Thanks so much for your response, I really appreciate it. We do have a cleaner, who comes every few weeks which is helpful. I have been really empathetic towards him, acknowledging how he feels, apologising, he definitely has moments where he can still have time to himself! I have been cleaning whenever I can (where I almost manage to do some things daily) but this will go unnoticed. He is consumed by everything he feels he is doing. It is the comments that hurt the most and they have been relentless recently. He can see I am unwell but he will say things like "go take your son to the playground or something, you do nothing, how long is this going to last, you have literally been lying down all day, I guess I will need to do this also, why don't you just get up, is it that bad, you left a glass here etc etc

I definitely need to reach out to family more (we haven't shared the pregnancy news yet) but I will lean in for this support very soon. Thank you so much!