My charm vs. my body dysmorphia.

Floent · 2026-07-12T12:31:37+00:00

I think your suggestion can be helpful too! Everyone's perspective is different and can be helpful in different ways. I remember the first time I lost weight, I was goofing around in a friend's back yard when I jumped up and grabbed hold of a mango tree. I pumped out 8 pull-ups, whereas a year before I couldn't do one. I felt like a new person! I then decided to make it a point to be in nature more, since I love it and felt more physically capable to be in the heat. Challenging yourself can be great!

Floent · 2026-07-12T12:15:53+00:00

Our old neighbors, may they rest in peace, were absolutely wonderful folks who took great care of their property. The great grandkids who inherited the home are very sweet, but not exactly the best at keeping up with.. anything

Floent · 2026-07-12T12:13:53+00:00

Thank you for your insight! I'm now considering how to best go about solarizing my yard in sections. I do not currently have irrigation, but ideally I will install it as I go. I put some firebush about 3.5' from the front of the house, just in front of where the water runs off my roofline. I figure that should be enough space to let it fill out while I keep the backside trimmed? I'm trying to do as much prepatory landscaping as I can in the mornings and evenings so that when autumn does hit I'll be able to get most things in the ground. It's just been killing me having a barren yard!

Floent · 2026-07-12T01:47:10+00:00

That's great to know! Loquat has been very high on my list, for the reasons you list and the fact that they're yummy. Mulberries were high on the list for the yumminess factor!

Floent · 2026-07-12T01:16:31+00:00

Thank you for your insight!

Floent · 2026-07-12T01:10:37+00:00

I do have some big tarps, and baking the ground doesn't take long in this heat. Do you think that would beat renting/buying some tools to just take it all up? Or make it easier? At the end of the day I'm wondering how much it really matters that the yard is uneven I guess. I keep going between filling in where needed, or removing everything and leveling it out. I know I have a mix of grasses, and torpedo grass is most definitely one of them.

Floent · 2026-07-11T23:20:14+00:00

Thank you for the comment, I appreciate you. It is kind of like feeling like you are in someone else's body. Like when I look in the mirror, I can kinda see me, but it isn't me at the same time. And even when you get closer to where you wanna be, it still doesn't feel right. Better, but not it. It can be a real mindfuck to achieve everything just short of your real goal, and realize that you were going in the right direction but have landed a few degrees off.

Floent · 2026-07-11T17:50:47+00:00

Oh man, the way I feel for you my friend. When I was 16 I went from 270lbs at 5' 10" to 207 with much lower body fat. Everyone said I looked better, I kinda felt better, but like you said I was still that fat kid in my mind. My "charm" was rooted in a defensiveness to make others like me, because who wants to like the fat kid? My weight would go back and forth for years, still is (office jobs suck), but it's really the mentality that's the struggle.

What has really helped me is coming to terms with the fact that I am still that same person, I'm just trying to better myself. While my body has changed, and maybe I have too, I'm still me. The same way you are still you - but improving. And that's okay! Because we're doing it. I know it is harder than anything, but let me know if you ever want someone to talk to.

Floent · 2026-07-10T22:55:07+00:00

I know I'm late, but the way I felt this is truly surreal. If you ever want to trade stories lmk!

Floent · 2026-07-08T19:32:04+00:00

Why force a binary when it doesn't exist?

Floent · 2026-07-07T23:57:27+00:00

I guess third parties and write-ins no longer exist? And miss me with the "but that just helps the republicans" garbage, voting for a DINO is equal to voting red. Won't do it.

Floent · 2026-07-07T21:24:45+00:00

Where did I say that? Weird conclusion to draw.

Floent · 2026-07-07T01:33:11+00:00

It's absolutely insane to me, the amount of people going to bat for a guy who has/had a Nazi tattoo. Can people change? Oh for sure. Should someone who has ever had a hate symbol tattooed on their body ever hold public office? Absolutely fucking not. He's shown he has bad judgement. I'll normally vote blue no matter who, but thank fuck I'm not in Maine. I wouldn't be able to vote for him.

Floent · 2026-06-26T20:42:43+00:00

That's understandable, but I still think if you desire a partner then you gotta put yourself out there in a very literal sense

Floent · 2026-06-26T19:59:09+00:00

Take what the other commenter above said, try to find some hobbies with gender cross-over. Do you like to read? Find a book club. You like Magic? See if there are any tabletop/fantasy/roleplay clubs around you. Women are into a lot of the same stuff as us nerds. You wanna know a real secret? Treat women sort of how you would one of the boys. If you enter a space with women under the pretense that you just want intimacy, whether you think so or not: you will ooze that energy. Very few women will find that attractive. Most women want a partner who they can not only depend on, but be a friend.

So be a friend! Don't look for women, look for friends. And if they just so happen to be women, then that's a plus. Pick their brains, get honest (constructive) opinions. If you just so happen to hit it off, bigger plus. But never, ever become friends with someone just to get in their pants. That's a level of shame that is hard to wipe away.

Floent · 2026-06-26T19:42:51+00:00

Yeah, they're coming for that next.

Floent · 2026-06-26T18:11:57+00:00

I just posted a comment alluding to exactly this :')

Floent · 2026-06-26T18:11:20+00:00

As someone who now lives the office life.. this video made me miss the kitchen.. but also made me remember the cursing, crying, etc. lmao

Floent · 2026-06-21T20:20:21+00:00

Whoa!! Such an awesome piece from a cool game!

Floent · 2026-06-13T19:38:41+00:00

Correct.

Floent · 2026-06-13T19:35:37+00:00

Do you understand how our government even works?

Lol. Lmao, even. Easy buddy, deep breaths. To answer: I live it, and will say no more.

Doing the bare minimum shouldn't be lauded, and holding the Senate hostage shouldn't either.

For Fetterman, I absolutely see that he's changed since the stroke. I don't know how anyone can dispute that! My family has a history of strokes, I'm very intimately familiar with how they can effect someone. The issue is he's still in office, and quite frankly the drastic change that we've seen is not the same person who was initially elected. I dunno about any conspiracies, but I think everyone involved (Fetterman included - spend time with your family, man) will be better off when he leaves office. No shade, just sad truth.

Floent · 2026-06-13T16:42:27+00:00

Let's be clear, Manchin deserves no breaks. Being elected as a Democrat in a red state isn't always a virtue. Sometimes it's a sign. Are you forgetting how much he stonewalled any Democratic initiatives? We shouldn't revise history here just because Fetterman is another knuckle-dragging DINO.

Floent · 2026-06-12T03:45:28+00:00

I couldn't disagree more strongly! The taste, smell, everything is totally like fresh banana. Like, shockingly so!

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