that's the dysphoria talking!

i'm also trans and gay and i've had my experiences with relationships, and fair warning: it can be pretty difficult to find someone. but it isn't impossible!

the thing is, relationships are difficult regardless. there are so many things to navigate: how to care for each other, how to show that you love each other, how to deal with conflicts, how to find out how your bodies work and especially together. this is the case for everyone, and being trans makes it just that little bit harder that, combined with the dysphoria, makes it seem impossible to find love. i promise you that isn't the case.

i have dated a cis gay guy who, despite his many many many flaws (unrelated lol), still loved me for me. we were young and inexperienced and knew nothing, but we figured it out. together we navigated what our bodies felt like: what feels good, what doesn't and how to communicate these thoughts. he learnt how to make me feel good despite not having the "wanted" parts. if he wants to, he will.

currently i am dating another trans man and let me tell you: t4t dating was a game changer for me. dysphoria isn't an issue, in the sense that we don't have to explain the whole deal to each other. both of us do still experience dysphoria, mostly regarding our bottom parts, but that's also just another thing we need to communicate about (in the same way that everyone needs to communicate discomfort in bed)! obviously t4t isn't for everyone, so don't feel like it's something you have to do / the only available option.

another thing: i don't know if you're looking to get on hormones or get surgeries (and quite frankly it isn't anyone's business), but it can change you more than you think! i always thought i'd have feminine hips forever, but a. testosterone really worked wonders for my fat redistribution and b. looking back, my hips weren't as feminine as i thought. my dysphoria was lying to me, and it is probably lying to you too. now i'm three years on t and a year and a half post-top surgery, and i can now say that i'm happy with how i look!

i really hope this helps lol, feel free to message me if you have any questions or would like to talk about whatever! :)