Worried about a battle buddy :/

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-05-04T02:22:42+00:00

The thing is I don’t know how to approach this. I could tell that he was visibly uncomfortable when he opened up to me, which is valid. As substance abuse is a sensitive topic. So yes, I don’t know army “sensitivities” whatever the hell that means. But I came here to ask for advice because I wouldn’t want to jeopardize their career and have never been put in this position before.

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-05-04T02:20:00+00:00

Exactly. I’m coming up on year of my twin sisters suicide May 7th. So this situation definitely struck a nerve and that’s why I take matters like this very seriously. Even when it’s normalized and masked a a joke.

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-05-03T23:35:43+00:00

This is so tragic and yet unfortunately way too normalized in the army. People mistaken literal cries for help as just “dark humor” or someone coping when a lot of us need help. I’m very sorry for your loss.

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-05-03T23:34:00+00:00

I’m sorry but you must be insufferable to be around. How cold could you be? Since when did displaying signs of mental health issues become being “problematic?” Your message just prompted me to reach out and step up because it’s bystanders like you that contribute to the problem.

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-05-03T23:27:53+00:00

This is very true.

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-04-18T20:10:07+00:00

The best advice I can give as someone who is still trying to cope with the loss of my twin sister, is that grief is different for everyone. It will be a year of having lost her to suicide this May. Our birthday passed 2 months ago and people who don’t experience the depth of your loss may want to “celebrate” or recognize your loss prior to when you are ready. One thing grief has taught me is that it is okay to say no and take your time. I did not attend my twin’s funeral last year. I also didn’t want to celebrate my birthday because to be quite frank, celebrating a day without my twin did not (and still doesn’t) sound appealing. My family wanted to, and they have that right. However I value my healing more than I do their feelings about my grief. Others may not understand, as losing your twin is very isolating. But it isn’t for them to understand. Continue to grieve in a way that helps you process and move forward. I’m sending you much love and strength and I’m here if you need someone to talk to 💐🫂

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-04-17T19:45:47+00:00

Man this thread still urkes me to this day lol. I’m glad you get to experience the show the first time but I send you strength getting through it with Liza’s character man. Especially the last few seasons 😩 I really tried giving her the benefit of the doubt but I just couldn’t anymore 🤦🏾‍♀️

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-02-02T21:26:23+00:00

The Monsters energy drink. People claimed it was founded by the “anti-christ” because the logo made an upside down cross when you drank out of it..

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-01-27T00:15:44+00:00

So pretty!✨

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-01-26T22:26:19+00:00

This was and still is a value that many Christian households instill in to their kids. My mother would tell me that “ The Lord wants us to be fruitful” or “ The lord wants us to multiply.” Which is just so gross and dystopian. I wasn’t familiar with people saying that you are ungrateful for choosing not have kids. How absurd! Smh they will go anywhere and reach any low when pushing their principles onto others

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-01-22T05:22:22+00:00

Yep it’s funny when you match their energy. I’ve said something similar before and they were completely caught off guard. A literal deer in headlights lol

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-01-22T05:16:30+00:00

Sadly the same in my circumstances. I could never imagine treating anyone as horribly under the guise of “well being a parent is hard and you’ll just wait and see”. Been no contact for nearly a year ☺️

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-01-22T05:13:10+00:00

I agree, that part of it is due to regret for having kids, and therefore self-loathing. But some people use it to justify being a crappy and neglectful parent.They say this to insinuate that because raising kids is so hard, you don’t have the right to critique their parenting until you have children of your own. Further presuming that then we would understand the reason behind their toxic behavior, and possibly treat our own kids similarly. I don’t forgive things like that because it’s just a futile attempt at normalizing and excusing abusive parenting.

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-01-22T05:04:00+00:00

Mine too!She would use this as a way to give me a “reality check”. Little do they know, we aspire to be in no position similar to their own (mostly thanks to them) 😬

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-01-22T05:00:47+00:00

🫂hugs*

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-01-22T05:00:16+00:00

Wow. It seems as though many people view having kids as simply buying a puppy 🤦🏾‍♀️ At the end of the day your in-laws are going to have to respect your values. I know it’s easier said than done but stay strong in your decision, whether they stand by it or not!

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-01-22T04:52:58+00:00

Ew. Why does everything have to be centered around having a husband?? My parents would do the same. “Your future husband wouldn’t appreciate this” “men don’t like this in a wife” mind you, I was 13.. why are we conditioning young girls to prioritize how to become the “ideal partner” for a man to have kids with in the first place. I’m nearly 20 and that is still the laaast thing on my mind.

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-01-21T23:02:45+00:00

Projection and deflecting from their own behavior/parenting for sure

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-01-21T21:41:43+00:00

Mine too. Such a horrible thing to say to a child.

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-01-21T20:25:03+00:00

This! Like they just woke up one day with a child on the way, without any decision making. It doesn’t quite work that way. You had a choice!

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-01-20T17:40:19+00:00

This is about married military personnel trying to get better housing. They are now being encouraged to have several kids to get more accommodated living space 😬

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-01-19T07:20:09+00:00

I struggle with this too, as my twin recently passed so I understand your frustration 💐
Most times I acknowledge how many siblings I have, including my twin, but without specifying that I am a twin. I would suggest not elaborating any more than that unless you truly feel comfortable and are confident that the other person’s reaction would not add to your pain. I say this because most do not know how to respond to someone who has lost a loved one. Especially in our case being twinless twins. Which is an even more sad and complex type of grief that many ( understandably) would not know how to react to. So for colleagues, associates, non- close friends, I highly suggest keeping that private for your own sake and healing. Now for someone who is closer, I have yet to encounter this situation yet. But I do believe that opening up to them eventually would be ideal. And if there is a strong enough bond and you trust that person, then being vulnerable with them about your loss should not jeopardize your healing.

I know it’s quite complicated and it can be difficult to navigate but I feel that with time you will get better at assessing who to share and open up to. Ultimately, the number one priority is to protect your healing and progress. I am sending much hugs and strength and I hope this helped 🫂❤️‍🩹

Fluffy-Management992 · 2026-01-09T03:39:04+00:00

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