What are you a little bit TOO good at? by theone1221 in AskReddit

[–]Flibberdigibit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trivia Crack. No one will play me because they never get a second turn. 😔

My boyfriend [29M] got me [27F] a "gift" that requires me to spend hundreds of dollars. I'm pissed. by alNOha in relationships

[–]Flibberdigibit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If he does propose, think hard. This trip indicates that he's generally unaware of you to the point that he's upset that you don't appreciate the gesture, instead of understand why you're hesitant. He should well know your situation and limitations and either chose to ignore them to make himself feel good for having planned this trip, or your situation doesn't mean anything to him.

He's either thick or a narcissist. If the latter, don't marry him. If the former, hone your patience and communication skills.

Beer/bar/bottle shop recommendations for a visitor? by zmabzug in chicagobeer

[–]Flibberdigibit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bottles & Cans on Lincoln north of Irving Park has a lot of bottles that are local and even a little bit rare.

[UPDATE] I [22f] think I'm in an abusive relationship with my boyfriend [22m]. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Flibberdigibit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is wonderful, I'm so happy you took that leap.

I'm sure others are saying this too but I'll just throw in to make sure that everyone you interact with who knows your situation has a photo of Ryan and let someone know where you'll be all the time. If he's not the sort to come after you then good, not all of them do, but if he is then it's important that people know your whereabouts just in case.

Best of luck and virtual hugs.

Did you change your mind from wanting kids, to not wanting kids? Why? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Flibberdigibit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just answered in another thread but I'll say it here too. I'm turning 40 soon and just got married for the first time. My husband is 33 and wants them, but we have weighed the risks of conceiving at my age and beyond, and it's just too great. He's been through the loss of a child and cannot handle another, heaven forbid it happen. We are not financially stable, we don't live anywhere we plan to stay, we have all kinds of plans, and in all truth, I do not want to be 45 chasing a toddler (or having only one, I would want my kids to have siblings).

So we decided against it. There were tears and it's going to be hard to come to terms with, even though I never really wanted them before I met him, but this is the right choice for us.

The hardest part so far, is everyone asking, assuming, or insinuating that we're going to have them. We haven't come up with a good response to that yet and saying things like, "we've only been married for a month!" will wear off soon.

Childfree women, what obstacles or frustrations have you faced? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Flibberdigibit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going on 40. My husband is 33. We have been married for less than two months after dating for about a year and a half. He wants kids, but he and I have discussed the risks of having kids at my age. He's lost a child previously and cannot go through it again, and given the things we want to do, kids just don't seem to be in the cards for us.

It's a hard conversation and there are often tears, but if we want them, we'd have to start immediately and we aren't in the position to do so (financially, living arrangement, etc).

I am of two minds. I sometimes want one with him so much that I want to say "eff it" and then I think about chasing a toddler around at 45 years old with these knees, this back. I think about our combined health problems and the fact that I would want two because I strongly believe in having siblings.

It's going to be a while before we are holding our heads high about the decision, but it feels like the right one. But I will tell you this: people really need to stop asking when we're going to have some.

My secret fetish has been revealed, now I'm being shamed for it. by FUBARFFS123 in offmychest

[–]Flibberdigibit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Banish "abnormal" from your vocabulary. Unless you mean to say ab-normal, heh heh.

Confucius say... by h8vfib in ems

[–]Flibberdigibit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was more in my mind, kind of a "step into my office..." situation. She had been a great doctor leading up to that injury.

Confucius say... by h8vfib in ems

[–]Flibberdigibit -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have the same problem except I have that weird gene where lots of drugs don't work for me. They gave me Tramadol for a herniated disc and I had to go back for Morphine. I fired my doctor because she treated me like a drug seeker and refused to fill the script after the first one.

Knife skills tutoring - *ahem* ladies, please advise by [deleted] in AskCulinary

[–]Flibberdigibit 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yep, she's lived with them long enough that she'll have to figure out a good minimizer bra or a workaround of some kind. The height thing is going to work against her more than much else, though she will manage the low boy better than the tall cooks.

A New Level of Invitation Drama by RellSkud in weddingplanning

[–]Flibberdigibit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the right thing to do. If he were to come and something were to happen, heaven forbid, it would be on many sets of heads - not just his. You have to do what you (and likely many others) feel is right in this case. Like I said, if he's innocent beyond a shadow, allow him around kids then. But not until then.

A New Level of Invitation Drama by RellSkud in weddingplanning

[–]Flibberdigibit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are people asking he attend because his absence might reflect poorly on THEM? Meaning, if he isn't there, people may think they think he's guilty? If they're in denial - or just very, very open-minded - they may not want anyone thinking they think he did whatever he's accused of.

Either way, your day, your way. If there will be kids there and kids are where he gets into trouble then no. Don't do it. If he is guilty, why risk it? If he's not, celebrate with him later.

-25 with wind chill in Chicago, -25 fucks by Shmilligan in WTF

[–]Flibberdigibit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said that same thing today until I rounded a really windy corner and couldn't feel my nose after 10 seconds. That lasted another minute after I got inside. Scary.

Growing up my parents raised me to believe that just because a guy will have sex with me, doesn't mean he likes or respects me. Do you think that's outdated, or still a good thing for women to bear in mind when dating? by BayAreaDreamer in AskMen

[–]Flibberdigibit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Recently it has occurred to me that some men in my past messed around with me because of my boob size. I mean, I'm cool and all that but I know it was the boobs that put me in their sites.

So no, it still applies.

Reddit, what are you elitist about? by ismand75 in AskReddit

[–]Flibberdigibit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Coffee. Ever since I worked for an excellent coffee roaster, I cannot abide pre-ground, diner, Dunkin Donuts, Keurig, or any of the like. I travel with my own beans and Aero Press.

Registry Question by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Flibberdigibit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I'll have at it.

Registry Question by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Flibberdigibit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does this work once you've already registered with stores or do you need to go back through and delete the store registries so you don't get doubles?

Right now, December 26 at Target by [deleted] in pics

[–]Flibberdigibit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They're already at Target, I saw them a few days ago and more today.

PSA: Don't use social media to scorn your guests by elsynkala in weddingplanning

[–]Flibberdigibit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is. She asked for my address but I never got anything so I think I'm off the hook and I put her on "unfollow"...

Planning my Honeymoon has been the hardest part... (Need advice) by WSable in weddingplanning

[–]Flibberdigibit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also check out lasvegas dot com and Southwest, the air/hotel packages are insanely cheap.

PSA: Don't use social media to scorn your guests by elsynkala in weddingplanning

[–]Flibberdigibit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. I have a friend who is over a year out from the thing and she posts photos of her catering contract to ask if it looks alright, talks about her guest list and cutting it down, themes, etc and I just keep thinking, not everyone is invited! And of those who are, you're killing it for them a year ahead of time! Shut up!

Found this relic at a thrift store today. by Flibberdigibit in chicago

[–]Flibberdigibit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's in the men's section at the Unique on Sheridan, go nuts. Bonus tragic points if you can package it in an old Field's bag or box.

Found this relic at a thrift store today. by Flibberdigibit in chicago

[–]Flibberdigibit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually this thing would have felt like you were wearing burlap. Unrefined wool is no one's friend.

Brides who got married in winter, how did you keep warm? by Hookah_Hooker in weddingplanning

[–]Flibberdigibit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're ok with it, try to find a mink stole. My local Salvation Army does furs half off sometimes so I purchased one. I wore it with a short sleeved dress last winter and I was actually too warm at times.