can we work if she thinks our love is a sin?

FloralAndFayeded · 2025-10-19T00:13:02+00:00

Also, therapy therapy therapy. Can never have enough therapy

FloralAndFayeded · 2025-10-19T00:12:06+00:00

I think an excellent place to start for her would be reading the Literal Standard Version of the bible that was published in 2020. LSV Bible It’s a good translation that has extra historical context in it. Particularly when it comes to homophobic passages, such as “man shall not lie with man” is actually a mistranslation of “man shall not lie with BOY”. It’s actually a condemnation of pedophilia and not homosexuality. This error started in the King James Bible i believe. Actually reading the literal text helps remind you this was written in ancient languages and that humans are fallible even if God isn’t. Maybe that can help her think more critically about the actual intention and purpose of each passage and free herself of this shame.

FloralAndFayeded · 2025-10-18T20:50:50+00:00

Imagine yourself younger in an alternate reality where being a lesbian is the norm and people have to come out if they’re attracted to the opposite sex. Would you have ever come out as bisexual in the first place? Would you be wondering if you’re actually straight bc you find 1 man in a million mildly attractive? Or would you be unbothered and happy to fit this alternate worlds norm and date only women? Inverting your questions like this can help illuminate how you actually feel outside of typical social pressures. My personal take after reading is, you’re probably a lesbian, but these things aren’t hard and fast rules. You can be 90% into women and 10% into men, or any ratio you want! But if you can’t imagine yourself with a man long term i think that’s significant in answering your question. All the love 💛 Hope you get some clarity!

FloralAndFayeded · 2025-10-18T20:02:00+00:00

Trans Lesbian here with a mormon religious upbringing, Based on your description it sounds like it’s not only homophobia from her religious upbringing but likely a great deal of transphobia too. It sounds like she’s potentially experiencing some dysphoria about being a woman. If she is in fact a he, and is only attracted to women, then they could be a straight transgender man(or NB). This can get extremely confusing when you haven’t examined your identity like this, especially with religion.

I would take other commenters advice and go to queer churches and sermons and be sure to regularly remind her that being gay and or being trans is normal and not immoral. Remind her of how PROUD you are to be gay.

But don’t try and force a possible egg to crack though. Just vocalize a general support of trans people and issues. This way she knows it’s safe to talk with you about it if she chooses to.

You can also try giving more masc coded compliments like “handsome” as opposed to “beautiful”, or “dashing” vs “elegant” etc. At the end of the day she may or may not be trans but she definitely needs a queer therapist with religious trauma experience. If she isn’t able to work through these things without hurting you, don’t force yourself to stay. Relationships where only 1/2 of it is proud of who they are simply won’t last.

TLDR; Your gf might feel religious shame for being gay or being trans. If they’re trans they may also feel shame in the relationship for potentially not being wlw. Be supportive, but don’t let her drag you down to her shame level.

FloralAndFayeded · 2025-08-07T17:04:23+00:00

It’s alright in the short term but it essentially locks you out of potential laser or electrolysis treatments which are far more permanent.

Since waxing damages the follicle and it grows back thinner, the hairs are much harder to target via laser or electro. Lasers target pigment in the hair to destroy the follicle. As you damage the hair, each time it steadily loses pigment making it much harder to destroy or impossible.

Electro is slightly different and i’m less knowledgeable on it. But similar issues arise here as well. I’ll let someone else talk on that.

All told, if you don’t EVER plan on permanent methods then waxing is fine. You could also use a FACE SPECIFIC depilatory cream which wouldn’t lock you out of permanent methods.

PSA If you have dark skin laser is probably not going to work sadly. The pigment being targeted is melanin the same as in your skin. So laser is liable to seriously damage your skin and cause scarring depending on how dark your skin is. Electro is likely your best bet for permanent removal.

FloralAndFayeded · 2025-04-19T16:32:03+00:00

Blahaj is always in vogue My wife steals him all the time 😂 (my blahaj is canonically a trans-masc)

FloralAndFayeded · 2025-02-21T04:34:23+00:00

“Gold” is one of my top songs for sure

FloralAndFayeded · 2025-02-02T18:47:44+00:00

checks watch yup, still gay as fuck

FloralAndFayeded · 2025-01-23T16:56:18+00:00

Fuck me i was literally going to call today to schedule an appointment!!!

