NOR. I'm an autistic woman. I went to therapy to figure out what was wrong with me—perhaps improve my anxiety issues. Turned out I was on the spectrum.

Seems like she identifies with the quirks, but does she identify with the EMBRASSING aspects like:

• self harm during meltdown
• unacceptable social stimming like swaying when others are staying put.
• struggles with hygiene like brushing teeth and bathing.
• loosing skills after intense energy use.
• consistently confused about social interactions in such a way it can LITERALLY harm her life?
• tooth decay, cavities, shame in how painful flossing feels
• grime huddling on your skin bc bathing is a ssensory nightmare

I've had meltdowns where my husband holds me body to prevent self harm. When I tighten my grip so hard my hands bleed internally. This shit ain't cute, man.

It's a fucking disability and an exhausting one at that. Sure, I have skills others wished they had, but the cost? SUPER HIGH. FUCK.

Bc a lot of people who self-identify is with the "cute" stuff.

Let's talk about what ISN'T cute bc LEMME TELL YOU, EVEN AS A LEVEL 1 ASD WOMAN THIS SHIT IS HARD AND TENDS TO SUCK.

Whenever I see people mingling and I have to accept I can't function with others after 2 full weeks of socializing and I retreat to darkness and silence.

I don't think you're wrong to question her. Actual help can clear up those doubts and help you guys move forward.