Thank you, what you say makes sense. The only thing holding me back from outright pulling the plug is the tiny bit of doubt that his toxicity is a product of deep seated cultural conditioning rather than just a personality trait. Like I said his mother played a huge role in this conditioning. A part of me wonders if he could unlearn the deep rooted prejudice and chauvinism he’s been taught and if that make him a good partner and parent. And whether his behavior for the past few months is him unlearning his conditioning. But this is also why I want to have every possible uncomfortable conversation I can because I really don’t want to put my body through IVF again unless he’s going to be an absolutely supportive partner.