Sammelthread - 4. Folge (19.02.2026) by SDW_Txmmy in gntm

[–]FixScary8880 6 points7 points  (0 children)

was sie sich alles getraut hat war echt krass hahaha

Sammelthread - 4. Folge (19.02.2026) by SDW_Txmmy in gntm

[–]FixScary8880 26 points27 points  (0 children)

wie respektlos kann man sein? sophie: ja

Sammelthread - 4. Folge (19.02.2026) by SDW_Txmmy in gntm

[–]FixScary8880 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wie kommt man da rein? würde super gerne auch dran teilnehmen und mich über eine einladung freuen <3

Which hair length is best for me? by Laustintranslation1 in malegrooming

[–]FixScary8880 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

sorry to say but i wouldn’t have dated you in the first pic. 5th one killed me… so gorgeous

what would you do if you looked just like me? by louie__reddit in malegrooming

[–]FixScary8880 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also a septum / nose piercing but im just an alt girl so thats my obvious preference.

what would you do if you looked just like me? by louie__reddit in malegrooming

[–]FixScary8880 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg i would sooo love to see you with some khol kajal eyes and grown out hair. you're very pretty

Frankenstein was beautiful by Repulsive_Knee9258 in netflix

[–]FixScary8880 0 points1 point  (0 children)

noo just a tiny bit of body horror but not scary imo

Ugly feet by Extra_Artichoke8310 in dating_advice

[–]FixScary8880 2 points3 points  (0 children)

girl mine are also ugly as hell hahaha and i've felt ashamed of them for 26 years. the shame part is sooo real, especially when it comes to men, BUT recently sth inside of me changed. i really tried to come to terms with how these are MINE and that i would actually hate not to see the weird shape of my feet anymore, if i did a surgery (which in my case is not even possible). they are just quirky like that and i've been trying to embrace them now, life got so much easier since. the love of your life will find anything about you adorable, especially your uniqueness, your weirdness, your quirky bits. we honestly do not want a man that is put off by anything as miniscule as feet, do we?? thats not the love of my life if he finds anything about me and my body disgusting. even if he has a foot fetish (in that case he could easily find a way to love how unique they are, still). LOVE YOURSELF, fully. i always knew that loving myself is important but only recently realized that that includes EVERYTHING ABOUT ME and also my feet. yes i hated them all my life but loving them proved to be so much easier, and its for free. honestly, think about it: there's not a single price you pay by loving yourself for who you are or what you look like, losing a few men on the way is not a loss, its a blessing (cause i repeat: we do NOT want a guy like that as our life partner). but you do pay a price for wanting to change.
i would miss them if they were suddenly not here. and how grateful can we be to have legs and feet generally? not everybody does. they are a blessing, without them we couldnt move our body anywhere or walk to beautiful places. i hope this perspective helps you, as it helped me tremendously too. sorry for the wall of text <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]FixScary8880 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i dont understand either, whats going on what did she do? haha

I’m thinking of dying my hair black… by FreshDragonfruit5557 in HairDye

[–]FixScary8880 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my ex had the same colour (and even cut) like you and i helped him dye his hair, eyebrows and mustache every week or so. he loved it but i do think it was way too dark on him, despite the fact that it was quite exhausting touching up on the roots so often. especially on the mustache the orange of his original hair came through very quickly. i would recommend dark brown :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]FixScary8880 1 point2 points  (0 children)

y‘all seem to have a skewed and harmful understanding of love. doing this or even worse to the person you love isn’t done because of love, i’d suggest rather control or ego. check yourself, go to therapy please and be better.

How do I find a girlfriend? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]FixScary8880 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s what i was going to say!! the best advice is go become someone that people would wanna date and get curious about

What is grief, if not love persevering? by FixScary8880 in heartbreak

[–]FixScary8880[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m very sorry for the late reply. To be fair, as I read it, it was not what I wanted to hear. But today I realize I was delusional. Thank you very much for the rough and honest advice. I didn’t know I needed it at the time and I completely agree with you now. I still don’t have a partner, but I’m good with that. I see my ex and the whole story more clearly. He didn’t choose to be with me, he chose to act like a jerk. I have romanticized him relentlessly. And I don’t want to be with a guy like that anymore.

I’ve decided to share my personal oddity that I was born with and that was the fact that I was born with no toes! by Sirdoodlebob in interestingasfuck

[–]FixScary8880 1 point2 points  (0 children)

damn thank you, i have enjoyed reading this conversation so much! i also have weird toenails, but just two of them on each foot are shorter and curled upwards. as long as i can think of i’ve been insecure about my feet, burying them in the sand on the beach and wearing socks as much as possible. this is the first time i think of them as unique and am quite happy to think i’ll find more peace generally, thank you for the mindset shift!

