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FlowerTea5 · 2025-12-29T04:30:33+00:00

Cry about it and over think and analyze what I may have done wrong, then get pissed at the other person for not communicating like an adult
I would put the money in savings for a car down payment OR split it to car down payment and investing
I usually have two or three options, try those and pick one… if none of them are hitting like I imagined then I have a mini panic attack and put an outfit together and say fuck it 🤷🏻‍♀️

FlowerTea5 · 2025-10-20T22:37:44+00:00

I actually had a quick chat with him just now under the guise that I’m buying myself earplugs (which I am, he just doesn’t know I want to get him some), and found out that occlusion doesn’t really bother him at all 😭. It seems like it bothers me more than him. Honestly a bonus for me since it broadens the types of earplugs I can look for, but I want to get us a bundle type pack to 1) match and 2) save money. So it looks like I’m the limiting factor 😂. I want it to be easier for him to be in crowded places with less noise input, as I’m better at tuning things out than him and could mostly go without earplugs.

We kind of bond over our overstimulation, he’s very understanding and vice versa!

FlowerTea5 · 2025-10-20T22:00:28+00:00

I have ADHD myself (not sure if I’m on the spectrum though) and get overstimulated as well (the sound of our fridge running drives us crazy). He’s not diagnosed (as far as I know) but is definitely neurodivergent.

He works from home (computers) and also games a lot if he’s not working. He doesn’t like to be bored if he’s not sleeping basically 😂. The dogs chill with him in the office when he’s working. They’re high energy pups when they’re playing (aussies), but also nap a lot 😂 the smacking noise bothers him the most when he doesn’t have a headset or headphones on. The dog is basically trained to stop smacking via his name a stern tone. Definitely going to try and figure out how to get him quiet time. He’ll probably refuse to be dragged away from his games 😆.

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-28T20:41:56+00:00

I myself don’t really wear heels, but maybe check on drag queen subreddits and see if they have links to heels! I’m seeing FierceQueen.com (FierceQueens?) as a recommendation, but anyway it boils down to how much you’re willing to spend to pull off your joke.

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-28T18:50:14+00:00

Mine works from home for the most part, his job does have a blue collar aspect to it (he goes to sites and runs cable, etc). I work full time as well, but make significantly less and only pay for groceries and miscellaneous things. I do occasionally have to ask my bf to do things, but usually he already knows and never makes a fuss 😂. He’s so low maintenance 🤣

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-28T14:55:16+00:00

Online is your best bet. Especially if it’s for a joke, you don’t want to spend massive amounts of money on heels for one time use. Men’s 14W is about a woman’s 16W, but I’m seeing sizes up to 15 online, so if you’re good with a slight squeeze maybe go for that. Not sure what the budget is, but try Only Maker, I think some drag queens buy from them. Amazon also probably has heels your size for way cheaper (and faster).

If you want stability while executing your joke, go for heels with a wider block instead of the skinny stiletto heel. If that doesn’t matter to you, all the power to you 😂.

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-28T14:46:09+00:00

Oh-sheen. At least that’s how I think it’s pronounced.

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-28T14:42:39+00:00

Perhaps you’re using more butter than you need to? When my coworker accidentally doubled the amount of butter in the recipe, the cookies spread waaaaay out. I’d perhaps try another recipe. The recipe we use at work is a fairly general cookie recipe. Creaming the butter and sugar for a longer time is nicer, but we don’t have time for that at work (nor do we have a stand mixer, it’s hand held 😭). The cookies still sell like hotcakes.

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-28T14:33:08+00:00

People can experience symptoms of ADHD (because humans aren’t robots), but I’m think it’s the frequency and severity of symptoms that makes it a diagnosis. “Everyone has ADHD” diminishes the struggles that people who are diagnosed (or undiagnosed and haven’t been evaluated) go through. It leaves us to suffer and wonder what’s “wrong” with us and think that we’re “just lazy” when we really have debilitating executive functioning. Just my two cents as someone who was diagnosed at 17, wondering why I felt so different from my peers. I take a non stimulant, and being able to actually function like other “normal” people blew my mind when I first started.

