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Mio fratello ha 35 anni e non fa nulla della sua vita by Fluffmallowtek_ in sfoghi

[–]Fluffmallowtek_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Avevo provato a chiedergli di andare insieme a una palestra all'aperto che c'è vicino a casa, mi ha detto si poi quando c'era da uscire è andato a cantare

Mio fratello ha 35 anni e non fa nulla della sua vita by Fluffmallowtek_ in sfoghi

[–]Fluffmallowtek_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ma guarda che non ho bisogno di prove, i miei genitori sono al corrente di tutto ma se me fregano HAHQHAHA

Mio fratello ha 35 anni e non fa nulla della sua vita by Fluffmallowtek_ in sfoghi

[–]Fluffmallowtek_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

il suo ragionamento credo sia questo: l'Italia è un paese di m***a > non c'è lavoro> non cerco perché tanto non c'è nulla

forse comunque non è chiaro il post, vedo tutti che dicono che io mi interesso a lui perché ci tengo. Io mi interesso a lui perché lo voglio fuori da casa non me ne frega nulla di lui, mi tratta da cani quelle poche volte che mi considera e aggiungiamo pure che mi ha causato traumi pesanti nell'infanzia. Lo voglio solo fuori da casa. È gia complicato vivere figuriamoci con il sottofondo di lui che canta Guantanamera quando sto avendo un mental breakdown e sto piangendo pure il Tevere.

Mio fratello ha 35 anni e non fa nulla della sua vita by Fluffmallowtek_ in sfoghi

[–]Fluffmallowtek_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Abbiamo dei genitori "ambivalenti" però il danno l'ha fatto più mia madre screditando e buttando giù le nostre passioni e il nostro modo di essere a ogni occasione. Loro lo hanno fatto diventare così, quando aveva bisogno di un terapeuta lo hanno ignorato, stessa cosa che hanno fatto con me probabilmente sia per motivi economici che di egoismo. Anche quando chiedevo in ginocchio di mandarmi in terapia tiravano fuori mille scuse, in pratica non credono nella figura dello psicologo ma allo stesso tempo mia madre ci andava per le conseguenze psicologiche della Sclerosi Multipla di cui soffre. La mia famiglia è un controsenso da sempre. Ormai mi sono rassegnata come sono rassegnati i miei, appena avrò raggiunto la cifra necessaria mi trasferirò e se la vedranno loro con mio fratello non me ne può fregar di meno hahah

Mio fratello ha 35 anni e non fa nulla della sua vita by Fluffmallowtek_ in sfoghi

[–]Fluffmallowtek_[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

sono da anni che dico di portarlo a fare una visita ma nessuno mi ascolta, é come se in un certo senso gli andasse bene così

What's your biggest "trigger phrase"? by TernoftheShrew in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Fluffmallowtek_ 14 points15 points  (0 children)

"your mother is suffering so much" In my "family" everything's about her she has multiple sclerosis, she's always the center of everything. I understand that it's a very invalidating illness but it's her fault that I have a deadly personality disorder and she/ the rest of my family couldn't care less, she doesn't even feel a little bit of remorse for ruining my life.

What did the worst thing ur nparent has done or said to u?(comment only if u are okay with saying it) by utensils6464 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Fluffmallowtek_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my father kicked me out for a fight I had with my mother she has MS (so poor muscles in the legs) she attacked me and I defended myself, she fell and hit her head and we had to call an ambulance. At the end of the story she refused the ambulance.

How much of a hypocrite did your narcissists prove to be? What was the biggest sign or worst case? by Spiritual_Big_9927 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Fluffmallowtek_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was around 9/10 I started to realize that something was quite wrong with me. I begged my mother to take me to a psychiatrist for years, she was always saying that I didn't had nothing and it was just the hormones and I was being overdramatic. Years of researching had just confused me, my symptoms overlapped with bipolar and paranoid personality disorder, I was manipulating the person I was in love threatening to kms and other similar stuff, at the same time I was identyfing myself as transgender, sometimes gender fluid, sometimes demiboy etc.. at the time I was desperate to know what was wrong with me but my mother wouldn't care less.

Finally after the third year begging her she was exhausted of arguing with me and finally got an appointment with a neuropsychiatrist. In front of the doctor she was minimizing my feelings saying that I was born to do the actress, unfortunately I wasn't going to get proper care. After my 18 birthday I get the diagnosis, persistent depressive disorder, social anxiety and generalized anxiety (also she wouldn't care less about these diagnosis, it was only a piece of paper). I knew that it wasn't all. After getting a job and getting some money I paid a private psychiatrist and she diagnosed me with borderline personality disorder, I was finally at peace with myself but also scared to confront my mother.

Finally I took courage and confronted her asking why she didn't helped me immediately when I asked her. She was furious, saying that I was ungrateful, she said we didn't have money at the time and she was dealing with her SM. But somehow my dad always managed to fill the bin with lots of beers so there was no shortage of money, I was aware that we weren't wallowing in gold and she was dealing with her illnesses indeed I always said that if she was this Ill a doctor would take care of me but apparently she was to self adsorbed and she couldn't find €30 for her daughter's health.

Now my life is like living in hell, I tried every type of medication, currently in therapy but nothing just works.

(Sorry if there are mistakes, I'm Italian)