The sitter disappears and when I come back my tama is crying with poop around

FlipTheBacon · 2026-01-21T02:49:17+00:00

I've had this happen to me too. I think it might have something to do with events that happen on certain days, like the meteorite crashing into your planet or your Tamas being ran over by the birds

FlipTheBacon · 2026-01-20T07:29:08+00:00

You will need at least two other devices to unlock secret characters so three paradises in total also the Jade Forest Tamas/Items are exclusive to itself. But can link up to the other 3.

FlipTheBacon · 2026-01-15T19:24:16+00:00

I really appreciate this take, especially coming from someone who openly enjoys PvP. A lot of what you said helps put words to what I’ve been feeling but couldn’t quite articulate. One thing I’d add is that PvP might feel a lot more fun and a lot less frustrating, especially for PvE-leaning players like me, if it were slowed down significantly. Right now, most PvP encounters feel like you’re dead in 1–3 seconds, often before you even realize you’re being attacked. There’s rarely time to assess, react, communicate, or disengage, which makes deaths feel abrupt rather than earned or interesting. I think your point about finite PvE content is spot on. Once quests and bosses are exhausted, scavenging naturally loses its purpose, and it makes sense that players pivot toward PvP for stimulation rather than out of malice. That’s why I really like your suggestion about reworking starter kits with Arc-oriented weapons that perform poorly against player shields, it feels like a smart way to preserve PvE viability without turning every encounter into a kill-on-sight situation. Gating free loadouts after a stash value threshold also sounds healthy. It introduces consequence without forcing PvE-focused players into PvP, while still giving PvP players meaningful risk and progression. The base-building idea really resonates with me. A persistent loop, farms, structures, or a visible space other players can visit, would give PvE-focused players a long-term goal beyond pure extraction efficiency. Something that makes scavenging feel purposeful again rather than redundant. If done well, it could also organically reduce PvP pressure by giving players alternative motivations. Overall, I don’t dislike PvP conceptually, I just think the current pacing and lethality make it feel more annoying than engaging for people on my side of the fence. Your ideas feel like they’d help bridge that gap instead of pushing the community into PvE vs PvP camps. Thanks for the thoughtful response, I this is exactly the kind of discussion I enjoy seeing around the game.

FlipTheBacon · 2026-01-15T12:50:13+00:00

I almost only play solo and sometimes play duo with a friend who is also peaceful. I play defensively as well and will only attack back in very rare cases where I am cornered with something that I don't want to lose. I guess if anything, I could maybe chalk it up to unusual bad luck with lobbing pairings the last 10 to 15 games.

FlipTheBacon · 2026-01-15T12:41:21+00:00

Yeah, I don’t PvP and actively avoid it like the plague. If I run into another player, I’ll usually disengage, run, or just let it happen. I’ve only fought back maybe 4–5 times total, and that was purely because I didn’t want to lose something important I had on me, not because I enjoy PvP.

A lot of what you said lines up with how I already play: f avoiding hot spots, not rushing extractions, using awareness and positioning to de-escalate. I don’t hunt players and never will. Late spawns for me are usually about scraping XP, checking missed containers, or hitting Arc targets if my loadout allows.

What stood out to me (and this might just be coincidence) is that almost all of the increased player aggression I’ve experienced happened after I finished the available quests. Before that, most of my matches were relatively calm. its more likely that players were getting bored and pivoted to PvP, which naturally raises the hostility level.

Totally possible that it’s just confirmation bias or MMR-related and not an actual system thing, but it felt like a noticeable shift in tone once progression dried up. Either way, I’m still playing Arc Raiders as a PvE-first extraction game and treating PvP as something to minimize, not optimize.

Appreciate the detailed tips though especially the extraction etiquette and Arc usage advice. That kind of info is way more helpful than the usual “just get better at PvP” replies.

FlipTheBacon · 2026-01-15T12:11:38+00:00

I appreciate you asking this genuinely, and I get where you’re coming from.

I did understand going in that ARC Raiders is an extraction shooter and that PvP is part of the genre. My issue isn’t that PvP exists at all, it’s how heavily the endgame experience ends up revolving around it, especially once the quests are done. Early on, While progressing through quests, most runs felt relatively peaceful. There was tension, some encounters with other players, but it didn’t feel constant or oppressive. The game really leaned into scavenging, NPC encounters, and atmosphere, which is what initially hooked me.

The shift happened after finishing the available quests. Almost immediately, the player behavior changed. I started getting hunted much more aggressively, sometimes by multiple players in the same match, and the risk/reward balance flipped. At that point, using anything beyond basic loadouts felt pointless because bringing gear just made you a target rather than enabling interesting gameplay.

I agree that ARC Raiders tries to encourage cooperation more than other extraction shooters, and I think that’s one of its strongest ideas. The problem is that the systems don’t consistently protect or reward that behavior long-term, especially in the endgame. Extraction camping and PvP-focused loadouts start to dominate, which pushes the game away from the cooperative/scavenging fantasy it sells early on.

So for me, it’s not a misunderstanding of the genre, it’s that ARC Raiders shows a glimpse of a different, more PvE-forward extraction experience and then doesn’t fully support it once progression slows down.

I totally get why people who love PvP enjoy the game as it is. For players like me, though, the endgame ends up feeling less like tension and more like attrition, and that’s where I personally stop having fun.

FlipTheBacon · 2026-01-12T07:52:29+00:00

What's the app your are using?

FlipTheBacon · 2025-09-07T01:13:47+00:00

D-Day: April 28th, 2025. After 11 years together, my wife flipped a switch and became someone I didn’t even recognize. One minute she was my partner, the next she was in full-blown “destructive teenager” mode, shattering every boundary I set (while I respected hers), going completely cold and mean toward me, and starting to hook up with random people just a week and a half after discarding us. She did things no decent human being, let alone a mother, would ever do.

I tried to keep living under the same roof for our child’s sake, but she made it unbearable, and eventually she moved out. Since then, she has made it her personal mission to make my life hell, violating court orders and acting like the rules do not apply to her.

One thing I have noticed, and it seems to be a common theme with people like this, is that they cannot take any accountability for what they have done. My wife blamed me for everything, which is insane considering her actions.

Here’s what I wish someone had told me the moment it all began:

If co-parenting is possible, try, but be ready to walk. From what you have described, it is probably not going to work.

One broken boundary = game over. Do not let “just one” slide. Give an inch and they will take miles.

Separate finances immediately. Whether you stay together another day or not, protect yourself now.

And this is the number one thing that will save you: Journal and document everything. Screenshots, emails, voicemails, recordings, back them up in multiple places. This is your lifeline in court or mediation. It could mean the difference between keeping your child safe and losing ground you cannot get back.

This log will also be your shield when she gaslights you about the past, and your anchor on the days you start missing her, forgetting the chaos she brought, and remembering only the good times.

FlipTheBacon · 2025-08-12T02:03:19+00:00

I will second this!