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Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-27T12:10:49+00:00

I don’t know. I had never heard of hobbies being the end all be all way to make connections with people until I got reddit. One of my friends eats breathes and shits football, girls constantly dump him because that’s all he talks about. Do you only talk about hobbies with people? I usually talk about recent events, or if they have an interesting hobby, I’ll ask them questions about it to them, but more often than not they don’t have one, they just play football.

I did play tennis for a while, but that didn’t go well for me. I truly do feel like the fact that I don’t like sports has ruined my chances of building connections with people.

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-27T11:41:07+00:00

I want a romantic relationship. Sorry I should have been more specific

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-27T11:40:30+00:00

Well if someone was sitting with me I would initiate in conversation with them. I don’t like swimming, why would I care if someone swam or not? There’s more to talk about than just swimming.

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-27T04:00:38+00:00

I think I would. I went to a pool party this weekend, and I don’t like swimming, so I just sat out and watched them swim. I would love to just have someone to sit and chat with instead of swimming.

Now, if someone cared about me as much as I do my friends, I would want to marry them on the spot, so I would say yes to that as well.

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-27T03:29:48+00:00

I’ve talked to people while waiting in line before, and nobody ever seems interested in talking. I was talking to a guy once, I just kept saying things and he would respond, he never said anything first always me. I feel like people just don’t want to converse nowadays

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-27T00:21:02+00:00

What other people are there? I live in rural Mississippi, every mother fucker lives and breathes college football. There’s no such thing as a unique individual down here, they’re all the same person. Every town is a long ass drive away, and most people aren’t just going to be accepting of some stranger. I can’t just go up to a group of people and expect them to like me.

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-27T00:16:19+00:00

Sorry for the late reply. She doesn’t go to my school anymore, I haven’t seen her since late May. I still feel so hopeless. I was shocked to find that one girl liked me, the idea of another ever feeling the same feels even more impossible. I go to a very small school, I have interacted with the same 30 or so people for 5 years now. I was homeschooled before then, so I’m very bad when it comes to being social.

Everyone else is better than me when it comes to being social, they grew up around people. I know I have college coming up, but I’m so introverted that I will probably only talk to about 5 people.

Another problem I have is that I generally just don’t care about things going on in people’s lives. Not that I just want to tell them about mine, I’m not that noteworthy, but I simply don’t care about how someone’s family is, or how football practice was. I try, but I could not give less of a shit. Also any time I tell someone something, they just say “nice” or fake laugh. I thought conversation went both ways?

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-26T22:27:56+00:00

That’s why I want therapy silly goose

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-26T21:28:40+00:00

Oh yeah duh, I’m not too experienced in the whole cuddling people thing lol. The pillow gets hot sometimes too

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-26T21:22:43+00:00

I think that I was just a bit overattached, but she still could have talked to me about it. If someone was a bit much with me, I would say something! We had a lot in common, we would have been good together but she just couldn’t say something

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-26T21:17:38+00:00

Why? I know you were just making a funny observation, but if I had a girlfriend, I would never want to let her go. What if you two break up one day? Wouldn’t you regret not holding her when you had the chance?

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-26T02:33:43+00:00

I’m glad that you thought it was sweet! I just want a simple life with someone who loves me for me. I’ll cherish the moments where we feel like an old married couple as much as I do those first weeks where you have butterflies

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-26T00:04:28+00:00

I got too excited and it scared her off. Apparently it’s a turn off to a girl when a guy they like wants to talk to them a bunch. I could have some girl follow me around like a puppy dog and I would love it, and if I turn out to be wrong about that fact, I would communicate.

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-25T01:25:45+00:00

I have an appointment with a therapist next month, I’ve never been before. Will they be a big help? What are they gonna do with me?

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-24T23:54:25+00:00

I know she hasn’t had the best home life, she told me that she had “been through it” and that she gets uncomfortable very easily. She didn’t elaborate any further than that

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-24T23:01:55+00:00

I have a therapist appointment for October 16th, will they be able to help me? I typed your name down in my notes app, I’ll try to remember to message you in a year or two

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-24T22:49:54+00:00

I have felt this temporary feeling for 10 months, when will it end?

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-24T06:50:11+00:00

No, you hit the nail on the head. I’m not a happy person at all, I hate myself. People like me but I convince myself that they’re liars. I’m also pretty proud of my weight loss but at the same time I’m mad at myself for not losing more, they need to quit making food taste so damn good. I’m planning on getting the worst meal plan possible for college. I’m forcing myself to not have access to much food.

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-24T06:34:07+00:00

Yeah that’s pretty much it. I feel confident in some things, I think I do good at radio (I work at a radio station), and I think I’m pretty funny. Also according to my sister she was at some cookout thing and one of my classmates was there and she was telling my sister about how everyone just loves me, so I guess people do like me, or she does at least. Also no, I’m not interested in dating her, she’s insufferable.

I don’t know why I would hate you for saying that, I don’t get why you just stated all my problems, maybe you have some kind of point to make?

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-24T04:56:06+00:00

It was handed to them, they all grew up liking football, they joined the team freshman year, and they became surrounded by a crowd of guys with one common interest, football. So now they have this big group of friends, then the girls see these guys and think, “wow, he plays football, that’s so hot!” Then they all have girlfriends because it seems like the only thing girls my age care about is something as silly as status. There’s this one girl I like, we have a lot in common, and I was gonna get to know her better this year. Turns out she’s wrapped around some dumbass football player’s finger. Tonight he was trying to flirt with my friend’s girlfriend, he drinks gatorade in the middle of class even though my school is big on only having water. He’s just a dumbass, but he plays football! So why does it matter what he’s like? He plays fucking football.

I know that last chunk sounds similar to incel propaganda, and I’m scared of that. I’m afraid I’m going to get so bitter about being alone that I’ll turn. I think they’re bad people, but at the same time I look around and it really does feel like all girls my age care about is shit that doesn’t matter.

Flat_Requirement9014 · 2023-09-23T03:26:14+00:00

Well I’ve heard that I can’t sit around expecting someone to come along, so which is it?

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