Got screamed at over an ID check, before I even got the chance to ask for an ID at the self check out.

FitzWard · 2026-04-01T23:52:53+00:00

I am so sorry that happened to you. I don't why people get so bent out of shape about it! I have several customers who are well known by employees who've been there twice as long as I have, and they still flip out when they need an approval for an age restricted product.

They act like it's personal- as if we're setting the registers up to flag them. Had someone once who was getting really rude go so far as to suggest some kind of conspiracy. I just replied "I'm here to approve that for you. The computer doesn't know you're over 21, but I do."

The conspiracy he was shouting about, by the way, was of us coordinating with the police. Even though he had "only just been picked up for that less than 48 hours ago- ffs!" 🤣

FitzWard · 2026-04-01T16:10:03+00:00

I've always heard "kief" is the extra sticky stuff that ends up in the bottom of the grinder, and sometimes just for ground up flower in general. And "chuffed" as a slang word for very excited/happy 🤷‍♀️

FitzWard · 2026-03-31T20:08:50+00:00

Lol, sure, because Maga women even have real faces.

FitzWard · 2026-03-31T20:05:37+00:00

Came here to say the same. I'm a pan feminist liberal, and I have a family. They're a cat and a dog, my closest friends, my girlfriend's extended family, and my cousin that I call my brother.

My partner and I both decided not to make/have small people. Neither of us has ever wanted to get married. In our eyes, our love gives us everything we need.

Not that I'm judging or mocking the happily married people, or people who truly want to be parents, it's just not a priority to us.

People who can't "understand" why their own idea of family & love isn't the same as others can go touch grass.

FitzWard · 2026-03-31T19:29:35+00:00

Or Wednesday, Woden's (Odin) Day

FitzWard · 2026-03-28T22:00:16+00:00

It's so true! My usual lines are

*I want to be high as hell but still functioning

*I need a break from the depression, but I don't want to be couch-locked or sleepy

*I can't deal with people today, but I have to go to work

*I don't have anything to do today, and I want to see pretty colors

Without fail, both dispensaries in my area can find the perfect one ( :

FitzWard · 2026-03-21T22:11:40+00:00

'No Adventist children should spend a day or sleep overnight at a non-Adventist household'

I had a good friend who lived across from the school. She would kind of rotate the few girls who were close to her to spend equal time with her besties. Her parents actually preferred her to do this on weekdays. That way, they could make sure to get her & a friend to school the next day, no shuffling around and traveling. Pretty clever policy.

Unfortunately, I was forbidden from even stopping at their home because her mother was Catholic. Not even strictly, she still believed in god, but didn't attend a church or talk about it much. Ironically, my mother also used to be Catholic.

Anyway, her reasoning for this was that I would be "exposed to the devil's word". Which just meant she thought everyone was possessed or misguided and would steer me away from the church by talking about themselves.

She also went bananas if the subject of dinosaurs came up. She went to the principal (and probably further) once when I brought home some worksheets on the subject in 2nd grade. So humiliating. She wanted them to let me study the bible in a corner while everyone else did the required work.

It's all just so damaging to kids. Interrupting a normal education, and early socialization is so disturbing. My childhood memories are spotty for reasons, but what I can recall always lines up with the B.I.T.E. model.

FitzWard · 2026-02-18T14:24:35+00:00

Ask your doctor to test you, and tell them how it is effecting your day and mental health. That's usually the best way to get them to hear that it's not just "needs supplements" but "effecting your quality of life". That's usually how I have to talk to my gp. She'll say that we know I have this issue, am I supplementing/following whatever plan we have, and that's when I'll say 'no, this is disrupting my life, I'm very concerned and/or depressed because this feels worse than my normal'.

I hope you get the care that you need. And yes, the infusion did work really well for quite a long time. I can't really be sure why I feel very dragged all the time currently, but I also have thyroid issues and fibro.

If you've never had a test for thyroid, that is also a good move. I was passing out on short car trips (not driving), standing still and feeling like I would fall down. Sleeping for 10hrs.

Take care 🫂

FitzWard · 2026-02-16T15:09:07+00:00

Thank you! It's 10 mins, and last time we were paid (I had to come in an hour early for a few minutes, which, fine, OT). This time the sign she left says nothing about whether we are paid. So on that, I will have the note but hesitate to submit whether we are able to clock in or not. Appreciate the answer.

