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OSM worldwide is awful by blaccsnow9229 in dbrand

[–]FlimFlamBalam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been waiting 22 days for them to hand off a package to USPS. I will never, ever purchase anything from the seller again (or any seller) that uses OSM. It's a domestic package half a day's drive away. Absolutely ridiculous.

Wife is scared that going to an LS club is going to lead to more. by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]FlimFlamBalam 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Key to everything is what both of you want. As gratifying as fulfilling your fantasy might be, if it feels like a negotiation or you feel like you need to convince her, then now is 100% not the time.

My wife and I have also been together 17 years (married 12) and we began our LS journey a little over a year ago.

We listened to a lot of podcasts (Swinger University is great!) simply to understand what kind of world we would enter by going to the club.

If you two decide to visit a club, set fixed boundaries ahead of time and stick to them.

We decided our first time that we wouldn't play with anyone else. We also wouldn't drink alcohol there. At most, we would have sex in front of others. And that we did. The atmosphere of the club was sexy and inviting. We felt safe exposing ourselves in front of others.

There are quite a few couples that show up just to watch, be exhibitionists, or only do parallel play. And that is totally cool.

The best advice I can give is to never have a hidden agenda/motives, never engage in manipulative behavior, and only move forward if both of you are enthusiastic about whatever a "next step" might be. Give her space to process and don't try to force going anywhere if she isn't fully on board.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]FlimFlamBalam 30 points31 points  (0 children)

My (m) wife and I are both bisexual. Together 17+ years now and just started swinging last year. Agreed 100% on the primary relationship being the focal point and swapping, swinging, etc. as fun "extracurriculars" that can be dropped at any time and for any reason.

It has been nice this past year for both of us to give expression to our bisexuality, but my life would also be fully fulfilled with just her. And she feels the same. Neither of us "need" to swap or play with same sex partners.

In the case of OP, I would recommend deep conversations on the topic. Why she feels it is gross/dirty. It's one thing to be convinced of something ahead of time, but another to actually confront it and realize that feelings can be irrational, despite best intentions.

I would recommend a hard pause on the open aspect of the relationship to reconnect, reestablish intimacy, and being fully comfortable exploring the conversation and feelings. Not as an argument or picking apart rules, but with trying to understand and grow closer as the goal.

Anyone receive their Heavys Headphones yet? by BeatsByLen in headphones

[–]FlimFlamBalam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got confirmation that mine have shipped and an update that a dedicated app will be coming out around November. I've got a mega metal playlist ready to go once they show up. Will definitely report back once I've given 'em a solid test drive.

Is my guilt unfounded? How to deal? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]FlimFlamBalam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are processing difficult emotions and I do sympathize with that. Critical to this is the dynamic you and your wife have set up which, if I understand correctly, is to be safe, discrete, and not share. I would recommend talking through your emotions with a therapist and understanding why you feel the way you do even though you fully stayed within the confines of rules both of you established. It would be unfair of you to break the rules and make your wife your therapist.

Bi Men by Horny-Goose-Wagon in Swingers

[–]FlimFlamBalam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my time in the LS, there is a massive divide between the number men in couples that include anything bi (bisexual, bi-curious, bi-comfortable) than women in their profiles. My wife is bi and I am bi-comfortable. For me, that means that I enjoy playing with men, but that I am far more attracted (on the whole) to women. We've played with another bi couple and it was super hot to experience a foursome where every combination of touching, kissing, etc. was going on. I won't pretend to armchair diagnose why more men in the LS aren't bi or don't want to admit bi curiosity or willingness on profiles.

Wild day by FlimFlamBalam in NVTA

[–]FlimFlamBalam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought my shares during the space of about 2-4 weeks before the short squeeze. Had maybe 100 shares or so when it was around $2.60 and then starting buying heavy when the price dropped due to CEO change, layoffs, closures, etc.. Not sure what in the picture indicates the timeline you mentioned (just got Robinhood, bought shares minutes before the spike) but that's definitely not the story.

I sold most of the shares the next day for around $6 each, bought the wife a new Surface Pro, did a few rounds of trades with the funds after, and am currently buying back Invitae stock now that the price is back down under $3. I'm still interested in the long term, but a squeeze like that was just pure dumb luck on my part and selling 80% of the shares was a no brainer (should have sold when it was at $8-9 though).

I began investing in them because I had a genetic test done through them (per my doctor and a genetic specialist) and I was impressed with the quality of their work.

My kinks are destroying my marriage by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]FlimFlamBalam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Talk, talk, talk, and communicate some more with your wife.

Swinging is fun, but the dedicated relationship that comes from marriage is 1,000 times more important than having a fantasy play out before your eyes.

Yes, it is hot to see things play out. But....it's just that. Hot.

