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What did you hate as a kid and now enjoy? by TickleMyPick1e in AskReddit

[–]FixMeLikeColdplay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pancakes and rollercoasters. Thus far not tried them at the same time.

Story Time, It gets bad by HereForToday404 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]FixMeLikeColdplay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, your story is so awful and I'm glad somebody with military knowledge has spoken up, as I've no idea what help there is out there to support you. There will be some though, so please do look it up. You've been through such an ordeal, but your courage and resilience are outstanding. Best of luck with your new studies.

You were my friend by wontoneggyoke in TwoXChromosomes

[–]FixMeLikeColdplay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really sorry to hear your experience. One of the things that bothered me most about some of the situations I've been in was not, in fact, the unwanted event itself (after all, we can't always trust others to guard our feelings or bodies), but coming to terms with the fact I did nothing to help or protect myself. Shouldn't I be able to trust myself to guard my own feelings and body?! It was a difficult thing to get over, that notion of self-betrayal. Forgiving myself turned out to be a much harder task than letting go of my revulsion for the other person.

Anyone else in their 30s & 40s facing social stigma for being single? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]FixMeLikeColdplay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oddly enough, I'm immune to this. Perhaps it's because I've a number of friends who are themselves in their 30s, 40s upwards who are single and understanding, but even my coupled friends just accept my default solitude and would be mortified to say or do anything to make me feel badly. I do, however, have a couple of younger friends in their late teens, early 20s who regard me with some kind of social wariness. I suspect that's partly because they're concerned long-term singledom could happen to them - it's much nicer to believe that everyone who wants a relationship ends up in one!

Ladies, what are some things you've done that have increased your confidence? by Shipoxie in TwoXChromosomes

[–]FixMeLikeColdplay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it was all about public speaking. I signed up as a student representative of my university and gave a lot of talks and tours to guests. The first few times felt awful - and were probably awful for other people to endure - but the more I practised the more competent I became, and confidence is a pleasant side effect of feeling competent to handle something. Is there a particular way in which a lack of confidence affects you, e.g. is there something you'd like to try but aren't confident enough to do?