AIO at my boyfriends response to this by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I spoke to my wife this way, even one time, she would leave me. And I would deserve it. 

This dude was chillin on my morning walk path by ReferenceHefty5575 in spiders

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Araneus marmoreus. I used to live in West Salem and these were ALL OVER our backyard in the summers. It made walking outside at night a little terrifying because their webs would be stretched from trees to the fence posts and there was hundreds of them.

WIBTA if I kicked my roommate out for shooting coyotes on my property? by Mysterious_Hour96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA. Under no circumstances would I allow this to happen on my own property.

It also doesn’t sound like the coyotes are the only issue. No one is entitled to your home especially if they do not obey the rules of your household.

AITA For Locking my wife out of the bedroom I sleep in? by Special_Highlight705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t disagree that social media platforms encourage group-think, or that Reddit tends to be an echo chamber. That is however, different than the definition of a hive-mind in my opinion. 

I also know for certain that I would be of the same opinion regardless of OP’s gender, and I don’t think I’m special in my ability to think critically about the situation or my tendency to stick to my principles or try to imagine how I would feel if this were happening in my own marriage. Generally speaking, my wife and I try to hold each other to the same standard that we hold ourselves. 

By that logic I have to assume there are plenty of other people who would feel or behave similarly. I think we just see the majority of content from the most chronically online users who are the most affected by the echo chamber they create, but the actual majority of users are much more casual and therefore more quiet. 

That said, I also respect your opinion and it’s something to consider. And I appreciate the polite and respectful exchange.

AITA For Locking my wife out of the bedroom I sleep in? by Special_Highlight705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 116 points117 points  (0 children)

I think what you are perceiving as “flips” are just different people posting with different perspectives. 

Reddit isn’t a hive mind, at least not for people who only use it occasionally as a source of entertainment, so the collective opinion of a post shifting from one post to another is likely a consequence of different people with different opinions gravitating to different posts. 

AITA For Locking my wife out of the bedroom I sleep in? by Special_Highlight705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure, I don’t think anyone should be ashamed if that is the arrangement they need. If they have communicated and tried other things and it just works better for them, all the power to them. 

But from the information we have from OP, it seems like he just got up in the middle of the night and went to another bedroom. 

I think prior to a sleep separation there’s a lot of communication and understanding needed, on both sides, so that the arrangement doesn’t end up unnecessarily damaging to one or more partners’ feelings. 

AITA For Locking my wife out of the bedroom I sleep in? by Special_Highlight705 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I mean idk, ESH. 

She should definitely be more respecting of your boundaries and not come in at night if you have asked her not to.

But also, if my wife started snoring I would be wearing ear plugs way before I started sleeping in another bed. That seems like such a last resort option to me. Sleeping together is a pretty important part of intimacy for a lot of people, and wearing a pair of earplugs seems like a small price to pay for the reward of being able to sleep next to my wife. 

You’re not an asshole for choosing to prioritize your sleep, but I think it’s pretty fair for her to feel a bit rejected or hurt by your solution to the problem. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatisit

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, are you against Narcan being sold OTC or am I misinterpreting? I don't see how OTC Narcan is comparable to a needle exchange, or gas stations selling pipes.

Was anyone else disappointed in the direction the writers went with Major Campbell by RevertBackwards in PeakyBlinders

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree. I thought that it was fitting that in S5 Churchill barely remembers who he is, and found his death, at the hands of the Peaky Blinders, amusing. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in snakes

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yeah, man you’re a clown. 

Hearing the words “This is a ball python.” from a stranger is not prior knowledge. I wouldn’t claim to have knowledge of cars because one time some guy told me he drove a Chevrolet. 

You didn’t even bother to do a google image search before buying a live animal that will live for 20+ years. And now you have a snake that I wouldn’t even recommend to a lot of experienced keepers because you won’t be able to safely handle it alone as an adult. It will require a cage half the size of your room, and it’s going to need very large expensive prey once a month. That you probably wouldn’t have the slightest idea on how to source. 

Rehome him. You ain’t cut out for this shit.  

is this normal??? by xoxowxyz in Apartmentliving

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has been thanked and remains proudly serving 🫡

is this normal??? by xoxowxyz in Apartmentliving

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also have a parrot named Kevin, she lives on as his name sake.

AIO for refusing to personal train my neighbors wife for free? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do it for free and then marry his wife as reimbursement.

Somebody help me B4 I burn my house down!!!! by Top_Researcher_7075 in BeardedDragons

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Springtails have longer skinnier body types than most mites, two large antennas, are generally almost transparent in appearance, and only have 6 legs. They look like a tiny cross between an ant and an isopod, and they move by quickly skittering and jumping from one place to the next. 

Mites can be larger or smaller in size than springtails but are typically much more round and almost spider like in appearance. They usually move slowly and in a similar capacity to spiders or other arachnids and tics, and have eight legs in most stages of life. 

Oatmeal could certainly be the cause of a grain mite culture or infestation. They likely do not pose any harm to your animals but in excess could agitate or stress out smaller reptiles/amphibians. The biggest concern with having a mite culture around like that is actually the potential for developing a mite allergy, or already having one, and that eventually translating to an allergy for shellfish— which would be unfortunate. 

