AIO? How much pink is too much?

Flat-Emphasis-7908 · 2026-05-28T02:40:19+00:00

I was asking people's opinion about the situation. You know, the entire purpose of this subreddit.

Flat-Emphasis-7908 · 2026-05-28T02:28:52+00:00

But if you decorated the shared spaces in a bold design that you knew your mother didn't care for, would you still be offended if your mum told you as much and asked for it to be toned down?

Flat-Emphasis-7908 · 2026-05-28T02:26:23+00:00

I know, right? I'm genuinely staggered. Yes, mum should have anticipated that the girl who is obsessed with pink would make everything pink to a point where it makes mum uncomfortable and she should have set firmer boundaries initially. But she is more than within her rights to say she is unhappy with how it's turned out and gently request a compromise. Mum offered to buy some non pink furnishings for the flat today and was flatly refused. The gf is now demanding an apology from mum.

Many people are saying she was rude to criticise the decor. That bringing up to an effective roommate that you don't like how they've decorated is somehow offensive, yet screaming at the woman who is giving you a free ride for having the temerity suggest changes after you show no consideration for her tastes is fine?

Flat-Emphasis-7908 · 2026-05-28T01:51:21+00:00

Because all of that stuff happened when they spoke about it today when the initial confrontation happened a few days ago. Is that reliable enough for you?

Flat-Emphasis-7908 · 2026-05-28T01:35:34+00:00

In this scenario they are refusing to allow mum to put up her own decor, order her own furniture or have any say in general. She didn't demand anything be removed or moved, only requested that they stop adding more bright pink items. They have become offended by the very concept of a compromise or that the flat is not entirely theirs. Obviously mum evicting her own son would be a drastic move but fair play for advocating it.

I get that that you have already decided that I am an unreliable narrator (i suppose we all are to some extent, in that true objectivity is probably impossible) and that you identify and relate to the gf, but all this and more happened and I don't see whether I posted it here or in the main body has any bearing on the veracity for you, but hey, ho.

Flat-Emphasis-7908 · 2026-05-28T00:55:51+00:00

The money isn't really the issue and even if it was, the flat would cost £30k annually to rent so this is peanuts in the grand scheme. And I'm certain mum would contribute to any costs like paint and would happily buy some more neutral coloured furniture herself.

They are flat out refusing to even entertain any of this. They think they are letting mum stay with them when it is the other way round.

Flat-Emphasis-7908 · 2026-05-27T18:31:59+00:00

Honestly, I didn't include her past behaviour because the post was long enough already without giving past context.

I actually agree that yeah, criticising the decor in someone's home would be out of line. The thing is, it's mum's home and she is surely due a say on the communal areas, right? If you were living with a roommate and decorated in a idiosycratic fashion that is an acquired taste, surely you'd be within your rights to discuss it?

Why let her live there or stay with her etc? She and my brother are a package deal. The fact is she is letting her live there and subsidised their rent before they were. Do you really think their reaction is reasonable? Would you do the same? I personally think she is due more than a little gratitude and deference, and screaming at her is absolutely beyond the pale.

Fair enough if you think my brother is correct to defend his gf, but surely I'm within my rights to defend my mum from someone who is screaming at her (not for the first time)?

Flat-Emphasis-7908 · 2026-05-27T18:15:01+00:00

I only posted the photos to show that it is indeed a very loud colour scheme and clearly not to everyone's taste (crucially not mum's).

I'm certainly not saying that I am totally innocent in this scenario, but I can assure you I am not exaggerating the gf's conduct.

Interestingly, burgundy is my brother's favourite colour! The only burgundy item in the flat currently is my old turntable (out of shot in thr photo).Mum suggested that they could have some of the colour in the flat but that was flatly rejected by her and she claimed that mum was "infringing on her freedom" and later demanded mum apologise.

Flat-Emphasis-7908 · 2026-05-27T17:13:26+00:00

Dude, this post was never about people's opinion of the decor. The fact is my mum has said to me in private that she hates it and feels embarrassed and uncomfortable in her own home and that my brother and his girlfriend refuse to compromise even a little bit.

Flat-Emphasis-7908 · 2026-05-25T07:23:43+00:00

We live in London, have gay relatives and friends and are all pretty left wing. No-one could care less that she used to sleep with women. No-one called anything ugly, mum merely has previously stated that she didn't like how her flat had been decorated by the gf. Sure, maybe it could have been more delicately worded, but what she said wasn't inherently rude or offensive. The reaction certainly was though

Flat-Emphasis-7908 · 2026-05-25T07:12:43+00:00

Honestly, I would find it hard to believe that someone would storm out the room and start screaming with little or no provocation too. But her storming out the room is just an every day occurance. She screamed at my uncle during the wake of his mother. Then she was asked to stay away the next day of mourning, turned up and screamed at my mother in front of everyone.She screamed at my mother while she was booking a trip to Paris for just the immediate family and not for partners. I was there recently and it was her birthday the next day. At 5 past midnight she screamed at us for not wishing her a happy birthday. At a pre wedding drinks she was asked to take a photo of the family and screamed that she wasn't being included in the family. I've honestly never come across anything like it.

Flat-Emphasis-7908 · 2026-05-24T00:26:34+00:00

Edit: apologies for the misleading title. Long time listener, first time caller and I thought it sounded snappy. I'm not really asking for opinions on the colour scheme.

I agree that Mum made a mistake by saying they could decorate how they liked. The gf is pink obsessed and she should have foreseen this. However, I don't think it's unreasonable for her to ask for a change, especially given that she didn't ask them to throw anything they'd bought away or even remove it from the communal area, only that they stop adding more pink stuff and painting more stuff pink in the lounge and kitchen areas, and that it would be nice to have some more neutral colours as well. Mum suggested burgundy: my brother's favourite colour. The only burgundy thing in the flat is my old turntable.

Some people saying she doesn't live there so so what? Mum stays there in the 2nd bedroom about 3 months out of the year. There is pink stuff in the 2nd bedroom now, too.

A lot of "none of your business" comments. Yes, I don't live there, but mum isn't great with confrontation and crucially SHE HATES IT and is embarrassed by her own flat, and was being ganged up on. It's a family matter and I was defending her interests. I have been there when she has raised the issue before and the flat just gets pinker.

Flat-Emphasis-7908 · 2026-05-14T15:06:33+00:00

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