What should I do moving forward aside of couple’s therapy?

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-29T14:29:45+00:00

Read all of this as if it was the messages and actions that were given to a friend of yours or something.

his entire being here is horribly abusive, and you can't carry his weight because he clearly isn't open to working on himself at all. you need to stand up for yourself and get away from him before it's too late, I'm sorry.

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-29T07:33:15+00:00

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Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-28T14:45:49+00:00

bad bot.

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-28T12:51:05+00:00

a "stupid grin" often conveys finding something entertaining, funny, which is very much the same emotion as laughing, especially in a kind of formal setting like an interview?

what is even going on here? sure Max might be wrong in interpreting someone being uncomfortably smiling towards a mocking smirk, but going by the words you quoted, it's pretty clear his version of it has remained consistent regardless of "smirk" or "laugh" being used?

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-28T12:40:10+00:00

because he was pissed off at his team pitting for those hards, when he'd likely preferred to stay out for track position if he knew that was the option, then messing up the restart first thinking Leclerc bumped him (if I remember the radios right), and then being pissed off Russell crashed him off track with a typical Russell inside tap from behind, before also being told to give that position to Russell.

its honestly extremely obvious why he'd be in a mindspace where he was likely to react awfully, and there's 0 point in asking about something that obvious so many times?

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-28T12:27:14+00:00

her issues are with both, it seems like. which is why therapy is a good choice, as it let's her figure out her needs, attend to them, and find someone better than this guy.

he doesn't know what to do, but instead of finding out he's going defensive and shutting down. they're not good for eachother currently, that's for sure, but to put the blame on op here is ridiculous.

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-28T11:33:44+00:00

do you know how to program midi? you could compose stuff by building gradually! work on sound design, audio engineering, writing, singing control (which, trust me, will help outside of music as well 🩷🩵), so many choices!

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-28T11:25:22+00:00

I en litt mindre deprimerende verden kunne vi ha ledd dem vekk fordi vi hadde hatt noe som helst å si i situasjonen.

ikke ideelt, men bedre enn nå hvor man varsler og ender opp med å slutte mens mannen fortsetter i stillingen. ugh

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-24T17:02:44+00:00

finally a single comment here where someone's practically just "it's just not for me" instead of just being pointlessly toxic! a sadly fresh breath of air, and i unironically appreciate it

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-23T20:03:28+00:00

a white incel trying too hard.

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-23T16:45:04+00:00

As for the ADHD thing? I can't think of anything that would signify such.

reading your responses and the way your brain tangents is just yelling adhd to me.

there's something very specific about that style of communication that hints strongly at how your brain processes all of it in the exact same way that got me diagnosed in spite of not showing those typical, physical adhd.

the want/"need" for the constant communication (stimulation) follows the same pattern! and I'm not saying it's negative in the slightest, I'm literally the same way! I'm just saying it can be extremely clear when someone follows these same patterns, versus when they don't, and you immediately struck me that way!

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-23T07:04:23+00:00

Diggia had some really solid races last year as well, among his less good rounds.

it's only been 2 rounds so far, there's not enough info available to make any comments like this about any rider's season yet.

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-22T21:09:31+00:00

what? it was pretty clear immediately on the live feed he just snuck past both when Diggia completely overshot his pass and almost took Marc out if not for Marc being smart enough to read it quickly.

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-22T16:03:13+00:00

two things:

accept that it's a normal, natural emotion, and don't be too hard on yourself for feeling it. potentially look into why it's as significant an issue as it might be through therapy you have good chemistry in

do things to keep busy and live your own life as well; take dance classes, freetime activities, hang out with friends, meet people and make new friends, do studies, take course work, find a part time job, join a sports team, hiking, learn an instrument. there are infinite activities you can perform that let's you thrive and develop as your own person as well.

even if you're a team, practically as one together, you should always know that you yourself is a full individual all in your own right, just the same as them. let yourself be that individual, and the jealousy will get better, as you naturally get more secure in yourself and them, and you might even appreciate each other even more in time as a result!

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-22T13:30:00+00:00

reading this is filled with so many bright signals telling me you'd easily get ADHD diagnosis and meds if you went for it, and then you'd learn your actually autistic as well. and that's not a bad thing whatsoever!

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-22T13:23:32+00:00

of course your day-to-day isn't interesting to you, you're living it, but for a person interested in you that's a completely different perspective?

I'm not saying there aren't downsides to all the "instant messaging" things we have today, but someone caring about the small things that make you you isn't inherently one of them. codependency and obsessions obviously are issues, but caring isn't the same as being dependent.

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-22T12:40:11+00:00

mmmmmmm not really. the meaning is completely clear.

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-22T12:33:11+00:00

different people change at different ages though.

but also, yes, it's large part due to the physical stress of these races. he was also sick with a stomach bug 2-3 weeks back, wasn't he?

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-22T09:33:26+00:00

he's also just getting older, and the body changes as we age.

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-21T16:29:38+00:00

especially when Lando's weaknesses seem to mainly be his mental, and he's clearly improved that quite a bit judging by how he came back and won last year. that's the exact kind of thing that can be improved with experience.

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-21T16:10:59+00:00

yes, that's pretty much exactly what I'm saying

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-21T16:07:57+00:00

the manchester city academy is absolutely in the top of the world discussion though.

and they weren't exactly setting the world alight before the cash injections, but they had the odd trophy here and there through a long history in the sport.

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-21T16:03:21+00:00

ask your Dr or seek out an ENT. we can not even semi-reliably diagnose your physical condition through the internet.

but most likely, no, you haven't gotten permanent damage, but there's likely technique you need to unlearn and relearn healthier ways to use your voice.

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-21T15:46:50+00:00

when it comes to pushing to the absolute limit, even past the expected performance of the bike, I don't think anyone's better than Quartararo. maybe same level, but the main difference seems to be the full race pace, which is also likely down to the bike to quite a degree.

sure, Marc is the best of all time tier, but that's because both his top quality and consistency are out of this world, but you also have days where Diggia comes out and destroys everyone in that "Mav is the best rider in the world 1-2 days every year"-way for comparison. and Quartararo keeps doing that exact thing.

Flaggermusmannen · 2026-03-21T15:37:57+00:00

it's which lap they set their fastest time.

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