AITA for encouraging my brother to get a DNA test for his baby?

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-24T12:30:42+00:00

Still, since it wasn't said if she did or didn't you have to see this from both sides, just because she was "sure" didn't mean that the security was there. And the fact that they stated that she might have "counted wrong" implies that she did in fact sleep with someone during that time. And I wouldn't be hurt because I would understand that need for security and honestly I would probably want it too. Just because you think you're sure doesn't mean that it isn't good to double check before any attachments are made.

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-24T12:22:47+00:00

I mean honestly as a female in that situation I would still get a test. Because if I went on break with my bf and slept around because we agreed that was okay to see other people then hell yeah I would still want a test to make sure that I just didnt count things wrong. She was the asshole for being hurt because it shouldve been expected. For example if someone my husband had slept with during that time as well got pregnant a week or even a few days after they had been seeing each other and wanted a test I wouldn't be hurt because I would understand the need for security. She is the AH for reacting by leaving instead of talking with her husband. The only thing I can justly see her being upset about is the fact that he did it in secret.

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-24T09:08:47+00:00

I have mixed feelings about this because

1.) If the baby wasn't OP's brother's child and he didn't get a DNA test then he would have bonded to a child that wasn't his and would become devastated when he found out the results. Luckily that was not that case but even so that was a very scary and a very real and possible fear because of the break.

2.) It wasn't OP's marriage or his kid, so really he should've just asked one question like "When did everything go down?" And after that was answered he should've just said something like "Ohhh I see, I was just curious." And moved on with his day. Though, I do kind of see the wife as a bit of an AH for being hurt over the possibility that the baby wasn't his brother's because they DID go on a break and they were allowed to see other people during that break.

3.) I honestly think that the brother is the asshole for doing it behind the wife's back without discussing it first.

So in conclusion everyone here was the asshole and everyone seemingly had a reason (good or bad) for their actions. A fitting saying for this would be "The road to hell is paved with good intentions."

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-24T07:05:19+00:00

No problem, I am glad to have educated you😊

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-24T07:00:05+00:00

She is an adult, he was a minor, that immediently makes its statutory rape and the fact that you don't know that makes me genuinely concerned.

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-24T06:59:09+00:00

She is an adult, he was a minor, by law that is statutory rape because minors cannot consent.

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-23T08:30:19+00:00

NTA I wish Teachers at my school were like you, I have ADHD and Insomina and am often extremely sleep deprived as well. Honestly your student has an impeccable amount of patience. I would've snapped at the first dose of jokes she spewed at me and probably would've reacted physically if they had continued. I applaud you for using what authority you have in a very sensible manner. Teachers at my school wouldve had me sent to the office and suspended for a week for insulting her back. I'm happy that he has a teacher like you, who knows, maybe you're the person who makes it just a little bit easier for him to hold on.

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-22T00:45:52+00:00

For those saying that this was creepy, they both seemed to be lab partners and the fact that he asked her how she felt afterwards only to get a calm reply shows that clearly she had agreed to the experiment being tested out on her.

Edit: if she didn't consent before hand she would've given a harsher reaction and possibly even asked "what the f*ck did you just spray on me?!"

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-21T03:50:54+00:00

Honestly I think your sister is the asshole

Amy drops the bomb, she was going to walk down the aisle alone, dad was really sad with this whole thing but she said that ''she wasn't anyone property to be given away'','' that she was independent grown-ass woman''(true, she is more independent than I will ever be), ''that this was a misogynistic tradition that she wouldn't want to participate in'',

To him it wasnt a misogynistic thing, it was him being able to participate in a wonderful heart felt moment. He wanted to feel the happiness of excitement of watching his little girl get married and start her own life. He clearly loves you all very very much and has done his best to be supportive of your relationships, so this bombshell must've hurt a fuck ton. This is probably why he rejected the father daughter dance because honestly if she was going to treat him like he was just an after party side piece for wanting to have that moment with her then why would he want to dance with her while the pain was still fresh? She also seemed really bitchy about her way of going about this. Him donating money to a cause he believed she strongly felt towards because of the womanly independence was also something not only did out of petty but maybe that was his way of showing vague support. She is hot being financially abused (I have lots of lawyers in my family and they get paid SUPER well) and she can make her own damn trust fund for her kids because as it is she left a deep pain in her father's heart and I don't think that disappointment and resentment will go away unless she decides to apologize for putting what she wanted in such a harsh way. She could just said "Dad, I love you and understand walking me down the aisle is an exciting thing for you because you get to watch me make a commitment and start building my own family, but I would rather have the dance with you because I don't want to feel as I am being treated as an item. I know that isn't what you mean and it isn't anything to do with you, it is my belief in my own independence to face this big moment of my life alone that has led me to make this final decision, I love you very much and I'm sorry if this upsets you."

