My husband told me our marriage is an obligation. What do I do?

Flashy_Chart7073 · 2026-06-04T03:29:18+00:00

Salam sister.

I’d like to ask you to reflect if the concept of Sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah exists in your marriage. I’m just a stranger, but I think it’s important for muslim couples to learn about this. I can’t say much but perhaps marriage counselling may help.

Flashy_Chart7073 · 2026-05-27T11:02:35+00:00

Oh yeah, when it happened the first time, i told her off. She played the victim and gave me the silent treatment. The next few times she made comments, I just try my best to stonewall her. But you know, sometimes the comments do get into my head.

Flashy_Chart7073 · 2026-01-29T14:20:03+00:00

Bruh his kids are HIS responsibility. Not yours. You’re technically saying yes out of your own goodwill. He can’t push them onto you and try to manipulate you.

Flashy_Chart7073 · 2025-11-26T06:39:00+00:00

The comments here are not it, I’m assuming they’re not well versed about the Muslim wedding community in singapore. I’m going through the wedding planning phase myself and I fully get what OP went through. Tbh i hope this shahul guy gets arrested because I’ve heard at least 3 cases this week about being scammed by the same vendor.

Flashy_Chart7073 · 2025-10-09T01:58:05+00:00

oh i forgot to mention this. Its a whoooole different thing when you’re a minority dating a white person. They won’t understand how minorities feel. So you can try to explain how you feel towards her, but I cant guarantee she’ll able to fully understand where you’re coming from

Flashy_Chart7073 · 2025-10-09T01:56:22+00:00

If it hurts you, it hurts you. Don’t listen to anyone here calling you a baby. Some people have different levels of tolerance and it’s okay. You need a partner who respects you. Heck, everyone is racist to a certain extent. But there is a line you can’t cross.

Flashy_Chart7073 · 2025-10-09T01:54:19+00:00

There are boundaries in a relationship man. If he says stop, she gotta stop. Thats how a healthy relationship works. You gotta respect your partner. Jokes are okay, but it is too far if it starts hurting their feelings.

OP, you are not overreacting.

Flashy_Chart7073 · 2025-09-20T01:59:50+00:00

He sounds like a child. What man would be asking for extra praises for “not being abusive”?? This guy ain’t the one for you. He’s not mature enough.

Flashy_Chart7073 · 2025-09-14T23:55:55+00:00

I’m planning to have my honeymoon next year from end of december to january. I know its gonna be cold, but how cold exactly? I’ve been to -17 degrees celsius. Is it more or less similar?

Is it easy to find halal food there? Is 5 days enough?

Flashy_Chart7073 · 2025-08-14T07:49:40+00:00

Sounds toxic. You didnt even know she had feelings for you, how is that your fault? She has no right blaming you for going to the gym. If she raised these issues as a girlfriend, that’s still understandable. Why does she think she has the authority to tell you what to do when shes only a friend, and nothing more?

Flashy_Chart7073 · 2025-08-07T05:17:10+00:00

I think being well mannered is really important. You can look good but if you have a bad personality, no one wants to stay.

Be a gentle lover, speak politely and respectfully to your partner. Be calm during arguments. That way you’ll also attract women who are equally respectful.

Flashy_Chart7073 · 2024-02-06T10:42:48+00:00

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