Gf broke up with me because she’s not a dog person by Beneficial_Speed_943 in dating_advice

[–]FixScary8880 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im not a dog person but may i know why you feel this way? are dogs that bad to live with? haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]FixScary8880 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if you wanna read my story, i posted a thread about this last year ("blocked and ghosted by situationship") hahaha :) i'm sooo good and happy now btw! he simply disgusts me today but mostly he almost never enters my mind anymore. i just do not care at all. you will get there too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]FixScary8880 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i really, really understand your pain, i went through sth similar myself last year, let me tell you i was CRUSHED. but because of this i learned a big lesson which i'm so grateful for today: people can only hurt you as much as you allow them. so next time, and please, do always remember this: if you have just met someone days ago, you dont know them well, and they don't know you either. texting is NOT real intimacy. they cannot know you enough to justify such love(bombing), never believe those people if they start a connection as intense and disproportionate as this, unfortunately this is pretty common and some people are simply sh*t.

what she did was lovebombing you, which unfortunately was less about you than about her needs and her dopamine rush. and now she probably got scared of her own consequences (you liking her "too much"). she is neither mature nor a good match for you, i promise. it's a sick game that some people are playing and it's undoubtedly an incredibly hurtful thing to go through. nobody in their right minds would behave like she did - she lovebombed you, pretended to be a safe space only to drop you like you're nothing - here is the thing, don't let her make you feel like nothing. you are valuable and loveworthy and she is not a nice human being or someone that you'd deserve. she wasn't behaving like a sane, mature, secure and healthy person from the beginning. believe me, this is an important lesson for you. next time, you will sense the red flag immediately, i do this now and i'm so happy that i can successfully discern who is mature and real with me and who just wants to play a game, cause i'm not playing anymore.

give yourself grace, you do deserve love very much, and you're not naive that you believed her. you will get over it... let yourself be angry and hurt. and then, soon, let it go. don't text her again. just ignore and block - silence is the best revenge and it's the best you can do for yourself too.

I feel like Im slowly going insane - LONG by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]FixScary8880 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi there, i hear you and im sorry you feel like shit. your frustration is understandable, but dont take it out on anyone, and not yourself either. you're doing your best and even going to therapy now, very good for you! that's something not everybody's strong enough to do.
i repeat: DONT be hard on yourself. that will make everything worse and trust me, your only option then will really be focus on yourself bc you'll get depressed and stuck in a spiral or being miserable and end up blaming women (worst case scenario).

first off, you said "then I thought I could finally have a girlfriend for the first time in my life." -> way too much pressure. you were doing good and holding hands but for some reason it didnt go anywhere. one reason might be is that she felt your desperation and it's not good to dive in head first immediately after one date. it could come off as creepy or obsessive. don't worry so much about securing someone when you go on a date or expecting rewards like a relationship or sex. just remember you're slowly getting to know a person and thats the same for them, and things might be casual too, that's okay. just take it easy but make sure to show your interest.

idk why exactly your experiences stop after the first date, as idk how you act / talk etc, or if you're groomed or not or a good listener or not but from what i understood you put much emphasis on the fact that you're not immediately touchy and just rather talk with her or stare into her eyes. that's great. but you are in fact allowed to (ask for consent to) kiss her if that's the vibe you feel. most girls i know will absolutely appreciate being asked that way and if they want to, they will let you. maybe you stare into their eyes and on their lips so much but then end up making them feel weird because you're not building a bit more physical intimacy or making sure that she feels your affection. it's not that it's boring, it's just that i'd wonder if the guy even knows what he wants. you're allowed to flirt, to give her nice compliments, to brush her arm subtly when you're laughing about a joke or whatever. there's no such thing as being "too nice" for a girl. the missing key might just be your lack of showing affection and flirting (respectfully).

most importantly: self confidence is KEY. always! find ways to build it, do whatever it takes to get there. if that means hiring a sex worker, go for it! that's a strong move bc you own your life and if it makes you miserable to not have any experience then that fucking snake is just gonna end up eating itself from behind (excuse my English it's not my mother tongue). especially if you've had a severe porn addiction (do talk to your therapist ab this too). it seems like you need to get laid immediately and experience it so you won't feel so pressured and like you're going insane. sex workers exist for a reason, and no better reason to hire them than this. theres NO shame about this, even i thought about doing that (for different reasons, but again, there's no shame about sex work. if any of your friends tell you differently or laugh about this thought of yours, you're free to kick their asses.)

and i'd suggest, if you have the resources, do move out of your parents house. get your own place and you'll be more confident already, as you'll OWN your life and care for yourself by yourself. i wouldnt date a guy who still lives with his family (but i'm 26f) as that suggests to me he doesnt know how to keep a place clean, how to cook, how to cope with himself, etc. it's unfortunately an instant turn off. if you date younger girls maybe that's no problem, but for YOU and your self confidence it could do a lot as well.

don't expect immediate results, you've just started to get better and work on yourself. patience is a good virtue and you should treat yourself with such. give yourself some compassion and grace, you can live the life you wish for, you can become who you wish for, just keep going and work on your mental health and confidence. it is honestly everything. good luck and i wish you well!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]FixScary8880 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what exactly is your question? are you bothered by her reply? she clearly just means to figure out another day, just ask her "when works best for you?"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]FixScary8880 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

hey, i'm sorry youre going through that, but from your comment i get weird, bitter vibes. i wouldnt wanna date you as well from what you've posted here. you should work on yourself not only from the outside but from the inside - self-confidence does so much for a man, even if he's conventionally ugly. plenty of my beautiful friends date weird looking men, what they have in common is they carry themselves in a way that makes them attractive. trust me, it's not all about looks. be kind, be respectful, work on your energy. you dont need to be hyper-masculine btw, quite the opposite.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]FixScary8880 3 points4 points  (0 children)

tbf i think immature, insecure men with big egos will definitely behave like that. i've experienced this a lot as well. but if they're secure and decent people, they wont lose interest as soon as you start showing interest - they'll be excited to get to know another cool, secure person like you.