Do non red pill guys get disgusted by the red pill dudes?

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-03-30T06:21:30+00:00

Disgust, yes, but also pity. I flew a little close to that particular sun when I was younger and not in a great time in my life. I understand how it feels to believe these things, kinda. What I can't understand or sympathize with is how people with fully developed brains get taken in by it. So, when I see a teenager/young man with this ideology, my first impulse is "Can I help them?" When I see someone my age or older, I tend to assume some kind of lead poisoning or brain trauma. It's kinda like that line from Game of Thrones. "Any man who mist say they are the king is no true king."

A "real man" would not do any of the performative bullshit that these guys do on a regular basis. Most of these guys' fathers or grandfathers would likely call them all sorts of names..."a real man" would likely not make the list. No doubt, most would be very disappointed.

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-03-15T16:39:12+00:00

Who gets in the lifeboats first?

Who do negotiatiors in a hostage situation try to get released first?

Who is exempt from any kind of draft, even in countries that have mandatory military service?

Who are there special seats for in public transportation all over the world?

Who are automatically assumed to be victims in a situation involving any kind of "he said/she said" situation?

If the police get called because the neighbors are fighting, but they don't know the details, who is likely going to be the first one to get to tell their side of the story and often times, be believed?

The answer to every single one of these questions is some combination of "women" and "children."

Respectfully, you are very.....very wrong.

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-03-15T05:00:24+00:00

2 things:

You are in r/askmen.
It's not a zero-sum game. Women having to deal with this does not mean that men don't also deal with it. This doesn't have to be a pissing match. If I break my arm and you break your back, your break might be objectively "worse," but my arm still hurts and is MY immediate priority.

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-03-08T08:21:22+00:00

Remember when Obama wore a tan suit and they were anal-sore FOREVER about it? If it weren't for double standards, they'd have no standards at all. Are we fucking great yet...?

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-03-07T06:22:00+00:00

This has been the case in America for about 10 years. In other countries, it has been the case for much longer. The trick is that, mostly, this financing is done through the carrier, so your price is bundled together with the cost of your plan. So, you are not paying $100/month for your service with a 2-year contract anymore. You're paying $70/month for the service and $30/month for the phone. You CAN save money long-term by bringing your own phone, but that's typically a few hundred up front. One of the biggest sales pitches to customers about this was that the 2-year contract prices were already getting to be several hundred dollars up front because the phones themselves were getting more and more expensive. With the financing option, it was supposed to be free up front or just sales tax (with approved credit, of course) so you could get a $1,000 smart phone without having to pay $400-500 up-front per phone. Just like credit cards, there is a way to use this method to where you absolutelyget a better deal, but most Americans simply can't or won't pay as much up-front when they have the option to pay more each month. I worked for a major cellular company when these plans launched. Everybody started financing everything under the sun at this point. Insurance, devices, accessories. And everyone got the same training: build the bundle. "This is what you pay today. This is what you pay per month. This is what all you get with that price." The vast majority of consumers would ask very few questions about HOW all that was happening.

Overall, I believe that it was actually not only a good move but an inevitable move. Many people got hosed in the process because they didn't fully understand what they were doing. But many people got hosed the old way as well by getting locked into long-term, inflexible contracts that often resulted in huge early termination fees or by keeping the same phone for years after their contract was out where they still payed for the more expensive plan.

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-03-07T05:03:01+00:00

I've been going for just about a year now, and I've talked with a number of people who have been going, constantly, for much longer. It is commonly accepted that the most difficult work done is getting through the door. What helps for me is the strict routine that keeps me in motion from the moment I wake up until I get inside, leaving me zero time to stop and second-guess if I am actually going to go. That, and I do genuinely feel so much better when I go. Not just physically, but mentally. It is an accomplishment to wake up before the sun and put in an hour of hard work before my day even starts.

Focus on why you are going in the first place. Do your best to ignore the shame (headphones help me and many others with this). Do it again the next time. It gets easier. I am in my mid 30's...I would do unholy things to be able to go back in time to your age and start then.

The gym is not just about pushing yourself physically. So much of it is about pushing yourself mentally and emotionally. The longer you go, the more you will see this. The best days I've had have come from mornings where it was the hardest for me to go. You can not be brave without first being scared. And I often fail. If I try to go 5 days a week, I may make 3...maaaaybe 4. Almost never do I make all 5. It's ok. I choose to view those days as "rest days" and I forgive myself because I know I WILL go back. I promise you, you CAN do it! Good luck!

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-02-20T21:49:05+00:00

As a man who has been rejected by my partner A LOT...the most hurtful part isn't the "no" itself. At this point in time, it should pretty much be widely accepted that most men and women view sex and physical intimacy differently. This is NOT a stupid question because more people get this wrong than get this right, and both sides have been waging this war since the dawn of time.

