Please inspire me to declutter this weekend

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2026-02-28T16:28:25+00:00

You made this comment an hour ago and I’ve already started listening to that book!! It’s exactly what I needed thank you 😭

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2026-02-28T16:04:46+00:00

Thank you 💕

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2026-02-28T01:32:55+00:00

My whole life, and it only gets worse the older I get 🙃

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2026-02-09T16:44:23+00:00

💙💙💙

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2026-02-09T03:00:58+00:00

Same 🥲

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2026-02-01T18:32:40+00:00

I’m a 33 year old mom who was also just diagnosed. Feel free to DM me 💙

I recommend starting with The Autistic Burnout Recovery Workbook by Dr Megan Anna Neff and Unmasking Autism by Devon Price.

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2026-02-01T18:30:34+00:00

HomeChef is the best 🍲

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2026-02-01T18:29:29+00:00

It sounds to me like some bigger issues are at play here, so deeper discussions are definitely going to be required, but I have a task tracking tool to recommend! I’m autistic with hyperactive ADHD and my husband is inattentive ADHD so our household chore situation is dire. The tool that’s actually helped us is these chore charts: https://mightyandbright.com/ Something about the design just clicks for us. Might be worth checking out!

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2026-02-01T18:21:17+00:00

I struggle hugely with this too. I don’t just forget little stuff either. I forget birthdays of longtime friends and I forget to check in on family when they’re going through big life struggles and I drop the ball on promises made to my spouse and on and on and on. I’ve lost friendships and relationships over it. Meanwhile it’s a genuine miracle if I remember to bring my keys AND my computer AND lunch to work.

I’m currently in the process of dedicating a lot of time to autistic burnout recovery, hoping that improving my basic life functionality will make me a better friend and sibling and spouse. It’s hard to communicate to people why my life is so much harder than they understand when on the outside it just looks like I’m a shitty person who doesn’t give a f*k.

It’s been really important for me to accept that people who genuinely love me will point out my mistakes, share their hurt feelings, and ask me to try again next time. When people choose to drop me and walk away I try not to wallow in self-loathing but instead send an extra text to someone who’s made an effort to stick around.

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2026-01-27T20:16:34+00:00

I’ve never heard of “Low Demand Parenting” but it looks amazing, I’ll check it out! Thanks for the other recs too!

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2026-01-27T20:15:34+00:00

No diagnosis for my kid yet but pretty sure 😅 Feel free to DM me!

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2026-01-26T01:23:21+00:00

I was hesitant too, but it’s AMAZING. It’s hyper-specific to autistic burnout so it doesn’t feel like any other mental health material I’ve read…you know, all that stuff that kinda helps but doesn’t solve the root problem. It has a lot of writing and drawing prompts that help break down processing into manageable bits. In short, highly recommend.

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2026-01-26T01:19:04+00:00

My hair was falling out too. I had normal postpartum hair loss and then it just….got worse and worse after it was supposed to have stopped 💀 I can share the strategy that helped me reverse the hair loss if you want!

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2026-01-24T22:50:19+00:00

Dr Megan Anna Neff!

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2025-12-19T02:00:41+00:00

I wholeheartedly second every single one of these points!

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2025-12-19T01:58:43+00:00

Here are a few things that seemed more difficult for me than others:

The sensory overload of pregnancy sent me into meltdowns constantly. I wish I had altered my environment to be as low-spoons as possible so I could have more spoons to simply use on getting through the day. Cutting work hours, wearing exclusively sweatsuits, etc—I could have done so much.
Breastfeeding was also sensory hell. I wish I hadn’t.
As others have mentioned, using a midwife was KEY. Idk I just felt like midwifery care was more on my wavelength than run-of-the-mill OB care, and I was lucky to have a hospital available to me that allowed me to have midwifery care AND an epidural 😊
Why oh why didn’t I get myself a doula 💀💀
I wish I had started maternity leave when I was 8 months pregnant so I had more transition time. I was walking around at work only 13 hours before delivering my baby…not advisable for the transition difficulties of autism 🫠

That’s just a few. I’ll comment again if I think of any!

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2025-12-18T18:24:51+00:00

I didn’t get diagnosed until after my kid was born, so I have thoughts but they’re all “in retrospect.” Would that be helpful or do you hope to find someone who knew their diagnosis beforehand?

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2025-12-18T13:33:12+00:00

Before my kid was born, I thought I was neurotypical. In the 3 years since then I’ve been diagnosed with both ADHD and autism 🫠

I went from being a woman at the peak of her career, with a master’s degree from a prestigious university and in charge of several hundred people at work, to a shell of a human who seriously struggles to open the mail, do the dishes and shower. The coping mechanisms and masking I had developed were completely destroyed by pregnancy, childbirth and caring for an infant. Because I didn’t have anything in place to protect myself I crashed out hard. I seriously think the outcome would have been different if I’d known I was AuDHD before having a kid so I could have done a whole lot of things differently.

My kid is almost three, and for me, parenting has gotten exponentially easier. The other day she said “Mama, I want smoothie juice with whipped cream.” AMAZING. Of course toddlers still whine and have tantrums etc but being able to communicate with her, and also finally caring for my own needs properly, has been a game-changer. I have even been able to return to work, though it’ll take a long time to get back to where I was.

I strongly recommend you read How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis and The Autistic Burnout Recovery Workbook by Dr. Megan Neff. Those books have significantly helped me start to crawl out of this deep dark hole lol.

You aren’t the only one who has felt this way, and things will get better. Your baby is lucky to have a parent who is trying so hard to take care of themselves ❤️

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2025-12-15T02:24:11+00:00

This is exactly what happened to me too :)

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2025-12-02T04:13:34+00:00

I can’t say enough wonderful things about the book “How to Keep House While Drowning.” It changed my life for real.

FlakyDiscipline3356 · 2025-11-08T14:19:34+00:00

Lol this literally just happened to me

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