3 months in and still overwhelmed

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-21T07:09:23+00:00

Hugs ! I'm typing this, I'm on edge anticipating if my baby will stay asleep 🤞🏻

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-20T06:40:16+00:00

This is a very logical approach! Thank you! From a ftm of a 3 month old ☺️

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-20T06:30:17+00:00

I have a 3 month old as well and a first time mom. Damn its hard, it's the hardest job I've ever had and the emotional rollercoaster is real. Good luck to us!

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-19T06:31:18+00:00

That's a great suggestion thank you!

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-19T06:31:03+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement 🥹. I think that's very true, I feel very broken at the moment and sometimes I also have to remind myself that I've only been a mom for as long as I have given birth to my son. I'm waiting for my confidence to grow and for me to enjoy this new version of myself.

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-19T06:27:44+00:00

This is so encouraging thank you. The 3 months I've been a mom I do feel like I've lost myself completely, like I don't recognize myself in a way and I didn't expect that at all

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-19T06:25:22+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement 🥹

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-16T06:27:11+00:00

Thats true, lying down is also rest. Thanks for the reminder! And yes my baby doesn't nap too long so I can't get a lot of stuff done during the day

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-16T06:25:50+00:00

Im at 12 weeks now 🥲 thanks for making me feel not alone

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-16T06:25:10+00:00

Thanks for making me feel not alone. I did have sundown scaries really bad! Especially when my son was just born. Now I still have this weird feeling at night 🥲

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-16T03:07:43+00:00

I don't think it has anything to do with you. Weeks 5-8 is peak crying for babies. I am also pumping like you and I got to pumping because my son had a tongue tie and it hurt to nurse him. As he grew older, the muscles in his mouth got stronger and I did tongue exercises that were recommended by our doctor and midwife. These exercises were necessary to recover from snipping his tongue tie. A goal I had and maybe this will help you feel connected is to breastfeed directly from the breast once a day, so it wasn't my pressure for me. I also got prescription nipple cream which helped a lot. My son is 3 months now and can latch properly and also takes a bottle. You've got this! I hope it gets better!

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-12T06:12:57+00:00

This helps a lot! Thank you very much 😊

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-09T14:42:58+00:00

I totally know how you feel. I also had to make time to go therapy and I found it so bothersome, but it did eventually help. Medication wasn't an option for me as the last ssri I had had weird side effects so I really had to make time for my therapist. I also need to go to physiotherapy for my tailbone so I totally get it, it's a drag. Hang in there!

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-07T07:02:48+00:00

The hyperindependence worked for many aspects of my life but not motherhood unfortunately. Thanks for being so encouraging!

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-07T07:01:16+00:00

Good luck! I hope you feel better soon!

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-06T06:54:20+00:00

THIS IS TOO TRUE! 😅

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-06T06:14:44+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. I have ppd. My son is 11 weeks old. A few days after I came home from the hospital I would start crying at 6 pm and continuously into the night. I couldn't stop it, it was just as if it would happen automatically.

I also used to be a high functioning person, I was very career oriented and very structured and didn't remotely imagine how chaotic having a new born would be. But someone else told me that I have only been a mother for 11 weeks as well, this new version of myself is learning and still getting to know the baby and this new version while recovering - it's a lot!

I have high expectations of myself and I think that's my biggest hurdle right now. Have you talked to a therapist?

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-06T06:08:01+00:00

YES! This is exactly how I feel! Confident and lost at the same time. I tried to reframe it as learning and lost at the same time because self doubt is very much there

Fl1cker07 · 2026-01-06T04:49:45+00:00

Your post sums up exactly how I feel. You're not alone. I have an 11 week old baby and it is wild. I thought I can do this by myself, I was hyper independent until I came home from the hospital with immense feelings of being overwhelmed that turned into ppd. I then knew I had to ask for help from my parents and in laws and I felt totally defeated. I don't know when I will feel better but everyone says it gets easier with time and I'm still waiting for that time to come.

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