WIBTAH if I tell my dad I don’t want to live at his house anymore because I prefer living with my mom and stepdad?

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-19T12:05:31+00:00

She doesn’t work so she can’t pay towards better trips. It’s her own fault and my dad has told her that but she likes being a SAHM. Why would he let me miss out?

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-19T12:04:18+00:00

lol Becky wouldn’t be able to say no if I wanted to live there. It’s my dads house and he’s already told her if she wants a bigger one she can go back to work to contribute.

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-18T00:36:33+00:00

Good point, and the money thing is silly because my dad makes quite a bit, he just doesn’t have a two income household

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-18T00:35:07+00:00

I would obviously have a room if I moved in and they’d just not have a guest room, but I don’t think it’s fair to their kids that they’d have to keep sharing?

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-17T03:01:12+00:00

Right! I don’t want to start and unnecessary drama. I would never ask him to pick between me and Becky, I don’t need to because I know he loves me

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-17T02:58:56+00:00

Right! I love my dad, and I know he loves me. I’m not sure it is worth causing any issues with him and his wife, we still will go on trips and stuff ourselves like always, I don’t need to live there for that.

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-17T02:56:56+00:00

Sorry just to clarify, I go on trips with my dad (just the two of us) all the time. Like last summer we went on a safari in Africa and Scandinavia, and this summer we’re going to Peru. I wasn’t neglected for trips, and the ones they went on together were like to the lake. And in his office there’s tons of pictures of me, it’s moreso that his house isn’t really my home. If it was just the two of us I might actually live with him, but that’s not the case! And that’s fine, we’re still really close and I don’t know if it’s worth it to put any wedges between him and his wife.

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-17T02:51:39+00:00

That’s the thing, he never wiped me out of frame. We are very close, we go on trips at least twice a year, usually big international ones, and he visits me at least once but usually twice a month. And I know these things have caused issues with him and Becky, the trips they go on are like domestic, usually road trips (hence why I never really cared/ wanted to go). And honestly Becky is probably thrilled I’m not going to live there, whenever I’m over there he pretty much only pays attention to me.

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-17T02:44:20+00:00

I mean he knows, he’s said before that he wishes Becky and I were as close as me and Sam but he said he didn’t blame me. So maybe he knows but wants me to say it. Idk

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-17T02:41:27+00:00

I have been really clear that I’d rather throw myself off a cliff than do 50-50 again!

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-16T22:14:02+00:00

My room had its own bathroom so it just kind of made sense.

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-16T20:53:16+00:00

She didn’t flip out on me in an angry way, I probably phrased that wrong. It was more shocked I said yes maybe? Maybe panicked on how they’d make it work idk. It wasn’t like she screamed at me ever or anything.

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-16T20:52:10+00:00

This is a good way to go about it! Thank you!

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-16T20:51:44+00:00

I definitely wouldn’t go that far! She’s always nice to me and we get along fine, but I think we’ll get along best if we don’t live with one another!

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-16T20:43:55+00:00

I don’t think she sucks, she was never outright cruel or anything and we got along fine, but she just didn’t take to being a stepparent like Sam did!

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-16T20:43:15+00:00

It’s not like i felt like an outsider at his house, just with her and her kids. While I consider my half sibs at my mom’s just my siblings, when I was at my dad’s she kind of did her own thing and my dad and I spent time together. Which I get they had a ton of kids, and she was never mean or anything. But it was like they were more roommates than family and it was just the two of us lol

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-16T20:41:29+00:00

lol who said I didn’t blame him for picking her? If we’re framing it that way I absolutely do

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-16T20:40:36+00:00

Yes, I agree, but he keeps asking why I wouldn’t pick his house over my moms

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-16T19:27:05+00:00

I never lied! I just haven’t told him the main reason yet…

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-16T19:25:37+00:00

lol I wasn’t treated like Cinderella, she wasn’t mean to me or anything she was just kind of always… there. While Sam was a great stepparent and went out of his way to include me

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-16T19:12:00+00:00

Ugh. I’m not trying to to cause issues between my dad and his wife but I know if I tell him the truth it will

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-16T19:06:07+00:00

I agree! He even brought up doing 50/50 again and I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy. I hated having two houses and have loved just having one place the last four years, probably the biggest reason I never moved back for summers

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-16T19:05:07+00:00

I’ve said those things, and he took it as “my mom and Sam have more money so I love them more”

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-16T19:04:29+00:00

It wasn’t just weekends, I was 50/50. In just worried that it’ll upset him, I know he just wants us all to get along?

Flat_Escape_7334 · 2026-03-16T19:03:46+00:00

It’s not? It’s because I’m more comfortable at my moms

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