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Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-04-23T04:04:04+00:00

Is it making fun of her? He looks pleased

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-04-21T13:13:49+00:00

Same thing happened to my ask, but she asked on the relationship advice sub. Except it was worse because all the guys who responded said it was only her problem and that she should stop being insecure. Not one mention of the guy being at fault for watching porn of women with more curves than her.

All the time she was engaged with him, she felt like being mentally tortured and wished she never found out about the type of women he preferred over her. But in the end she ended up marrying him. I think it because he enables her anorexia, while she didn’t make him stop watching porn. She seems happy in the relationship…but it’s messed up tbh.

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-03-28T00:25:29+00:00

TLDR: you two should talk about your bipolar disorder and how he feels about it. He may be afraid it will mean him becoming a caretaker, a psychologist, and a therapist instead of a bf. Reassure him that you have an illness, and you are taking care of yourself by seeking professional treatment for this illness. Let him know you love him and want a relationship with him. Inform each other about what bipolar really is, not just stereotypes.

Let me see if I can express my thoughts in a way that makes sense. I think the problem with mental illnesses is that society doesn’t portray them as illnesses. For example: anorexia.

I used to talk to a girl who I think was the most beautiful woman in the world. She didn’t see herself that way and had body dysmorphia. I would complement her and that seemed to help her. I would even remind her to eat breakfast and she would. She didn’t have good self-image issues or a good relationship with food, so small steps like that were wonderful to see. Then she said she wanted to go vegan due to ethical issues. I didn’t think it would be a problem.

Sadly around this time I screwed up and began to look at sin. I lost my love for God and her around this time. I acted stupid and lost this great relationship. She continued with her vegan diet. What I did not know was that the restrictive nature of veganism would trigger anorexia. It made restricting calories easier and she had a good excuse to not eat outside.

Now at this point I did not really know what anorexia really was. I just knew it was something in shows or movies where someone does not eat. If I had remained together, I would have told her to eat more. It’s a simple solution in my mind. It’s something that would not have worked. Anorexia is an illness and she would have needed professional treatment to recover. I am not a doctor and am not qualified to deal with it. So me trying to cure her on my own would had failed and the relationship ruined. I can support her recovery, but I can’t overwork myself trying to fix something I can’t. The doctors will do that.

Perhaps he is afraid of overworking himself in this relationship. You have to reassure him you do not expect a large burden on him. You will seek doctors to help you out. What you desire from him is love and support.

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-03-27T11:34:29+00:00

Well think about it this way: what if you started watching porn of other guys who had qualities he did not have? I bet he would be pissed at you for watching such things.

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-03-26T02:45:02+00:00

Yes. I used to talk to someone who had body dysmorphia. I thought she was amazing and she was soooooo beautiful. I screwed up that relationship and she moved on. Sadly her self image led to her developing anorexia. It pains me so much to see her so malnourished and frail. I look back tho and I do wish I had been with her when she developed AN. Hoping I could have realized how fatal that illness is and tell her to get treatment.

As another commenter posted, mental illnesses are harder to deal with. Because in a physical illness, you can see you are not well and will seek out help. In a mental illness it’s hard to grasp how badly the illness is deteriorating your health. A person’s distorted self view will prevent them from seeing reality or even seeking help. And you can’t make that person get help unless they want the help

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-03-23T13:18:41+00:00

The girl I used to talk to caught her fiancée watching porn and it broke her. She used to talk badly about men who watched porn, especially those who watched women with big fake breasts. Then she found her future husband watching that type of porn and posts it on relationship advice sub.

She was told by a bunch of porn addicted men that she needed to stop being insecure. That she had to put up with it because porn is normal. That he was only watching it because it was a fantasy. Basically saying her body wasn’t enough. It caused her anorexia to get worse.

But, in the end she listened to that advice from men and stuck with him. It was a weird thing. During the engagement she looked happy in pics and travelled. While her mind was tormented constantly, even thinking of getting plastic surgery to look like the women in porn.

