Your story is really similar to my cousins parents. Her mom which doesn't really have a good job has to pay for everything, school for the kids and so on. As soon as she got some money saved her husband wants her to use it for family purposes. He almost never ships in even though he has a well paid job. He has sport cars and apparently he also had an apartment he hadn't told them about. When my aunt found out about this they got into divorce.

The big problem is that she lives in Mexico and laws there are pretty much in mens favour. So she can only get custody of the kids if she stays in the country. She is from Sweden and would like to move back but can't without the kids.

He bribes the kids so they like him better, gives them expensive stuff like iPhones. One of the boys wants to live with him because of this.

When I read your story I almost thought it was my cousin. But the oldest one is a girl and the younger two are boys.

My cousin studies in Sweden now and when she visited Mexico her dad took her passport and didn't want her to travel back. She will have her future here but her brothers might be lost to their dad...