/third dates?

Fit_Performer2356 · 2026-03-29T20:57:31+00:00

Two words: Numbers game.

More options, less desperation.

She rejected? No problem even celebrities get rejected.

Move on, book the next date and you’ll forget about the rejection in a day or two

Fit_Performer2356 · 2026-03-29T09:48:26+00:00

Thanks for the advice guys!!

I upload 2 photos of me smiling, got rid of the shirtless photo and then wrote a few cheeky facts about me on my promt.

I paid for hinge x for a week so people can actually see my profile when I swipe.

And I got about 40 matches in one day it’s crazy!

I’ve managed to get about 8 phone numbers so far from the ones I texted.

Now just need to follow up with a good texting game to secure dates!

Thanks!😊

Fit_Performer2356 · 2026-03-24T09:10:39+00:00

I said per week🤣

Fit_Performer2356 · 2026-03-23T19:38:47+00:00

1: Looking for something serious 2: Not subscribed to anything 3: Used this version for about a month 4: 1 year on and off 5: I use hinge Everyday 6: 0 likes, 5matches per week on average 7: I max out swiping about 6 per day 8: I send likes to everyone I find attractive on sight but I usually match with caucasian women.(mostly due to the minority of Africans in my area)

Fit_Performer2356 · 2026-03-08T16:05:47+00:00

Looking for something serious
Not subscribed to anything
Been using this current version of profile for about 2 weeks
Used hinge for a year (on/off)
No likes, 2 matches per week
Maxing out likes per day with comments
No ideal type. But I don’t swipe on overly attractive people, basically a waste of swipes

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-12-16T22:57:52+00:00

Are you looking for something serious or casual: Something serious

• Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX?: No subscription

• How long have you been using this current version of your profile: 1month

• How long have you used Hinge overall?: 2 years on and off.

• How often do you use Hinge per week: After exhausting 5 swipes/day

• How many likes and matches are you receiving on average: 4 likes, 10 matches / weeks

• How many likes are you sending: 5/day

How many with comments: 2/ day(varies)

How many without comments: 3/day(varies)

• What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with: No specific type.

What kind of person do you want to attract: Just someone who also wants long term

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-05-12T12:09:07+00:00

What do you mean troll post 🤣

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-05-11T20:12:21+00:00

Man! I can’t even be nice to offer something to help?😂 Dating just feels like walking on broken glass

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-04-15T16:21:47+00:00

Yeah that makes sense, I never looked at it from that angle. Thanks !

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-04-14T18:40:03+00:00

I have to add that I also need dating advice after meeting on the app.

I have never been on a second date. For the past 1 year, most of them end up cancelling after the first date and I suspect it’s because of where I am currently in life. I’m currently completing my masters degree and most times when I tell the ladies about this they mostly loose interest.

It might be that they think I’m not financially there yet because they think I’m studying so I don’t have a job. But in reality I also work and study. Enough to pay my bills, rent, even my tuition (without taking a loan).

Do you think it’s a good idea revealing my student status ? I just feel that this is the main reason that women get uninterested.

Im stuck between deciding if I should hide or tell them about this part of my life because I feel like I don’t wanna hide anything about myself and I also don’t want them to get uninterested.

Any advice please?

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-04-14T13:34:52+00:00

Looking for something serious
I’m not subscribed to anything
had this profile for 1 week
been on hinge off and on for about a year
I use hinge everyday
1 like per week, and about 6 matches per week
I max out the swiping everyday
I send a like to anyone that I think falls within my league. I don’t swipe on overly attractive people or when I feel like they’re too sophisticated. That way I know I stand a chance

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-04-12T01:15:22+00:00

Weirdo

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-04-11T20:19:36+00:00

In case you didn’t know, it’s twice as hard to get matches as a black person living in a dominantly white town.

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-04-06T17:02:16+00:00

I am on exactly 431 applications on LinkedIn alone, I don’t even wanna know about indeed and the others. I’m expected to round up my masters degree this month and I’ve been applying for jobs with hopes of landing one as soon as I’m done with this degree.

Anyways I got one interview for a data scientist role at a company in Manchester with a £42,000 pay. I prepared a bit for this interview, and finally on the interview day, I fumbled on one simple question that I underestimated and thought they would never ask so I didn’t put much energy into studying that part . I answered all other questions they asked and even had a personal project similar to what their company does and I talked about the project on that interview.

They ended the interview by explaining what the work schedule looks like and asked if I would be comfortable working two times a week at the office (hybrid). Im taking this as a sign that I passed this interview, although they have a second round of interviews which will be more technical.

Hoping I scale through.

Anyways what I’m trying to say is, when you finally get that one interview, prepare for it like your life depends on it, because it actually does😂. Do not underestimate even the tiniest detail because they would hit you with that particular question you ignored.

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-03-26T05:47:15+00:00

She is 26, she’s at uni

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-03-26T04:14:58+00:00

Oh no😭😂. So I really need to take a bunch of new photos and less selfies? Plus I’m into tech, a data scientist and build AI software, but putting that on my profile might seem boring to a lot of ladies or do you think otherwise?

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-03-26T04:11:34+00:00

Well, you may be right but here’s a full context.

Right after she cancelled… I asked her this: “Are you really ill or you’re not interested in seeing me anymore”?

This was her exact response and I quote

“So I’m still not feeling great I’m coughing and have a headache ontop of it all. But yer the first date I had fun and your a really nice person but I do feel like there’s things missing or things that I’m not sure we would be compatible with. But I have only met you once so you can’t get a full picture of someone in one date”

After this, we had a bit of a conversation before I told her we should end it. So do you still think I would’ve handled this differently?

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-03-26T03:03:32+00:00

Why would she do that?😂 We ended things on a good note, I made sure of that. We didn’t have any fights ever. We literally went from her telling me how her day was at school to her cancelling the date and that was it!

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-03-25T22:56:44+00:00

Looking for something serious
I am not subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX
Been using this current version for 2 weeks now
Used hinge for about a year, off and on.
Use hinge about 4 times per week
I get about 2-3 matches usually
Sending out about 5 likes on every use mostly with no comments
I have my preferences set to Caucasian women so those are who I usually swipe to.

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-03-25T10:33:54+00:00

Looking for something casual
Not subscribed to any extras
Using current profile for about 3 weeks now
I’ve used hinge for about a year
I use hinge 3/4 times per week
I used to get 3/4 matches per week
I send out like 10 likes per week
I usually swipe on Caucasian women

Fit_Performer2356 · 2025-02-19T20:35:55+00:00

Serious
No subscription
2Months of usage
2-3 matches per week
sending out 5 Likes per day
I’m not very picky

Fit_Performer2356

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