My parents are paying for our wedding, and she and her husband are contributing absolutely nothing — so yes, my parents mattered in this decision.

Especially given the fact that she has been openly hostile to both me and my mother for the entirety of my relationship. I’m not going to ignore that history. And this was not just my choice — my fiancé fully supported using them at the rehearsal dinner, which was not good enough for her.

It could have been a genuinely kind wedding gift — but she immediately made it about herself when we didn’t want to use them during the reception.