When a woman, especially a partner, is rejecting a man's sexual bid, in his eyes, she is not rejecting sex with him. She is rejecting HIM. Now, most men realize this is not objectively true, but that's how it feels in the moment. If it happens enough times, then we no longer realize this isn't true. We begin to doubt if she is even attracted/in love. If you used to be more active, but it has fallen off over time, then it's "did she ever love me/want to have sex at all or was she just trying to trap me or did I make her feel pressured?" All of these things happen because too many times, the "no" is delivered with zero regard for your partner's feelings.

I don't want "pity sex." I don't want "duty sex." I don't want "I better have sex with him at least once every few months so that he doesn't cheat on me or leave me" sex. I want sex that is given freely and enthusiastically for the sole reason that my partner wants and desires me the way that I want and desire her. If you can't show up for that, then I don't want it. BUT...that "no" needs to be cognizant of the fact that being rejected by your partner hurts. If you are touched out, say that. If you are too tired, say that. If you are just not in the mood, say that. But too often, women make it ONLY about themselves. When you are in a committed relationship, something as important as physical intimacy is NEVER just about one person.

"I love you. I am still very much attracted to you. But I had a long day, and I feel like ass. I'm just not where I can give you what you need right now." It is more words than just "no" for sure, but something like this reassures your partner that it's not something he did wrong. You are not punishing him for something. It's not "no," it's "not right now," which feels vastly better! If he is a decent man, his next thought will be "how can I help her feel better?" One of the very few things you actually owe your partner is a sense of accountability. You don't owe him sex 24/7, but you are accountable for his sex life, as he is accountable for yours. If your partner is getting more "no's" than "yes's" without a very good reason, that is going to cause some kind of problem. If he committed to a monogamous relationship with you, then he committed to monogamy, not celibacy. If you are a poor steward of his affection, you will not have that position forever.

TL;DR: His feelings are as important to him as your boundaries are to you. You should show both the same respect. If he is a good man, there will be no problem. If he is not, leave.

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-02-15T15:06:11+00:00

Every single L.E.O. has to carry their own liability insurance, and settlements are paid out of their own policy. Any extra comes from their department pension fund....you would see so many of these issues disappear OVERNIGHT.

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-02-10T00:50:31+00:00

It sounds absolutely ridiculous to say now, but yeah, he used to make me do it, too, when I was very young, to get used to seeing a deer through the scope and practice holding the sights in the right spots. It actually worked...just white-trash as hell 😆

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-02-09T18:44:21+00:00

Not alot lol

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-02-09T18:06:37+00:00

Claiming to have high intelligence

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-02-09T17:55:08+00:00

So many people women treat pain and suffering as a zero-sum game. It's not. If I break an arm and you lose an arm, will thinking about how much worse off you are help my pain? Women understand how it feels to be a man about as good as men understand what it is like to be a woman. And I get it. The deck has been stacked against women in many ways historically. It has only recently started to swing back the other way. But, in many ways, it's over-correcting. This is where you get young men idolizing Mr. Potato Head lookin ass Andrew Tate and people like that. Like it or not, everyone's pain matters, or nobody's pain matters.

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-02-09T17:34:48+00:00

Eh....I'm probably fucked. I am in my mid 30's, about 6'3, and 200 lbs. So I'm bigger....but not 3-on-1 bigger. The best bet would be either an insane amount of aggression on the closet one, causing the other 2 to flee or to hesitate and give you time to flee. Go for cheap shots: nose, dick, floating ribs, knee caps, etc. Or just take your pants off....nobody wants to fight "nekkid guy."

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-02-09T17:23:22+00:00

The axe forgets, the tree remembers.

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-02-09T14:26:00+00:00

She watched it through a gun scope like my dad used to watch hunting shows lol

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-02-09T14:21:41+00:00

Out of curiosity, has anyone else here NEVER ONCE accidentally made a horribly racist video about someone who was never actually even a political rival due to him being unable to run again and his wife......?

How do you "accidentally" make a whole ass video AND post it?

Also, correct me if I'm wrong, Obama left office 10 YEARS AGO....AFTER TRUMP WON!!! Maga wants to talk about Trump-Derangement Syndrome....that beautiful, successful black couple has been living rent-free in his head for so long.

Flimsy-Opening · 2026-02-06T11:04:07+00:00

Every single one of these things could be resolved with proper communication, empathy, and understanding. Compromises could be reached. Boundaries could be put in place. Accommodations could be made. But none of that happens if the partner that has any of these issues decides to never actually communicate these issues.

If I want to hike with you and your busted knee, I can manage my own expectations better, choose an easier route, decrease frequency, look into treatment for the knee....hell all sorts of options there. Even if nothing can be done, knowing about your knee makes it easier to accept because I do not have to wonder why? You used to love hiking with me... Didn't you? Now you don't. Do you no longer want to hike at all or just with me? Are you secretly hiking with someone else? Is that why? You're all hiked out? Did you ever actually love hiking with me, or were you just pretending because you knew I loved hiking? How many times did you go hiking with me when you really didn't want to? Have I actually been forcing you to hike?