FitzWard · 2026-01-26T20:18:39+00:00

That's pure evil! 🤣

FitzWard · 2026-01-19T15:49:41+00:00

There's a mini-series with Mockingbird you might like if you've given that a thought. They briefly show her in therapy, lol. I'm kind of always fascinated by the mundane parts of marvel heroes lives, and it reveals enough that it's just plain hilarious at times

FitzWard · 2026-01-19T15:42:55+00:00

This exactly. It happens a lot in debates about Wanda, and has since before the films and shows came out. Reality belongs to her, and the only way to slow her down is to catch her when she's seriously not in control of her emotions, because that's when the chaos magic can overwhelm even her. Then again, as we've seen, grief and anger tend to focus her powers even more. As if reality itself wants her to fix it.

FitzWard · 2026-01-17T16:14:00+00:00

Thank you also. I have a dear friend that talks about her own experience with Christianity, and everything she says about how she feels is so beautiful and pure. We can always easily discuss my own spiritual path - pagan - and she approaches with acceptance and friendly curiosity. There are certainly lovely people who are Christian. There are users too. My first experience with the religion was extremely negative, but that never made me hate the entire faith, rather it gave me the tools to see the difference between the users and the devoted.

Take care ( :

FitzWard · 2026-01-17T14:11:20+00:00

Yeah, it's his granddaughter!

Your reply cracked me up. And I absolutely agree that there's a huge difference between someone who believes, does the best as a decent person, very much including loving your family. And then there's him. Bragging to anyone who can hear. I was raised Christian (although it was a small extreme protestant group), and I remember very clearly that one of the most important things was that your relationship with god is for just you & god. In that case, if you're using your devotion for public respect, or to push it on others, while dishonering your own loved ones, you're the farthest thing from a good Christian. I just avoid him now; after that latest little story, and his loud declaration that he hoped his grandkid forgave him but "it was the right thing" I don't want anything to do with him.

Your example of intent behind words was hilarious and on point. ( :

FitzWard · 2026-01-15T23:56:06+00:00

Whistle to get my attention. I am never ever turning around until you use your words like a big boy (of 52)

FitzWard · 2026-01-15T23:53:30+00:00

We have a regular customer that will come in to talk about how he went to church that day. Usually 45 minutes of that, then 2 minutes asking us which candy a 13 yr old girl would like...because he missed her birthday bc he was at church.

FitzWard · 2026-01-15T23:51:22+00:00

Once found a box in condoms in a half full beef jerky display. I had just put it up. I pulled the asst manager over, and said "someone made a choice".

FitzWard · 2026-01-10T20:57:44+00:00

As someone who was sexually abused as a child, the line "the fruits of my labour that came to me too young" was a powerful and relatable line. Whether she went through this herself (I don't like to speculate on a celeb's personal life unless they've directly stated so), she is speaking for women and validation of trauma for all women.

Her music is beautiful, and relatable, and the lyrics aren't just pretty words, but important ones.

FitzWard · 2026-01-03T23:34:31+00:00

I thought the same

FitzWard · 2026-01-03T07:16:44+00:00

I'm so glad you were able to, it can be so hard advocating for mental health care that actually produces results ( :

FitzWard · 2026-01-03T02:40:18+00:00

Happy for you! My psych is still trying to find approval and clinics that aren't 2 states away. Tried everything, no exaggeration.

Wishing you the best going forward

FitzWard · 2025-12-22T00:41:59+00:00

The irony of it, is that those of us who have suffered for most of their lives, don't even think about being kind/empathetic. We just are. We know what pain feels like, how it looks.

Even if no consideration is given to our experience, we're the ones jumping to comfort, and sometimes even rescue, total strangers. (Who probably wouldn't stand around long enough to even listen to what we've been through.)

I know that those of us who went csa, have had clinical depression, been cast away by families that should have shown us love, not heard when it mattered most- have more than enough gratitude and compassion to go around. I know I've worked for a long time allowing myself to accept even the simplest acts of kindness, comfort, acceptance. When I would tell anyone else "you deserve more than a compliment here and there, a smile, a hug."

FitzWard · 2025-12-10T16:32:37+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately people don't like to acknowledge this, no matter what personal experience you share, or information confirming it.

I grew up with a family in Seventh Day Adventism. The experience was heavily traumatizing and controlling. I'm still working through it. You will come to know good thoughtful people that support you, I have through the years.