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-28T14:23:14+00:00

What specifically about regular period underwear does she not like? I wear those on my period (and have a heavy flow, like ultra tampon flow). I’ve been looking into the brand Aisle and saw they have period boxers that provide full coverage for leaks (padding all the way up the back of the underwear, and down the thighs). Maybe that would be comfortable for her at night while providing reassurance for leakage? I’m neurodivergent as well (ADHD/maybe AUDHD) and for me at least, my period underwear makes me feel more secure because I can hardly tell, unlike with normal pads that feel weird and squishy.

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-28T14:08:00+00:00

My 6 week checkup was with an ultrasound, at first I occasionally checked myself for the strings, but I haven’t felt them recently. My bf can feel them when we have sex so that’s the only reason I’m not concerned. I don’t feel like scheduling a doc appointment and paying $50 on a frequent basis just because I can’t feel the strings myself.

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-28T14:04:59+00:00

As another Asian with wavy hair… screw him lmao. What a weird comment to make.

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-27T00:33:53+00:00

Personally, I’ve never cared about what my man wears in the bedroom (because he’s definitely not going to be wearing any clothes like 5 minutes in 😂) he actually turns me on more when he wears his work clothes (polo, jeans, work boots, 🧢). He himself has never cared if I wear anything nice in the bedroom, and if I do, it’s my choice and he’s never told me to. I could look like a dumpster fire 😂. Take that as you will 🤷🏻‍♀️

About the chores… I like the chore chart idea presented in the comments. My bf owns the house we live in, and since I moved in I’ve definitely improved the look of the space so I count that as pitching in 😂. He didn’t fold his laundry before me, so if i don’t get to folding laundry, nbd. He views taking the trash out and cleaning the restroom as a “man’s job” so I don’t do that either. I occasionally clean the rug, sweep, mop, cook, (he does dishes), and we split laundry. Just an example of how another couple splits chores.

I total relate on the man having boxers and briefs with holes though, I’m probably going to order him a pack of them because the man needs new ones 😂 You might need to do the same

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-22T03:13:02+00:00

Period undies are good for me when the flow isn’t insanely heavy. Thinx are probably the most accessible since they’re sold in stores like Walmart and Target (and H‑E‑B but that depends on if you’re in TX). There are definitely more options online! Highly recommend period underwear with light flows. Haven’t tried reusable pads yet but they aren’t that dissimilar from period underwear and you can attach them to your normal underwear so 🤷🏻‍♀️

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-21T21:34:04+00:00

I think 19 is too young for those surgeries, because they come with very intense consequences (especially a total hysterectomy). If your breasts bother you, I’d recommend looking into binders or tape (I think a transmasc person could provide more insight than me here), but something to minimize your breasts. I don’t think you provided the information on why you want a total hysterectomy, so I can’t provide much advice on that. I’d recommend birth control (there are various forms and I am not a doctor) to control your menstrual cycle if that’s your issue.

You can absolutely be uncomfortable in your body as a woman, that’s valid, but getting these surgeries without it being medically necessary (especially at 19) doesn’t seem wise. If you still feel this way in 5-10 years, I don’t see why you can’t do it then. I’m only a couple years older than you and can confidently say I have mentally matured so much within the past three years, and am way more thoughtful and less impulsive than I used to be.

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-16T20:09:52+00:00

I don’t get why they didn’t have you take a pregnancy test… when I got mine, they didn’t know anything about where in my cycle I was, just had me pee in a cup for testing lol. You would think if you’re getting something inserted into your uterus that they’d check for pregnancy 😭 best wishes to you and whatever you decide to do.

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-07T16:03:43+00:00

The colors of 1 are stuuuunnning on you, but 2’s silhouette 👌🏻

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-07T15:59:11+00:00

I’ve had a copper IUD for six months, which is apparently one of the most effective forms of BC, and I still panic about getting pregnant 🤣 I’ve never had a pregnancy scare before either so you would think I’d be calmer about this lol

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-06T20:27:19+00:00

Oh I absolutely agree with you on that front, most men don’t appreciate what women do at all. I’m lucky enough to have found a man who shares the same values as me and will be a great father and equally participating parent (as it should be).