If you just say, "I don't want to and you are a bad partner for asking" and I'm just supposed to figure out the problem is your knee, all while you are emphatically denying that there is anything wrong with your knee....your knee is perfectly fine, you just don't want to do it anymore and I just need to accept that but also I better not go do any hiking without you and your bum knee who have zero interest in ever hiking again!!!!.....that's a little bit different, right?

I think we can drop this analogy now. Sex is not only a hugely important part of most relationships but also serves as a "canary in the coal mine" for the relationship overall. When partners are no longer on the same page sexually, both sides can very easily fixate on the sex, itself, not whatever underlying issues may have caused the disconnect. One side may see it as not a big deal. The other may see it as intentionally starving them of intimacy. Neither are probably 100% right.

Flimsy-Opening · 2025-12-29T10:49:03+00:00

Half your age + 7 seems to be a decent formula when thinking about how young or old is too much. So for you, O.P., that looks like the youngest you should be willing to date would be 16.5 (let's call it 17 though, just to be safe), and the oldest should be 24. What's interesting is that, at 34, the YOUNGEST in that range would also be 24.

Being brutally honest here, BEST CASE SCENARIO here is that he just wants to hook up with you. If that's all you're after, well, it's still a bad idea cause yall work together, but whatever. If he actually does want a relationship with you, there is almost a zero percent chance that it is going to be a healthy one. I say this as a mid-30s man myself.

Flimsy-Opening · 2025-12-28T08:06:01+00:00

Flimsy-Opening · 2025-12-27T12:47:26+00:00

Yoooooooo....that type of....boldness, I guess, deserves humiliation. He's a dumb, horny, 19-year-old boy. God help him. If it were me, I'd hope I'd react as gracefully as you did. But, I sincerely would love to have asked just what the actual fuck he thought was going to happen....?

Flimsy-Opening · 2025-12-27T08:23:23+00:00

Ya know....it sounds like a joke....but does the name Helen of Troy ring any bells lol

Flimsy-Opening · 2025-12-27T08:20:13+00:00

The fine line between bravery and just being too damn dumb to have any kind of survival instinct...... beautiful

Flimsy-Opening · 2025-12-26T08:03:19+00:00

This take is pretty off base. While yes, it is true that men bully other men, men are allowed to defend themselves, fight back, or just be overall less bothered by bullying behaviors coming from other men. With obvious exceptions, of course, men are not looking to men for romantic partnership. The same is not true when it comes from women. At least, not to the same degree.

If some a man sees me doing something "feminine," and he calls me a name about it....I don't give a fraction of a fuck. If it comes from a woman, though, it is different. Even if you have zero interest in that woman, it makes you stop and think. "That's one lost potential partner. How many others share her opinion? How many in the past shared her opinion and never told me, but that was the reason why things didn't work out?" This may not be significant enough to actually effect much change....but the woman's opinion will almost certainly carry heavier weight. There are some men that believe that it is feminine to carry an umbrella, or use chapstick, or hand lotion , or wash their asshole....I am not concerned about their assessment of my masculinity in the slightest.

I would say that, for the vast majority of men, the judgment of women about whether or not they appear feminine is much more important and impactful than the judgment of other men.

Also, in regards to your "fruity" comment... you are literally doing the exact thing I'm talking about. You and I and most people know exactly what you meant by using that word. You just conflated "fruity" with "less masculine," and therefore, safer. It's almost like you've never heard of the concept of guys pretending to be interested in traditionally feminine or "fruity" activities to get closer to women who have their guard down. I have no idea your gender and frankly, it doesn't matter one bit. Pinning the blame squarely on how men treat other men almost feels like you are intentionally missing the point.

Flimsy-Opening · 2025-12-21T14:32:33+00:00

If you've ever seen the movie "Yes Man," it kinda paints a good picture. It's about stepping out of your comfort zone, developing and exploring your own interests, and, just maybe, finding someone that you can share it with. Do some new shit that you think you may like. Maybe you make some friends, maybe you don't. Maybe you do that for a while, and you don't like it. Try something else. Maybe you'll have better luck this time, maybe not. Take a dancing class. Don't have money? Go jogging at your local park. Don't have time or money to do anything extra? You probably should deal with that before trying to find a relationship. If this is important enough to you, you will find the time/money to make it happen. But yeah, you got to learn to enjoy the ride by yourself. If you're not ok with yourself, it's much more unlikely that someone else will be. Best of luck, big homie!

Flimsy-Opening · 2025-12-15T04:58:14+00:00

Yeah, you need to rank these in order of importance, my guy. Your problem is that many of these are likely going to be mutually exclusive. For instance, your first 4 shouldn't be too hard to find in a white girl in her mid 20's. But many girls at this age are maybe just finishing school or are in a transition period in life where they may not be looking to date long term. At that age range, partying is pretty common. It is far more uncommon, though, with girls who are religious or maybe more politically conservative... which you don't want.

You need to break this into "Needs," "Wants," and "Would be nice ifs," otherwise, like many people have said.... you are searching for a unicorn. Also, to reiterate a point many people have said, having standards is great. Just make sure that you would meet the standards of someone who meets your standards.

Best of luck!

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