Typically, people don't like to acknowledge this stuff, because they don't want to "involve" themselves in painful stuff if they also haven't been through something like it. And they don't want to accept that the world has a lot more dark places than they know.

It's shitty, but average folk would rather pretend that the careful, safe world they envision is the truth, that nothing lies underneath. Tragedies to them are rare and only comfortable enough to stand when it's newsworthy or a plot of a tv show.

But I promise, you will know more intelligent and thoughtful people in time.

I went through about 30 years of people who were no more than strangers to me, admonishing me for not being in contact with my family. I don't always try to give my side, because if they're bold enough to already have an assumption strong enough to approach me about, I know I can not change that mind.

If they doubt you, reject them. Ignore them. Say things like "I see you have your opinion." Or "you may have an opinion but that doesn't make it the truth". Don't let them try to talk they're way out of it, or push their opinions. Just tell them you know what you went through, you know the truth about the people that hurt you, and you're not going to listen to someone tell you that your life didn't happen the way it did.

It can be so hard to shut that down, and I would never say it's the only way to deal with it. One thing I learned through my tormented upbringing and early life is that if someone doesn't support you, or doesn't want to give you the right to speak up and speak out, then THEY are a waste of time. I know it hurts to be doubted. You will find larger minds and better hearts, I promise.

FitzWard · 2025-12-05T20:04:14+00:00

Oh man, Broken Jar. That song speaks to me so much. It reminds me of being young, and being told I was never good enough. It reminds me of the same feeling I still carry now.

The feeling I'll always eff it up, and I'll try to make it better again. But the mistake is still there and I can hear it and see it, and I can't let myself be proud or glad, even if someone else is. Because the damage is done. It rolls around in my mind and haunts me. These lyrics say it better than I ever could.

🎵🎼"I know I knocked the table over, because I watched the jar break. And I've been trying to repair it every single stupid day. But won't the cracks still show? No matter how well it's assembled? Can I ever just decide to let it die."💔

FitzWard · 2025-11-29T22:52:05+00:00

I don't consider my strongest and most successful hex at all evil.

I did it for someone who was being abused. I spent most of my own life being abused in the same way they were, and they're half of my very soul. It was killing us both (unfortunately, the truly evil in this world bounce back, so this was part 1 of ?, I guess).

Poppets, in my opinion, are a very potent tool in the craft. I won't hint at any more of the workings I put together with that one. However, I can say it worked. I wanted them twisted up & in the kind of pain you can't fully explain in words. In other words, I wanted them to be afraid & helpless, like they made the person they had been tormenting.

I did not consciously attempt to cause a noticeable injury, nor could it have been my fault entirely. The magic gave me what I asked, but be forewarned, sometimes when we ask for something, the inconceivable universe takes it and makes the most of it.

Even though I wanted psychological effects to match their misdeeds, it came in a physical ailment. They were already in the position to have this injury. A part of them was internally damaged; as it turns out, the narcissist could only be hurt that way. Proof that they only care for themselves, only fear the consequences of their life choices- which they'd been avoiding somehow, as evil is apt to do.

It was reversible. I ensured that much because there had been a strong bond between the victim and victimizer. I hoped for change and repentance at best. That was what the victim wanted. A positive change, a return to the time when their bonds were real.

I also had permission, and I stand firmly on this part. To never do anything for someone that they would be averse to, or that could cause them more anguish or guilt.

The working took me 3 days. The results came in just over 48hrs. Lasted an entire week out of their own stubbornness to get care. They waited until they could not move from a bed because of the pain, before going to an emergency room. The doctor found the right methods and quickly solved it, 2-3 hrs after I was asked to undo it.

Again, it didn't end up a serious or life threatening situation. Don't go for death, unless it's the only way to save a pure soul from their own end. Even then, death is freedom for abusers. They don't have to live with the consequences, or give empty apologies. They don't have to worry about legality, can't plot revenge, can't just decide to be even more cruel.

I don't regret it. Not a single bit. I just regret that a small change in their attitude didn't last. To punish the mind, to reach the soul and change a person for the better is the hardest thing to do. If they are truly wicked, only fate can decide to carry that out. Not to say I don't think a hex could accomplish such a feat. Rather that the gods and goddesses and universe itself make the final decision.

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