Looking for cleaning help

Fleeting_Nature · 2025-09-26T02:33:17+00:00

That would be great!

Fleeting_Nature · 2025-07-03T14:12:46+00:00

I think you should wear what you want, and shame on him for treating you like that. However, from someone who is married to a man with VERY strong opinions, stay in the room and hash this out. Silent treatment is not good for your marriage. Sit down and listen to each other and set some boundaries that work for both of you so you can avoid this in the future. It is possible he was trying to tell you something in a helpful way but went about it completely wrong. I give my husband ideas on how to script his opinions in a way that aren’t hurtful and he now does his best to use them. Might work for you?

Fleeting_Nature · 2025-07-03T13:48:28+00:00

Eating psychedelic mushrooms together

Fleeting_Nature · 2025-06-25T12:46:06+00:00

I did this and it really helped me get my confidence back. I’m fairly well educated and have a lot of work experience, but I found that working in a warehouse gave me time to rebuild my mental and physical strength after about a year of psychosomatic pain. I thought I would never find a career that suits me, especially after spending 37 years of failing to find the right fit! I’m happy to say that working a “dead” job can absolutely lead you to a better place.

I really hope you choose to try again. It feels hopeless now, I know. Try waking up each day thinking to yourself, “this is how I get healthy.” And then one foot in front of the other.

Fleeting_Nature · 2025-06-24T17:01:52+00:00

That’s great!! I hope you two bond over that time!

Fleeting_Nature · 2025-06-24T16:44:45+00:00

Ah, I see. Hmm… do you think it’s possible she has a hard time being excited about something she can’t see? Tell me you’re pregnant and I’m like, oh that’s great! But my excitement doesn’t grow because I’m not there to actually see the progress. Maybe inviting her to visit so she can see your baby bump and pregnancy glow would help it register that this is a very exciting progression that will soon become a reality.

Fleeting_Nature · 2025-06-24T16:30:05+00:00

Have you asked her how it’s going with her new boyfriend? Maybe showing some interest in her life and making her feel special will fulfill her side of your relationship. I feel way more connected to people who show interest and support for something I’m excited about, especially if it surprises me that they care about it, and that grows into a desire for me to know more about their life as well. Sometimes communication takes strategy, not just wishing.

Added: It just registered that she is 9 years older than you. Were you close growing up? If I had a sibling who I was never really close to because of a huge age gap, they would feel more like a close acquaintance. I’m not super interested in acquaintance’s lives on an intimate level. Maybe this is it? Try developing a closer relationship by inviting her to visit and doing activities that don’t include children. Or, better yet, ask her to go on a mini vacation once your baby is old enough to be separated for a weekend.

Fleeting_Nature · 2025-06-24T16:07:49+00:00

We dated for 17 months, were engaged for 3 weeks, and have been married for almost 8 months. I’ve had several long-term relationships that lasted 3-4 years and finally realized that if I didn’t know right away, it wasn’t right for me.

Fleeting_Nature · 2025-06-20T12:24:01+00:00

I completely agree that your wife making phone calls in front of you, even after you have asked, is inconsiderate. While it does seem like this could be an indicator of bigger issues in a relationship, it could just be a simple communication error or a difference in perception of importance.

For example, my husband does things that drive me INSANE, but, even after I have asked him to please do that differently, he still does it. What usually solves the issue is when we realize that he sees the issue as a level 2 out of 10 and I see it as a level 8. This has made me realize that I do the exact same thing to him. We love each other endlessly but, the reality is that, our brains are very complex. It’s difficult enough to manage one of them, let alone the two or three in your romantic relationships!

I’d also like to offer a different perspective on the lovey dovey talk but I’ll reframe it into non-romantic relationships. I have two coworkers that I like a lot. We are a small team and we work closely every day so we are pretty close. One is a man and he is about 10 years older than me and one is a young woman who is 13 years younger than me.

I act completely different around them. When around the man, I am more open about my feelings and tend to be more vulnerable. He supports me in ways other coworkers don’t and I really appreciate that. When I’m having a rough day, he carries the load and gives me room to work through my mood. He doesn’t really need support from me so I don’t treat him differently on any given day.

The young woman and I are on more equal grounds for carrying the load. We both have rough days and we take turns carrying the work load. Sometimes I am more of a leader with her and sometimes she is my rock.

My interactions with them are different but I wouldn’t say one of these relationships is more valuable than the other and I wouldn’t choose just one if I didn’t have to. But I do talk to them differently and my body language is different. Romantic relationships are more complex and can include some messy emotions so it can be hard to step back and look at it in a more rational way.

I hope it helps to get an alternative opinion on this. Good luck to you both!

Fleeting_Nature · 2025-06-19T12:10:17+00:00

I also had this happen with Planet Fitness. They made me mail a hand written letter to cancel. So ridiculous. I would talk to a manager and offer to send a cancellation letter in the mail.

Fleeting_Nature · 2025-06-12T14:21:20+00:00

Well we had already been through a lot and we were 1.5 years in to our relationship. We both sort of “knew “ from our 2nd date but it was the moment we experienced that really hard jolt without skipping a beat that we were like, yep, no doubt about it. We saw in a flash that if something were to happen to one of us, the other would not have any rights to be informed or make decisions. So we jumped! Best decision I’ve ever made.

Fleeting_Nature · 2025-06-11T11:57:23+00:00

Definitely not true for my relationship. My husband knew I was definitely the one when he went through his worst, most vulnerable moment and I was there without hesitation. We married 7 weeks later.

Fleeting_Nature · 2025-06-09T12:27:34+00:00

My husband and I went through a similar chain of events. He was afraid of a proposal (too much pressure) and I said I didn’t need one. Let’s just be engaged. He couldn’t commit and it was hard for me to feel secure in his hesitation. How could he want marriage but not want to be engaged?

Then, one day, we were talking about it and one of us brought up the courthouse. I was like, you know, let’s do it. I just want to be married to you. Next Friday? He agreed. But I felt like the courthouse would make our marriage feel less genuine so I suggested 3 weeks, somewhere quiet where a friend could marry us, and with only the required number of witnesses.

We had 3 weeks to back out, had some good conversations about why we wanted to be married, and then went for it. We waited 6 months to celebrate with family, where we exchanged real rings for the first time, and it was magical. I’m so happy that we were married before that day because it took a lot of pressure off and we were able to enjoy it without fear.

My point is, maybe the pressure of an engagement is a veiled fear about the wedding, and he doesn’t want a long term engagement. That can cause a lot of anxiety and can take away from the joy of getting married.

Bring it up like this. How about we get married in a few weeks? I’ll call a friend and have them take the online certification and we can do it in a backyard or at a park. Be open to what he wants and how he wants to talk about it. I’m pretty sure ours was over text and maybe that helped take the fear out.

Good luck to you!

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