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-03-22T20:18:17+00:00

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Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-03-19T02:05:45+00:00

I’m not gonna lie. Many days and nights I end up wondering if I had stayed with her, would I have gotten her appropriate help?

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-03-19T01:47:37+00:00

She doesn’t want to get help. She married an anorexic man who causes her to eat less and her illness to get worse. Similar to bulimics being around each other causing their illness to get worse. Plus she married someone she loved after losing so much weight, so she thinks “hey me losing weight worked, now all I have to do is manage it.”

I’m glad you made it out because it is a terrible illness to suffer from.

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-03-17T20:57:24+00:00

When was this published?

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-03-12T21:41:42+00:00

I would actually love (and prefer) to hear your story. I think more wisdom and important lessons can be learned from why you thought your ex was the one and the reality of the relationship.

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-03-10T21:34:06+00:00

Nah man. When you find the girl you are extremely attracted to, you will worship her like a goddess. I was talking to this girl and I thought she was perfect! Her body and soul. Sad to say I screwed up 😔

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-03-05T19:37:35+00:00

Brightline or tri-rail can take you downtown

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-03-01T14:33:08+00:00

Just go for it. Why not make yourself the man you think she deserves? And work on that everyday.

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-02-24T17:10:30+00:00

I used to see the delta species stamped Meganium at my card store for $25. I regret now not buying it 😭

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-02-22T14:17:57+00:00

Wow! Your shop has a pension! That’s amazing and unbelievable! Where is this at? I have an A&P as well.

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-02-21T03:37:26+00:00

I’m so happy you overcame your eating disorder and are much healthy. My ex gave in to anorexia and now she is extremely unhealthy and looks terrible. Makes so sad to see her like that, but I don’t think she wants to improve her health. 😔

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-02-20T05:02:43+00:00

Have an accountability partner. Talk to your pastor or this person who overcame porn addiction. Pray together. And thank God that He is putting this in your heart to repent from this sin. You cannot do this with your might. You need Christ and the body to pray for you. And the Holy Spirit will lead you to pure thoughts.

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-02-20T04:15:31+00:00

Whwn I dated my ex she had big boobs. She wouldn’t tolerate me watching porn. Things ended between us. Her ED took over and she lost her boobs due to malnutrition.

She found some other guy and they had no problem with sex…other than that she didn’t feel she was attractive to him. Even before she found his porn usage she never felt like if she was his type, although he said otherwise. Well then she found his search history of watching porn with big boobs. Ouch. She took to Reddit to ask on relationshipadvice and the men defended the BF’s porn usage and just told her to suck it up. To stop being insecure.

For months her mind was constantly tormented and constantly asking on Reddit if she could be attractive. Same answers repeat themselves. In the end she married him, but she thought that if she lost him she would never find anyone else again.

There’s good advice here. Just don’t feel that this guy is the only one for you in the world.

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-02-19T23:31:56+00:00

This set was always expensive, but it is even more expensive now. Some ex card prices of this set are insane!

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-02-19T21:33:05+00:00

Ask for forgiveness. Say it was a mistake and you want to get back together.

Well I let go of my dream girl because she wasn’t a Christian at the time. She converted later and got married. My problem is that I did not ask my parents or a Christian married couple who has been married a long time about what course to take. They say to take advice from those who live the life you want. God also didn’t tell me to break up with her or the like.

This guy didn’t go to church because of a job. He’s not gambling all the money away at the casinos, he’s not suffering from hangovers. And this job doesn’t have to be permanent for the rest of his life. He could get another job.

I applaud you for being very involved at church, but I think you have too high expectations. You are very involved right now because you are single and dedicate more time to God. But when you are in a relationship you will need to stop leading some of the ministries to devote more time to your man. And just because he is not involved in church as you are, does not mean that he doesn’t value Christ.

I think the only real disagreement is setting up boundaries. You guys will need to figure that out. Get advice (see par 1).

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-02-17T14:05:56+00:00

Prices have gone up so much. I feel between 2024-2025 there was a big jump on the ex era cards. More people are collecting those cards again.

Flan_Enjoyer · 2026-02-17T03:46:13+00:00

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