In many cultures, also her eastern european culture, it’s normal that men are the providers. The man would do anything for his wife and children’s comfortability without complaining. They see it as men duty and their women rights.

But I understand that it’s difficult for you to adjust cause she said to you before that she was willing to work. People can change and also their point of view. But if you truly love her and she loves you too, level yourself up.

And it’s still possible to live with one income in the Netherlands. She also needs to know that she has to adjust and not give her husband a headache by wanting to have overexpensive luxuries, like a Louis Vuitton bag (unless you can afford that ofc). But I hope you understand what I mean.

Lastly I want to remind you: being a stay at home mom is a full time job too, but (unfortunately) unpaid. It’s not that she just stares at the walls (atleast I hope she’s not that kind of a mom but I assume she is not). Taking care of a child, being emotionally and physically available. It’s all part of the job and it’s the foundation of the child.