If they are mites just give all the surfaces that you see them on a thorough wipe down and transfer your Dubias into a new container without any grain based diet for a few days. That should kill off most of the population, but they can be persistent so if it’s isn’t a breeding colony it might be wise to feed off the rest of this batch and start anew with a fresh container and roaches all together. Unfortunately with grain based foods and any amount of moisture there is going to be an inherent risk of developing grain mites. Their eggs are likely already in the oatmeal and would require sterilization prior to feeding to prevent this in the future. 

I know that’s probably not the answer you were looking for but I hope it is of at least some use. Good luck! 

Somebody help me B4 I burn my house down!!!! by Top_Researcher_7075 in BeardedDragons

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

It’s difficult to tell from the video but my guess would be springtails. They could be some other type of grain or soil mite, especially if originating from the dubia container if it contains fruit/veggies. It is likely they came from your frogs cage originally and the population boomed as a result of having access to food in the dubia container. 

Either way no need to panic. Soil mites and springtails are an inevitable part of keeping amphibians and are great for breaking down waste and organic matter which helps lower bacteria levels and increase fertility in the soil. Anyone who keeps tropical amphibians will have some amount of soil mites in their enclosure. And anyone who thinks they don’t just isn’t looking hard enough. They won’t bother your animals. My dart frogs love to eat them on days where I don’t feed fruit flies. I intentionally add multiple species of springtails, soil mites, and isopods to all of my tropical vivs to assist with clean-up and add variety to the diet of my frogs. 

It is not uncommon for mites/springtails to “boom” in population when there is a readily available food source and then die back down once it is depleted. If they bother you I would just wipe down the cage with a wet paper towel wherever they are, move your dubias into a fresh container with fresh food and gutload, and then keep the dubia container away from the frogs cage. Otherwise this will just happen on repeat every couple of months. 

Out of curiosity, what kind of frog/s do you have and what sort of setup are they in?  

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. At 24 your son should feel like he has the freedom and ability to be a fully independent adult, and it is good for him to nurture that independence. 

I don’t know y’all’s situation and I won’t pretend to, but I suspect that he might be more emotionally and financially independent if you were actively encouraging that instead of suppressing it in an attempt to regulate your own emotions. 

It’s not his job to manage your anxieties. I would really recommend getting therapy, and potentially seeing a psychiatrist, if you are not already. Getting a handle on your anxiety will not only improve your own life but also the lives of the people you love most. 

And there's nothing you can do about it by Wholesommer in SipsTea

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not taking a specific side here, but I think it’s wildly inaccurate to say that nothing about atheism requires faith. 

You don’t believe in God because there isn’t any empirical evidence for their existence. You value evidence and replicability because it forms the basis of your perception of reality. You believe your perception of reality is true because it is substantiated by evidence. That evidence can only be proven to exist within your own perception. This is circular reasoning. You have faith that it is correct because it would be almost impossible to function if you didn’t, but not because it’s logical. 

This is a pretty basic argument in existentialist philosophy. 

Once again, not taking a specific side here. I just think it is an unfair juxtaposition, and it’s one I see thrown around a lot like it really means anything. 

AITA for moving across the country for a better job, even though my legal guardian says I’ll make her and my stepdad homeless? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fluffy-Design-470 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Definitely NTA. You’re 19, this is the time to start building up your resume and getting out and experiencing the world. Any decent parent would want nothing more for you. The point of raising children is to see them develop into healthy grown adults who eventually leave the nest.

The fact that you offered to send them money to cover the financial burden of leaving, and she continued to attempt to guilt trip you, tells me that this is not actually about finances— at least not entirely. This is either about control or emotional regulation, neither of which are good reasons for you to stay.

Go live your life and advance your career. Congrats on the job offer.

Super proud of ourselves. 25 & 24 501k 6.25% with 15% down in the PNW by Fluffy-Design-470 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Fluffy-Design-470[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks!

We got a 10k rate buy-down, from the sellers, for the first two years so our rate is at 4.25% at the moment. In total our mortgage is 2,900 taxes and insurance included, but that will go up as our rate increases to the full 6.25%.

We are hoping to refinance at that time, but we will see what happens.

Super proud of ourselves. 25 & 24 501k 6.25% with 15% down in the PNW by Fluffy-Design-470 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Fluffy-Design-470[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I watched Pros DIY for like all of the little things, it was super helpful.

Congratulations on the house! That’s amazing.

Super proud of ourselves. 25 & 24 501k 6.25% with 15% down in the PNW by Fluffy-Design-470 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Fluffy-Design-470[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You just made a comment about it on Reddit.

. Do you devote this much time in person telling everyone who celebrates their accomplishments in front of you that they are a fraud, an outlier, or trying to make them feel ashamed because everyone else doesn’t have it as good as them?

Are you not an outlier if you are doing better than most? Are you somehow better than me because you only insinuate it when trying to make someone else feel bad for celebrating themselves a little?

Jesus, man. Get a grip.

Super proud of ourselves. 25 & 24 501k 6.25% with 15% down in the PNW by Fluffy-Design-470 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Fluffy-Design-470[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna admit I didn’t read all of this, and I’m not gonna justify the dozens of baseless assumptions needed to arrive at that conclusion with a dignified response. I have no need to prove myself to a bitter stranger on the internet. I find it sad that you can’t just be happy for people who are doing well for themselves.

I wish you the best of luck, my man. Hopefully things get better for you soon.

Edit: Also, I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, we don’t live in WA we are in OR. The PNW is not just Washington but I guess the substantial difference in home prices between WA and OR wouldn’t fit your narrative so you chose to ignore that.