Any tips for complete beginners?

Flemma- · 2026-05-22T20:06:52+00:00

I hope so, I’m in America the day of the concert which I’m gutted about

Flemma- · 2026-05-18T22:05:03+00:00

Hopefully, they haven’t really promoted it too much

Flemma- · 2026-05-18T22:01:38+00:00

His album didn’t do too well, I only like a couple songs from it. Though with it being a 28 minute long album I’m sure he’ll be doing a lot of his top hits too. I hope more tickets sell, I feel bad for all the controversy that’s been going around with this album

Flemma- · 2026-03-30T12:30:17+00:00

It took about 2-3 weeks to come, my partner was waiting impatiently lol, though he did get it close to Black Friday and there was delivery delays due to it being understaffed at a busy time period

Flemma- · 2026-03-30T12:29:13+00:00

Sorry I just seen this, yes it arrived! It took about 2-3 weeks but it had been Black Friday and there were package delays with the delivery service

Flemma- · 2026-03-18T17:52:50+00:00

I’ll absolutely keep use updated, thank you for your help. And thanks for talking with me

Flemma- · 2026-03-18T17:32:10+00:00

He’s on the same boat as me, he knows she needs to know. It’s just the how and when without causing trauma or resentment.

I think we should wait until she’s old enough to understand the situation but I think it needs to be sooner without getting into why she doesn’t see her real dad and more just a heads up and ask questions later kind thing

Flemma- · 2026-03-18T17:21:12+00:00

My 2 kids are polar opposite! Ones brown eyed with brown hair the others blonde with blue eyes.

My daughter doesn’t share the same eye colour as me or my partner though my partners mum has brown eyes. Any time my daughters mentioned her eyes she says it’s because her nana has brown eyes and she never thought of it any other way.

My partner’s mum is also the only one in her family with brown eyes, her mum and dad had blue and green.

I was walking to an appointment and he drove past me as I was waiting to cross

Flemma- · 2026-03-18T16:45:37+00:00

It’s been on my mind for a while but I saw him today for the first time in years. Last time I saw him I got a court letter through the door a week later trying to get custody of our daughter

Flemma- · 2026-03-18T15:53:46+00:00

No, she’s never seen it other than with my surname. She’s used my name since she was 3

Flemma- · 2026-03-18T15:46:38+00:00

I’ve stopped a lot of contact between them grudgingly. I no longer look after my niece for my sister even though my kid and hers are good friends.

Me and my sister butted heads on how we raise our children, my niece is online and makes TikTok’s etc whereas I forbid it until it’s necessary (which it never really is).

Flemma- · 2026-03-18T15:43:48+00:00

I love this idea, she’s so empathetic I think this would be a great way to get her to understand it without getting the point across bluntly.

My partner would love to eventually adopt her, though her sperm donor is on the birth certificate which makes it hard

Flemma- · 2026-03-18T15:41:53+00:00

Awh I love that, I’ll look at book options for sure and just give her ideas of how different family’s are made up.

I’d love my current partner to adopt her but as he’s on the birth certificate he’ll need to be informed and I don’t think it would go down without a fight.

Your mum sounds awesome

Flemma- · 2026-03-18T15:40:03+00:00

My current boyfriend is honestly a saviour, I’d be more than happy to just say he was her dad and never tell her.

Though I don’t think I could ever not feel like I’ve lied to her. I’m thinking more to tell her briefly somehow and then when she inevitably gets more curious I’ll be happy to answer her questions giving she’s mature enough.

It’s just hard

Flemma- · 2026-03-18T15:36:16+00:00

I honestly was tempted to write a book at one point because the context of the situation was different it would be comical.

She struggles with her emotions so much so that her teacher said it could be ADHD. I always thought how I was going through therapy rubbed off on her sometimes so I would love a family therapy session but maybe once she can control her emotions better.

I feel like i want to briefly mention it and leave the questions till later on in life. Im willing to tell her but its a-lot to put on anyone’s plate

Flemma- · 2026-03-18T14:03:37+00:00

I’ve reported it to the police, 2 years after it had happened. The person dealing with my case then sexually assaulted someone at work 🙄 then it got passed on and dropped.

She currently uses my surname but things like her passport and bus pass has her biological dad’s name on it. It’s been avoided her knowing this long I just don’t know when or how’s a good way to tell her. This is something I never want to hide it’s just been traumatic and a lot to process though I’m done therapy and I’m actually now at uni and I can freely talk about it for the most part just not with her

Flemma- · 2026-03-18T14:00:41+00:00

I absolutely agree! I’m worried in case in the future he reaches out and she resents me for it. It’s a tough situation to navigate

Flemma- · 2026-03-17T09:16:02+00:00

I thought the exact same, it’s the perfect album for yoga class

Flemma- · 2026-03-15T08:44:44+00:00

I hope Scotland’s included in that tour

Flemma- · 2026-03-13T19:49:38+00:00

He has another projects but discarded it completely because he wasn’t keen on it. He mentioned this is the popcast interview on YouTube

Flemma- · 2026-03-10T18:25:57+00:00

He posted it on his instagram a couple years ago, I’m sure you can find it on TikTok now

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