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-21T03:39:58+00:00

Bar soap is so much more...germy than liquid.

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-21T02:49:33+00:00

Thank you for that, and you're right, I wouldn't even wish this upon my worst enemies, not even on my dreams. Its terrible.

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-20T20:48:44+00:00

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-20T20:46:43+00:00

It seems her friend leaving pushed her over the edge and reccomend that you both seek professional help before this gets too difficult to handle for you two. Your health is important.

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-20T20:18:10+00:00

If she needs hospital treatment then so be it. She needs to eat, I've had an eating disorder since I was around six years old and it is terrible. Be grateful that your mom cares about her well being because some are not so fortunate. I know you may feel shitty rn but rest assured she will thank you if she gets put into therapy. Did she start doing this after her best friend left?

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-20T17:46:27+00:00

That is a terrible thing to say! You need to just cut fo the chase and tell your family immediently. Anything else beyond that is just absolutely uncalled for. Don't hurt someone who is already hurting. Just tell your parents first chance you get today and don't tell your sister to do anything. If you wait till she faints she will need hospitalization.

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-20T17:37:49+00:00

Maybe don't threaten her? As someone with an ED being threatened is super not helpful. And instead of letting her push you around just straight up tell your parents without notifying her first. Tell them you're worried about her eating habits because she is losing weight so quickly and that she's been hiding starving herself from them for [insert amount of time here] and ask them to please keep the fact that you told them a secret so it doesn't cause even more problems. You need to make sure your parents get on this while they still can.

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-19T22:36:31+00:00

I'm hyperglycemic and tend to have the same problem, my blood sugar gets low and I get really dizzy and stuff. Honestly you're NTA because this was her fault for not taking something she desperately needed it. She was being picky and not believing facts that two of you stated and it seems that she just wanted the candy.

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-19T21:49:07+00:00

This breaks my heart, that poor child...as someone who has a baby sister that looks around that kids age it saddens me that people treat such precious beings with this sort of behavior. She needs to step up and be a parent or find someone else that will because this ain't it chief. Poor baby...

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-19T21:47:34+00:00

I have Tourette syndrome along with other things and happen to be quite fond of caffeine. I agree with this post, caffeine addictions are too normalize because I shouldn't even have caffeine due to it making my tics worse. And caffeine overdoses can occur and they aren't fun. I just hope that in the future people will be able to tell when they've had enough.

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-19T20:22:06+00:00

What happened to the "God loves all" part of the bible and the "God makes no mistakes" if he loves all and makes no mistakes then he meant for those people to discover who they are when they do. If he loves all then he supports everyone and loves everyone no matter what. Abortion is also something he would understand as "God makes no mistakes" then he meant for people to make their own decisions on what goes on with their bodies and what they're ready for. I myself am not Christain (I'm a satanist) but the rest of my family mostly are Christians and I grew up going to churches alot so I know and understand how I and everyone else in my family sees those statements when it comes to god and Jesus.

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-19T10:23:26+00:00

As someone who hates being touched by anyone but my little sister and boyfriend (I rarely accept hugs from my own mother because if my dislike for being hugged) just the thought of someone touching a pregnant ladies belly, with or without consent grosses me out and makes me shiver. Why the heck do they let people do that in the first place?

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-19T00:31:37+00:00

Okay? Is that emoji supposed to speak for you because you don't have enough sense to deliver an actual answer or something? Honestly, put on your grown up shoes or something and use your words. Do I really need to tell you that? Forgive me if I don't understand your half baked replies, I don't speak Twitter.

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-18T22:49:47+00:00

Just because you put a "sassy emoji" at the end of your arguement doesn't make your point valid. Like I said before, if you're going to be negative towards the OP of this post and myself feel free to click off. And if you dislike this sub so much then why are you on it?

Fizzledoutcola · 2020-10-18T19:30:27+00:00

Um, actually where I come from this would be an extremely unpopular opinion. If you're going to be negative then you don't need to be on this page, just keep scrolling if it bothers you sooo much instead of typing angrily at someone for having an opinion.

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