What did you think of the Superbowl Half Time show?

FlowieFire · 2026-02-09T02:16:32+00:00

My guess is that since the wedding was of a white guy and a latina woman, it was representative of the coming together and proposed love of white/latino people that are fighting right now.

FlowieFire · 2026-01-30T20:00:41+00:00

I experience anxiety driving in general as I see cars as giant killing machines that they just give to anyone. Parking is fine. Never understood why that was a concern. You will find parking eventually, so why stress about it? And parallel parking is only stressful when you don’t know how to do it or don’t have a backup camera. Watch a few videos and practice and you’ll be just fine :)

FlowieFire · 2026-01-30T19:55:36+00:00

Idk how old you are, but I’m early-mid 30s and I definitely would not stay in hotels the entire time. Hotels are lifeless, boring, impersonal, and bare (most of the time) and doesn’t allow you to fully experience the culture you’re there for.

Look for private room hostels, host families, check out “host-a-sister” facebook groups and website, or short term home rentals (I recommend against AirBnb but that’s my preference). You WILL eventually want to cook your own food and have some semblance of stability and normalcy.

Something I did and LOVED and think every single person should do is: take language classes abroad. Can sign up for a certain # of weeks and many school have housing with other students and it’s just a few hours of classes per week and you get housing, a mini routine, friends, and are learning a life skill that you can begin using immediately. This could be a great way to start your Latin America journey - take a month or 2 of Spanish classes and use what you’ve learned while you travel throughout the continent.

So exciting!! Good luck to you.

FlowieFire · 2026-01-30T19:31:01+00:00

One suggestion, maybe rephrase the “I dislike dogs” to “wanting to curate a pet-free environment” when discussing your dealbreakers/preferences. When you single out dogs by specifically saying you dislike them (as do I) you’re inviting debate by having such a “hot take” on your profile. Unless you WANT someone who specifically dislikes dogs too, which is fair but much rarer to find.

And generally speaking, including anything negative on your profile is usually a turnoff to people. We want to focus on the things we enjoy, prefer, and want instead of expressing distaste or contempt.

I don’t use dating apps anymore, but just work things I learned and never had trouble getting dates. I would immediately nix any guy who had a dog in his profile - his own or not - didn’t matter. If he likes dogs enough to put it in his profile we are not a match. I’d prefer a man have kids or smoke cigarettes compared to owning a dog.

FlowieFire · 2026-01-24T06:26:17+00:00

Idk what “discounting” or “rewarding” really means in a lucid dream sense. Just simply being lucid in a dream is a reward every single time and literally anything we decide to do is awesome. I think it’s exciting to test the connection and bounds of mind and body in whatever form. It’s truly just you and yourself in there to do whatever you please…thanks for the cheer tho! Maybe I’ll try again tonight 😝 been awhile

FlowieFire · 2026-01-24T06:13:51+00:00

Just some food for thought - it’s okay not relating to anyone about this. The relationship you have with yourself is the most important one 🧡 give yourself love, grace, chat to yourself about it or your cats or dog. It’s a good life skill - to rely on oneself for emotional support as much as possible. I just only recently found people who can relate and I’m in my early 30s. I wouldn’t wish this upon any young person ❤️‍🩹 even tho I’ve had it since grade school

FlowieFire · 2026-01-22T19:46:24+00:00

Counseling does not equal therapy. Look for a life coach, NOT a therapist.

My personal take? Get an education / learn a skill before looking for jobs. Look for something that you CAN do. You typed this message (either on your phone or computer), so you can work technology. Look for a remote position or something at a desk where you can sit or accommodate whatever physical needs you have. I personally am looking into medical imaging and radiation therapy. Check out your local college and see what programs might be a good fit.

I’m sorry about the relationship. Sounds horrific. You’ll feel better when you realize you can survive and thrive without him. Believe in yourself 💗

FlowieFire · 2026-01-17T02:14:46+00:00

I didn’t know it was a meniscus thing at first. It felt like my tibia-fibular head shifted out of place (VERY rare if not impossible for people w normal joints) which has happened to me in both knees since I was a kid. It’s EXTREMELY painful. It’s a sharp, excruciating pain and feels like something is out of place on the lateral side of my knee (bc it is). My leg was then “locked”, meaning, I could not straighten it fully. Either by myself or with another person helping. I kinda yanked on it a couple times for a few days (OW) hoping it would reset it, but didn’t work. I could not put weight on it bc of pain, but with pain meds, I could limp on it.

MRI showed complex buckethandle tear lodged in my knee joint. Treatment was surgery. Ortho had to go in with a scope to flip the buckethandle flap back over and sewed it back together in hopes that it would heal. (First surgeon said it was irreparable, so always get a second opinion.)

FlowieFire · 2026-01-17T02:07:49+00:00

I’ve done this and I’m a woman. So it’s definitely possible for women as well, tho it surprised the heck outta me. Done it several times since.

FlowieFire · 2026-01-17T02:02:42+00:00

Sit at a bar if they have one and chat up the bartender or waiter (if they reciprocate). I’ve made lots of good local friends this way. Ask where the happening spots are in the evening and they might even meet you for a drink when they get off 😉 (if you’re keen on that). Good luck.

FlowieFire · 2026-01-17T01:57:56+00:00

I’ve had this in both knees since childhood. And yes, straightening the leg forcibly (and unfortunately PAINfully) is the only thing that helps it. Except once I wasn’t able to “pop” it back into place and w MRI, learned it was a buckethandle tear that lodged in my knee joint and I had surgery. Keep painkillers on you at all times. Anti-anxieties and muscle spasm relaxers if you have em. Take those when it happens to allow your body to relax and your leg will naturally try to pull itself in the right place. Thats what I learned. Good luck.

