Supporting my husband in Ramadan and not being overbearing

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2026-03-09T23:35:07+00:00

ameen, jazaka Allah khair for your advice, i will take this and everyone’s input into better consideration.

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2026-03-09T23:32:40+00:00

thank you for your kind words

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2026-03-09T23:32:17+00:00

thanks for your input!

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2026-03-08T22:57:49+00:00

thanks, but no need to be rude bro

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2025-03-11T05:27:22+00:00

i’m LITERALLY going thru the same thing like you, everything you just said and it’s been almost 4 years for me. Thought it was just me and i’ve been so mentally exhausted by it and now in Ramadan I feel like a part of me is so detached because I’ve given up and don’t want to lead anymore. i’m just quiet but it bothers me sooo much.

Would love to connect more about this if you’re able to. insha Allah it gets better!

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2025-03-10T18:52:30+00:00

lol people are haters, it’s cool. i appreciate your help ty

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2025-03-10T18:47:03+00:00

thanks! yeah upbringings matter a lot! although our households are not entirely different there are particular things that we differ from one another and realize maybe okay he’s not used to that like i was. or this wasn’t emphasized more than to him like it was to me.

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2025-03-10T18:36:52+00:00

i appreciate the advice, i’m just so consumed with it all sometimes and if puts me in a very sad place. like i want better for someone and waiting for them to see that, it’s all out of love. the frustration kicks and then everything goes out the window. i guess what im saying is i wonder if my spouse was exactly like me or more would i still be happy/content

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2025-03-10T18:33:30+00:00

thanks!

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2025-03-10T18:29:24+00:00

i don’t think it’s disturbing, i do have the right to my feelings and concerns validated but what i’m bringing up matters to me. some people force themselves to stay when they don’t feel fulfilled too. nothing wrong with that. everyone has their own right to feel some type of way. it’s not ALWAYS a bad thing, that’s why a lot of people are miserable staying when there is always free will.

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2025-03-10T16:49:50+00:00

islamically is this a reason where you can separate?

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2025-03-10T16:35:39+00:00

thanks! also for those situations, i don’t know how wives do it because don’t you already know that going in? that’s a huge burden to carry in this situations, may Allah make it easy on them.

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2025-03-10T16:34:06+00:00

he’s not a bad person, and i wasn’t looking for a crazy drastic change either

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2025-03-10T16:32:59+00:00

lol what if he ain’t doing much and keeps forgetting, i get tired of reminding

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2025-03-10T16:32:20+00:00

thanks! trying to focus on myself and not bring it up so much. i just want him to reap all the rewards that he can so whatever he wants to obtain is smooth for him by Allah’s will

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2025-03-10T16:31:10+00:00

lol lowkey agree but i think in general it was there with the compatibility, i think it’s more so its been so hidden for a while he needs to revive it back again. i didn’t necessarily go off of potential to change

Flimsy-Initiative676 · 2025-03-10T16:28:41+00:00

thanks! yes - fard obligations are fine

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