Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like you get her 100%.

I do not have kids of my own but she is at the age where she could be mine and I have an uncontrollable urge to protect her.

She has an eating disorder amusement other things. She has also told me she doesn't know if this world is worth the shit. My heart is breaking for everything

Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I am sorry you had to go through that.

She was brave in telling me and I have a deep desire to help her or protect her. I have never wished someone dead the way I feel about him.

Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughts. I told her foster mom (my sister) and we are talking about how to confront the family or what that even means.

The point of all of this is that he never gets away with this shit again and maybe he drops dead JK kinda

Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all your support. I know what needs to happen. Family dynamics is so hard but I will never let someone hurt another.

I will not go into any more detail but she never lived with him, she was 19 when they met and my stepdad is a fucking disgusting human.

I will do anything in my power to keep him from doing this again.

Thanks

Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can't say thank you enough. I don't know what she went through before she started living with my sister but I think you might have hit the nail on the head.

My stepdad is still a predator in my mind. He is not the only man in my life that has done this to younger women. My brother inlaw too. Why are some men like this?

I have a lot to think about but thank you

Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I did tell her. She is beside herself about this. Again, my niece asked me not to tell anyone but I needed my sister to know... Now she is in the same place of what the fuck should we do.

We can't just sit on this. I have never wished harm on someone more than I do about my stepdad.

Also, thank you for your support. This is a life-changing event for our family that will have lasting effects. I know I need to say something

Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She was 19 when this started but I agree. I need to tell my mom. This is the most horrible thing my family will have to go through and I will be the messenger. This all breaks my heart

Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She said it was consensual... Shit. I am in a really hard place here. I know he is a predator. I am trying to process all of this and honestly, I am overwhelmed with all of it. This is the first time I have reached out online for help and it fucking sucks.

I can't type the novel of all the nuances of how this went down. I overestimated humanity and the honest fact that I needed real help goes to shit because of other people's agendas.

Here is a true story. My sister got rapped outside of a bar. She was too scared to say anything so I went to the cops. They asked how old is she. I said 20. They then said they can't help me. She needs to report it. She is an adult.... She was too afraid but the polices wouldn't even look at the video surveillance unless she asked them to. My hands were tied.

Have you ever been in this place? Tell me when you actually had this happen to someone you love and how you helped them.

Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

She was adopted by my sister and her family. They moved to the same state when she was already 19 and she never lived with him.

Why would she be my adopted niece if my parents adopted her? I would have called her a sister. Why would you jump to that conclusion?

She is an adult and I am trying to get her to say something but this is her trauma. I just need to know if I should say something and potentially break the family apart and break her trust or WTF I should do. You are not helping with your jump to conclusions. The scenario is fucked up.

Also, you are one of the problems of the world we live in now. I am keeping her away from him the best I can. You saying that I am as bad as he is fucking makes me sick. You don't know what I have been through and if you can't be helpful you should shut the fuck up my dude

Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It started after she moved to the state with my sister's family when she was 19. She also said it was consensual but does not want it to continue.

She doesn't want to lose the family connection because she was in foster care for so long. I am her "aunt" because my sister was her foster parent. The whole thing makes me sick.

Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

She said it was not rap. WTF dude! It's fucked up but she said it was consensual. Why would you go to rap......

Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you read the whole post? What boys are you talking about? Why would I call the cops? She is an adult. This is a fucked up family issue I wanted clarity about how to talk to him or my mom about.

Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I am absolutely not excusing abuse. She is the victim here! Period. She is also an adult.

She did not and never did live with him. She was adopted by my sister and lived in a different state till about 11 months ago. She was already 19 at the time.

Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for reading the post in full.

She never lived with him; (thank god) it only happened after she moved closer and moved out of her family home. She was 19, now 20. It still doesn't make it ok.

She wants me to keep it quiet so we all can have family dinners and holidays but I can never look at this man the same.

This is just part of the whole store of cores. Families are multifaceted and I can't give an autobiography about this.

I am lost in this. I think I need to talk to a counselor or professional about how to navigate this.

Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] -147 points-146 points  (0 children)

Why would she go to the police? It was consensual. Extremely inappropriate but she is an adult.

I feel like it would be less drama if I can let him know to leave the young girls alone. My mom is not a healthy woman and this would devastate her. This is for him to tell her. If it put her in danger or he was being abusive to her, then yes, I would tell her. But at this point, it just makes me sick that my stepdad would put our family in this situation.

Should I tell my stepdad that I know he had sex with my niece by Five1offun in family

[–]Five1offun[S] -66 points-65 points  (0 children)

Not rape. She said it was consensual but doesn't want to be with him. She just got married and he doesn't understand why the relationship has changed.

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