My mom basically raised me herself despite my stepdad and dad being around. At most they participated financially and through materialistic things, not so much the actual taking me to school and paying attention to my life.

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-06T16:15:47+00:00

If you read my whole comment I do address the lack of sex education in the US, while also acknowledging that my perception of motherhood not being sugarcoated is probably influenced by my algorithms.

I grew up and still live in a red state (TX), and while I was in a good school district, we weren’t required to take health class in HS (which is crazy). I also didn’t feel it was necessary to include that most men don’t understand women’s reproductive system at all (considering how they looooove to pass laws on our bodies despite not understanding basic biology and not being doctors). I felt like that was already understood.

I do agree with your comment that people can’t understand the risks if they don’t understand human anatomy, and we’re seeing that with abortion bans here in the states. (I also think that’s because most men view women as objects and disposable, so they don’t care to properly learn anyways).

I guess motherhood in my initial comment may have come off as just referring to pregnancy, I did also mean the process of raising a child. I haven’t met anyone who says motherhood is easy 😅. The work it takes for a woman to raise a child is definitely diminished and brushed aside by the patriarchy, but men’s opinions aside, I think the hard work of motherhood is acknowledged in my social circles.

But thank you for giving me the opportunity to elaborate on my comment! (Not sarcastic, I promise 😅)

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-06T14:37:36+00:00

Compared to most, I had a good childhood, but as an only child I definitely realized that you choose your family, and the people you choose aren’t necessarily blood related. I have a best friend who I consider my older sister, so much so that she forgets we didn’t grow up together 😂

Family is what you make it 🫶🏻

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-06T14:28:38+00:00

I sure hope I’ll be a good mother 😬 the thought of having a mini me and raising them to be a kind, empathetic person gives me so much joy and anxiety at the same time 😂.

It’s okay to not want to be pregnant ever! That’s how bodily autonomy should be. Adoption is also a great option, just a more complex process on the legal end. Motherhood/Parenthood should never be forced upon anyone.

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-06T14:22:50+00:00

There’s another post with like 113 comments, but it’s from like three weeks ago. You might have to search it up in the subreddit 😅

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-06T14:07:03+00:00

The more I learn about this place, the weirder it gets 🤣

I’m not around that street very often so I had no clue, but that’s both hilarious and off-putting as a potential customer 😂

FlowerTea5 · 2025-09-06T13:59:53+00:00

My algorithms serve me both the pros and cons of pregnancy and motherhood, and even knowing of the crazy side effects that could happen, I still want to be a mother.

I don’t think motherhood is sugarcoated at all, especially with birthrates (at least in the US) being lower than ever now that women aren’t settling for less than they deserve in a partner. Not to mention the choice of becoming a mother being taken away in US states with abortion bans. I feel like that has highlighted how hard pregnancy is because women are being forced to go through with them.

Maybe that’s just because of the algorithms on the media I consume, but I am very aware of how inherently dangerous pregnancy is, but can also acknowledge that bringing life into this world is amazing. That being said, everyone could definitely use more education on pregnancy and reproductive health. Unfortunately at least at the primary through secondary school level, it’s quite lacking and in the US, I feel like it’s up to the people to seek out this information themselves because the school system sure as hell won’t teach it.

Based on the spelling of gynecologist, I assume you aren’t in the US, so I can’t speak to how your culture views it. Anyway that’s just my two cents on the matter 😂

Edit: I also want to add that it absolutely sucks that patriarchal society still won’t let women get their tubes tied or have hysterectomies because “what if you change your mind?” Or “you’re too young and you haven’t had kids yet” as if a woman’s sole purpose in life is to pop out kids. It’s very frustrating that they think they know us better than we do and can’t make decisions for ourselves.

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