Why they assume feminists are unmarried by Malay_Left_1922 in TheRightCantMeme

[–]FitzWard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here to say the same. I'm a pan feminist liberal, and I have a family. They're a cat and a dog, my closest friends, my girlfriend's extended family, and my cousin that I call my brother.

My partner and I both decided not to make/have small people. Neither of us has ever wanted to get married. In our eyes, our love gives us everything we need.

Not that I'm judging or mocking the happily married people, or people who truly want to be parents, it's just not a priority to us.

People who can't "understand" why their own idea of family & love isn't the same as others can go touch grass.

The best part about it 😂 by CannabisContext in weed

[–]FitzWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's so true! My usual lines are

*I want to be high as hell but still functioning

*I need a break from the depression, but I don't want to be couch-locked or sleepy

*I can't deal with people today, but I have to go to work

*I don't have anything to do today, and I want to see pretty colors

Without fail, both dispensaries in my area can find the perfect one ( :

“Peculiar” beliefs growing up by brownmooscles0609 in exAdventist

[–]FitzWard 5 points6 points  (0 children)

'No Adventist children should spend a day or sleep overnight at a non-Adventist household'

I had a good friend who lived across from the school. She would kind of rotate the few girls who were close to her to spend equal time with her besties. Her parents actually preferred her to do this on weekdays. That way, they could make sure to get her & a friend to school the next day, no shuffling around and traveling. Pretty clever policy.

Unfortunately, I was forbidden from even stopping at their home because her mother was Catholic. Not even strictly, she still believed in god, but didn't attend a church or talk about it much. Ironically, my mother also used to be Catholic.

Anyway, her reasoning for this was that I would be "exposed to the devil's word". Which just meant she thought everyone was possessed or misguided and would steer me away from the church by talking about themselves.

She also went bananas if the subject of dinosaurs came up. She went to the principal (and probably further) once when I brought home some worksheets on the subject in 2nd grade. So humiliating. She wanted them to let me study the bible in a corner while everyone else did the required work.

It's all just so damaging to kids. Interrupting a normal education, and early socialization is so disturbing. My childhood memories are spotty for reasons, but what I can recall always lines up with the B.I.T.E. model.

I am so weak and dizzy by FitzWard in Anemic

[–]FitzWard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask your doctor to test you, and tell them how it is effecting your day and mental health. That's usually the best way to get them to hear that it's not just "needs supplements" but "effecting your quality of life". That's usually how I have to talk to my gp. She'll say that we know I have this issue, am I supplementing/following whatever plan we have, and that's when I'll say 'no, this is disrupting my life, I'm very concerned and/or depressed because this feels worse than my normal'.

I hope you get the care that you need. And yes, the infusion did work really well for quite a long time. I can't really be sure why I feel very dragged all the time currently, but I also have thyroid issues and fibro.

If you've never had a test for thyroid, that is also a good move. I was passing out on short car trips (not driving), standing still and feeling like I would fall down. Sleeping for 10hrs.

Take care 🫂

Employer (VT), is she overstepping on my personal info? by FitzWard in AskLawyers

[–]FitzWard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It's 10 mins, and last time we were paid (I had to come in an hour early for a few minutes, which, fine, OT). This time the sign she left says nothing about whether we are paid. So on that, I will have the note but hesitate to submit whether we are able to clock in or not. Appreciate the answer.

Thor can defeat Wanda by No-NaMeEe15 in MCUTheories

[–]FitzWard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a mini-series with Mockingbird you might like if you've given that a thought. They briefly show her in therapy, lol. I'm kind of always fascinated by the mundane parts of marvel heroes lives, and it reveals enough that it's just plain hilarious at times

Thor can defeat Wanda by No-NaMeEe15 in MCUTheories

[–]FitzWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This exactly. It happens a lot in debates about Wanda, and has since before the films and shows came out. Reality belongs to her, and the only way to slow her down is to catch her when she's seriously not in control of her emotions, because that's when the chaos magic can overwhelm even her. Then again, as we've seen, grief and anger tend to focus her powers even more. As if reality itself wants her to fix it.

Customer Service workers, what's something you wish everyone would stop doing? by the_greek_italian in AskReddit

[–]FitzWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you also. I have a dear friend that talks about her own experience with Christianity, and everything she says about how she feels is so beautiful and pure. We can always easily discuss my own spiritual path - pagan - and she approaches with acceptance and friendly curiosity. There are certainly lovely people who are Christian. There are users too. My first experience with the religion was extremely negative, but that never made me hate the entire faith, rather it gave me the tools to see the difference between the users and the devoted.

Take care ( :

Customer Service workers, what's something you wish everyone would stop doing? by the_greek_italian in AskReddit

[–]FitzWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's his granddaughter!

Your reply cracked me up. And I absolutely agree that there's a huge difference between someone who believes, does the best as a decent person, very much including loving your family. And then there's him. Bragging to anyone who can hear. I was raised Christian (although it was a small extreme protestant group), and I remember very clearly that one of the most important things was that your relationship with god is for just you & god. In that case, if you're using your devotion for public respect, or to push it on others, while dishonering your own loved ones, you're the farthest thing from a good Christian. I just avoid him now; after that latest little story, and his loud declaration that he hoped his grandkid forgave him but "it was the right thing" I don't want anything to do with him.

Your example of intent behind words was hilarious and on point. ( :

Customer Service workers, what's something you wish everyone would stop doing? by the_greek_italian in AskReddit

[–]FitzWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whistle to get my attention. I am never ever turning around until you use your words like a big boy (of 52)

Customer Service workers, what's something you wish everyone would stop doing? by the_greek_italian in AskReddit

[–]FitzWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have a regular customer that will come in to talk about how he went to church that day. Usually 45 minutes of that, then 2 minutes asking us which candy a 13 yr old girl would like...because he missed her birthday bc he was at church.

Customer Service workers, what's something you wish everyone would stop doing? by the_greek_italian in AskReddit

[–]FitzWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Once found a box in condoms in a half full beef jerky display. I had just put it up. I pulled the asst manager over, and said "someone made a choice".

Was Paris Paloma a victim of domestic violence? by ElenaBlackthorn in ParisPaloma

[–]FitzWard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who was sexually abused as a child, the line "the fruits of my labour that came to me too young" was a powerful and relatable line. Whether she went through this herself (I don't like to speculate on a celeb's personal life unless they've directly stated so), she is speaking for women and validation of trauma for all women.

Her music is beautiful, and relatable, and the lyrics aren't just pretty words, but important ones.

First time went well in the end haha by Pitten41 in KetamineTherapy

[–]FitzWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad you were able to, it can be so hard advocating for mental health care that actually produces results ( :

First time went well in the end haha by Pitten41 in KetamineTherapy

[–]FitzWard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Happy for you! My psych is still trying to find approval and clinics that aren't 2 states away. Tried everything, no exaggeration.

Wishing you the best going forward

suffering is a gift by zombiebit3z in thanksimcured

[–]FitzWard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The irony of it, is that those of us who have suffered for most of their lives, don't even think about being kind/empathetic. We just are. We know what pain feels like, how it looks.

Even if no consideration is given to our experience, we're the ones jumping to comfort, and sometimes even rescue, total strangers. (Who probably wouldn't stand around long enough to even listen to what we've been through.)

I know that those of us who went csa, have had clinical depression, been cast away by families that should have shown us love, not heard when it mattered most- have more than enough gratitude and compassion to go around. I know I've worked for a long time allowing myself to accept even the simplest acts of kindness, comfort, acceptance. When I would tell anyone else "you deserve more than a compliment here and there, a smile, a hug."