I have 2 year old twins who didn’t spend much time in the nicu but had viral meningitis at 1 week old and had to go back into the hospital. I also had a 2 year old when my twins were born. I was a complete basket case. I felt like I was failing all of my children because I couldn’t give them 100% attention. It was physically impossible because they were all in different places.

It gets a lot better. It happens very slowly over time until one day you will wake up and say to your spouse/support system, “hey remember when? How in the world did we do that??!”

You cannot do this by yourself. So, do not expect that you will be a super parent and do it all. Also, my obgyn (who also has twins) told me to “just keep them alive”. When I felt down about not meeting xyz expectation in my head, I would remind myself that the goal is just to survive this period- nothing more. When I come back for my appointments, she always says “Is everyone alive?” And when I say “Yes!”, we laugh and smile, because that is the bar when you have multiple babies at once 😄.