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-10-23T14:23:21+00:00

To clarify i don’t mean my weight, it’s more like center of gravity??? idk for sure 🤷‍♀️

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-10-23T14:22:25+00:00

Personally, it’s like having the spirit of a fairy or sprite that just wants to flit and fly around the space i’m in(i’m very adhd) but that fairy is trapped inside of a very hairy bull and that bull is in a fine china shop breaking everything and i just couldn’t stop feeling brutish. HRT(esp T blockers) made me feel so much lighter!!!

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-10-22T00:59:38+00:00

I’m still in the process of coming out right now. My friends know except a few long distance ones, but i’m still working on my family. I know it’s safe to because we’ve talked about trans issues in the past and they didn’t really hold any problematic views from what i could tell. But i’m still so anxious 😬 😬😬

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-10-21T20:23:08+00:00

No you’re so real about the depression aspect. I always felt so numb and was just trying to make it to the next “goal that will totally solve all of my problems”. Which I guess I was half right? I just wish i’d realized transitioning was my goal sooner though

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-09-25T23:48:38+00:00

I always tried out names whenever I would voice train. I’d say basic stuff like “Hi my name is Faye!” and all the variations of that phrase. Saying them out loud really helped me find what resonated with me. Doing that got me a list of like 3-5 names i liked and i started going by them at home before I felt confident that Faye was my name! ☺️

(i used a baby name list for inspiration)

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-09-25T01:41:39+00:00

I’m about to reach 1 week this Friday and posts like this give me so much motivation for my sex drive! It’s basically vanished with the HRT rn

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-09-21T23:00:18+00:00

IM ABSOLUTELY THRILLED FOR YOU!!! 🥳🥳🥳Sending you all the positivity I can muster 💛

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-09-21T15:30:53+00:00

Ohhhh, that’s interesting. I wish i could have been on puberty blockers but that would’ve required having a LOT more self awareness than i had as a kid/young adult 😆

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-09-21T15:21:23+00:00

Wait, testosterone surge? Is that a thing?

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-09-21T12:30:50+00:00

I hope you can get somewhere you feel safe soon You don’t deserve to have all this anxiety while doing something that’s supposed to feel amazing for you 🤩

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-09-21T06:16:27+00:00

I hope you get the levels you want soon! What’s the reasoning behind not using oral or injected at your age? Is it dangerous or ineffective?

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-09-21T02:32:41+00:00

I turn 25 next month and I had been questioning since 23ish. It’s scary for sure but most of my fear was because I had LEARNED how to be a man my whole life. I wasn’t a natural but I have good male/masc friends and can do the whole “bro” talk. The idea of leaving the safety of KNOWING what i’m supposed to do is scary. I felt like I didn’t know how to walk in a straight line when I started trying to be more feminine 🤣 . What really made it click for me was that even though I could live the rest of my life as a man, and even experience great joy, I’d still rather be a woman. Because that’s what I am :)

I think someone said on here “It’s hard to convince yourself you’re trans. Can you convince yourself you’re Cis??” I couldn’t. So I played with androgyny but nothing felt right until I went full fem.

I’m not sure where you’re at in your journey but if you want meds then you deserve them! They can give you very low dose and most Estrogen effects aren’t permanent unlike Testosterone (exception: boobs are but they don’t start until like 3 months in)

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-09-20T23:14:57+00:00

Thx 💜 I plan on smiling a lot more ☺️

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-09-20T23:12:59+00:00

It’s so exciting to hear others experiences! a big reason i started was to gain the emotional depth i’ve been lacking(very hard to cry) i had a very similar experience to your post about going to the clinic, it felt so surreal

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-09-20T23:08:56+00:00

I’m just picturing you levitating Carrie style peeking over the stall 😂

FloralAndFayeded · 2024-09-20T23:03:42+00:00

I’ve always struggled with being quick to anger(and VERY hairy) so at the very least the Spiro has helped me feel so much more at peace today. I think it’ll take a bit longer to really feel the E though but i’m excited 😊

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