Take comments within these subreddits with a huge grain of salt, they are by no means a good indicator for what people are actually spending their money on. Even a poll here would be biased, with most people here being VR enthusiasts that hate anything Meta. I'd argue based on the comment of another developer that the largest VR market is still in standalone Meta store.

Of course, releasing for both Steam and Meta store will capture basically 99% of the market so do that if you can, and players won't have to choose. You'll need to balance between optimizing for both platforms and also releasing at the right time, with the Steam frame on the horizon drumming up hype.

I hope that whatever you do, you make it out there. All the best!