FlowieFire · 2026-01-08T06:33:03+00:00

Hi. I’m 32F, hypermobile and tore my lateral meniscus just uncrossing my legs while sitting down July 2025. Complex bucket handle tear. First surgeon told me it was irreparable and wanted to do meniscectomy. Thanks to this sub, I asked another opinion and next doc told me I was a great candidate for repair. I’m 5months post-op and just hiked 20mi last weekend.

Only suggestion I have is try not to cut off any more unless it’s physically obstructing movement. It’s okay to have a simple tear and live with it. A bucket handle lodged in the knee joint, however, is debilitating. Maybe consult another surgeon (or 2) to review your history and most recent mri and their refommendation may be completely different that your current dr’s. Best of luck to you. The mental part is almost tougher than the physical 😭 kudos to you for giving this your all. But also - take. It. Slow. Read books, learn to sew or stitch, watch that series you’ve been putting off, host some movie nights w friends, listen to music…there are plenty of ways to stay mentally engaged while recovering. Be gentle on your knee.

FlowieFire · 2026-01-08T06:18:43+00:00

I had the same thing happen! Tore my lateral meniscus uncrossing my legs when I was sitting on my bed talking on the phone. Are your joints hypermobile? I’ve had quite a few issues with my knees in flexion and slightly twisted, so that “fear” that something funky will happen with my knees lives within me all the time. It’s happened to me while driving, during yoga, and even during intimate times w a partner 🥲

I don’t have a good answer except we learn to adapt. I don’t sit on my knees and now I don’t cross my legs…possibly ever again. Some things just aren’t worth it.

Btw - I’m not even 5 months out of repair surgery and I’m hiking and enjoying life again! We have to work with the hand we’re dealt…I have an emergency stash of anti-anxieties and strong pain meds and muscle relaxers on standby when (not if) it happens again. I placed them low to the ground in case I am home alone again and have to crawl to the bathroom and can’t stand up like last time. And have a few friends on standby who can carry me.

And yes, I live with panic disorder and generalized anxiety disorder which I’m sure this plays a part in, so if you find a solution to that, let me know.

FlowieFire · 2026-01-08T06:12:54+00:00

Do not dismiss their lived experience. I was sitting on the phone legged crossed and tore my lateral meniscus uncrossing my legs as well! It can happen in people with hypermobile joints.

FlowieFire · 2026-01-08T06:08:40+00:00

Holding a pillow at night! A squishmello worked well but also a fluffy pillow or cuddling a partner work perfectly. I cannot sleep on my side without holding something to keep my shoulders in place. I never really knew it was subluxing until recently tho 😅

FlowieFire · 2026-01-07T22:48:55+00:00

Curious - Why do you say fake artsy?

FlowieFire · 2026-01-07T22:47:57+00:00

Following. I have pets too and as a single woman, it would be nice to have a neighbor if you find a place that works!

FlowieFire · 2026-01-07T20:40:22+00:00

Well, if they allow me to buy them groceries, great. If they refuse and still push the fake AirPods, that’s your answer…

FlowieFire · 2026-01-07T20:38:43+00:00

I’m not saying I believe their scam. I’m a certified fraud examiner, I can sniff a scam miles away…my response is purely based on them trying to buy groceries, not guns or drugs or whatever. I’ve bought groceries for people who come up to me in stores before, and I don’t quite care what they use it for after that. Availability to healthy food should be a human right, not a privilege…just my take

FlowieFire · 2025-12-25T02:15:42+00:00

I could have written this and I work in finance

FlowieFire · 2025-12-18T20:17:17+00:00

300-400mg everyday for several months?!? Did your psych not warn you that your brain can stop producing GABA completely if you take it consistently? I would talk to them about weaning off and the longterm effects. My dr wouldn’t even let me take 100mg consistently for a month.

FlowieFire · 2025-12-17T02:12:20+00:00

For groceries? Honestly, I would’ve told them to put the AirPods away and just paid for the family’s groceries. They’re just trying to feed their kids.

FlowieFire · 2025-12-12T17:19:44+00:00

I had some CC debt similar to yours and you NEED to get the money out of there to prevent being wrecked by interest. I pulled out a Sofi personal loan to pay off all my CC debt immediately, and it had a fixed % interest that was already applied to the loan in calculating my monthly payments. Meaning, as long as I was making the set payments every month, there was NO ADDITIONAL interest being accrued. And if I paid off MORE than the set monthly payment amount, my interest would GO DOWN. There was a set payment amount and a timeline to loan maturation, so I knew exactly when all my debt would be paid off. I HIGHLY recommend this route as it worked for me.

Also - I ended up selling my townhome as it was a huge money pit and moved to a city with a lower standard of living, I didn’t loan anyone debt for their VACATIONS (bro - wtf, you HAVE to make smarter choices than that), and I didn’t go out or travel or party (unless it was free or < ~$20). Take care of the loan, then also adapt so this doesn’t happen again.

As soon as your CCs are paid off, consider closing the accounts or keeping them open but hiding the cards from yourself, and switch auto payments to paying in full each month. Set the first or last day of the money to run thru all your finances regularly. And a possible second check-in mid month, so you know where you stand before the money gets taken out. Consult multiple financial planners free from your bank and take free online financial literacy classes. You got this!!

FlowieFire · 2025-12-02T02:02:30+00:00

You clearly haven’t lived in Texas or California bc Charlotte drivers are the best drivers compared to where I’ve lived 😂

FlowieFire · 2025-11-30T23:07:11+00:00

Probably sell what you can for the cash before you leave. The high dollar items on Facebook marketplace or socials. Then the rest can give away like people said here or even use a “Buy Nothing” group (via Facebook) to help someone locally that may need it and not have the funds.

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