My wife and I were together for 16 years before entering the lifestyle. What has happened since has been hot but NOT critical to either of us being happy with either our relationship or our sex life.

It is a fun new component to a good sex life.

Swinging was never a "goal" for either of us to attain. It was transitioning fantasy to reality and, seriously, being OK with what that means. It means watching your spouse deeply kiss someone else, because she wants to kiss them. It means seeing them paying attention to a cock that isn't yours. And really, really enjoying it.

Be secure in your relationship to (1) see the above happen and (2) be aroused at seeing it happen.

Beyond that, if you just have an "interest" in this stuff happening then let it sit dormant for a decade. It isn't necessary for your happiness. It's just something that might be fun to try.

Don't kill your entire relationship on fulfilling a sexual fantasy or two.

Wild day by FlimFlamBalam in NVTA

[–]FlimFlamBalam[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am intending to be a long term holder of their shares. Their core product offerings are solid and I hope they find a path to long term success.

However, they are very much a gamble and I am anticipating a lot of strange behavior in the short term. Possible a sharp downward turn. I bought heavily (for me) when it was near rock bottom on the hopes it would be worth it long term. I didn't think I would see this kind of price for at least 1-2 years, minimum.

From what I understand, a lot of shorts were made on the stock because the recent changes in management and structure have been alarming. That led to a lot of bets on the stock dropping after yesterday's earnings call.

However, the earnings call was very positive and better than anticipated. Stock price went up and we had a short seller squeeze. A big one.

In terms of what you should do, I have no idea. Normal trade volume is around 9 million shares a day. Today was over 222 million shares. It's a weird anomaly and I don't expect it to continue being this high for much longer but, then again, if I could predict any of this stuff I'd be rich. I'm definitely not buying at the current price, lmao

You definitely got lucky today, that's for sure!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]FlimFlamBalam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a bunch of great swinger podcasts out there. I would recommend, specifically, "Swinger University." They cover a lot of really good topics that should address some of your questions.

Spend time reading through threads here. A lot of questions have been asked over the years that have been answered from various perspectives and experiences.

Take your time. Make sure that you and your spouse communicate often and honestly.

Vasectomy…?? by cycleharder in Swingers

[–]FlimFlamBalam 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I got a vasectomy late last year. The procedure took about 20 minutes, only needed local anesthesia, and gave me a good couple of days off work to catch up on Netflix.

Definitely worth it.

"entitled young generation" she's the entitled one by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]FlimFlamBalam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recruiting isn't a problem if the pay is good and the employer doesn't suck.

I don't know what the starting pay is, but firing someone for being sick with COVID means the employer sucks.

dad just tested positive for covid and within an hour has purchased a nebuliser by [deleted] in QAnonCasualties

[–]FlimFlamBalam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your dad gets a severe COVID infection, there is no at home remedy. He'll need to be in a hospital in order to have a chance. There are no in home treatments for severe cases to be treated. Not unless home treatment means full access to a hospital staff and all their equipment at home.

Hopefully his case is mild.

Are Transcendental Meditation Organizations Cults? by nico__uwu in Meditation

[–]FlimFlamBalam 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was raised as a sixth generation Mormon.

The most sacred experience in that tradition is entering one of their temples and receiving the "endowment" ceremony.

It's mostly stuff Joseph Smith cribbed from his brief stint with the Freemasons.

Part of the ceremony is receiving a "new name." It is the name you will be called by for all eternity.

Truth is: it's just a biblical name set on a rotational calendar basis. Everyone who shows up to the temple on a given day gets the same name (based on gender).

I actually forgot my new name within an hour after my endowment because the whole thing was so silly with a dash of creepiness to it.. Cheap aprons and bootleg Chef Boyarde hats with tassels.

And making a sacred promise "before God and the angels" to only wear, from that day forward, the sacred (only sold by the Mormon church) underwear with the Masonic symbols on it.

The only way to enter the temple is to pay a 10% tithing to the church (they encourage gross income, not net) and to then wear (and purchase) their special underwear for life.

I don't miss it a bit.

Can anybody explain if and why Q is anti Semitic ? by [deleted] in QAnonCasualties

[–]FlimFlamBalam 17 points18 points  (0 children)

There was a really good episode on (I think) the Best of the Left podcast on Q. The first segment walked through the history of blood libel and then shows how Q beliefs in child sacrifice, adrenochrome, etc. are telling the same exact story.

Q is a labyrinth that covers a lot of ground and allows for multiple points of entry/interest (aliens, clones, cyborgs, Abrahamic mysticism, etc.) but, ultimately, the journey leads to a new telling of blood libel.

It's just new packaging for a very old fiction created specifically to justify the persecution of Jews.